Oh, Bobo.  I am so sorry that happened.  I agree with Cat, consider grief counseling.  You are in my prayers.

You're in my prayers as well.  :\'(

Howard

Well, twelve hours have passed since I last said anything on here..

I don't know quite how to say this. I'm going to make as best of it while blinding myself with tears as I can.

A very deep friend of mine has commited suicide. She was fourteen, and expecting a child. I was talking to her on the phone the moment she did it. It's hurt me so much. I've phoned my girlfriend about it, and she's ripping herself up about it as much as I am. I just feel so helpless now.

So I don't feel so good.


My condolensces, Bobo.  I can only imagine how badly you must feel right now, having lost such a close friend.  :\'(

Do not be afraid to seek out a grief counsellor.

LB

:o

I'm so sorry to hear this, Bobo!! :( You have my sincerest condolences. This must have been awfully traumatic for you, and I'm definitely with those who have suggest you seek grief counselling. It will do you a lot of good to have someone help you deal with your loss.

My thoughts are with you...

Absolutely Vile

I am so sorry to hear of your loss,Bobo. You are in my prayers and thoughts...

Cat and Carlos:

Thankyou, as ever, for your eloquent relief. What's hardest to cope with is that I'm sure something could have been done. But I'm better today than I was yesterday. I still don't think I'm going to get over it easily, though.

It's something that, with the right help and support, I can understand. What's amazing to think, is how close we got in such a short time. But to throw everything away... just doesn't make sense.

We are so sorry Bobo. We know any words that we may say can not ease the pain you are feeling. Maybe you and your girlfriend can help each other deal with the grief you are both feeling. If we can in anyway help you through this, please feel free to PM us but also concider seeking grief counciling. Again we offer both of you our heartfelt condolences and are here for you if you would wish it.

With our regeret for your loss,
Cat and Carlos


Thank you too, Bobby. Stuff happens, but stuff sucks. I don't know any other way of putting it.

Why would she do it? I guess she was looking for the shock she would (and has) given me, and the relief of being where I get the impression she wanted to be.

I don't know. I'm still struggling to understand what went on, and trying to sort through all the memories and everything she's helped me with over the last four months or so.

Thank you too.


Oh man! That is awful! I have no way of consoling you, Bobo. I am really sorry. Why would she commit such an act while on the phone to you? Again, Bobo, I am so sorry to hear such distressing news and I hope you will heal in time.


Thank you Dagwood. At the moment, I don't really know how I should be feeling, so I'm going to get myself together before seeking counsel in anyone. I think that's the most important thing of all.


Oh, Bobo. I am so sorry that happened. I agree with Cat, consider grief counseling. You are in my prayers.


Thanks Howard. Hope and general coolness passed back your way.


You're in my prayers as well. :\'(

Howard


Thanks LyricBoy. It's hard to explain quite how hard it's actually hit me, despite me not displaying it well here, it's truly hurting inside.


My condolensces, Bobo. I can only imagine how badly you must feel right now, having lost such a close friend. :\'(

Do not be afraid to seek out a grief counsellor.

LB


Part of what I'm trying to deal with is the trauma of it. Last night I totally flipped out in terms of what I was thinking, about simply never being able to contact her again, never seeing her again, never hearing her again. I know what she wanted was to be happy, but I didn't know truly how this could have been.

I'm trying to remain philosophical about it, but I'm struggling to find words to explain how I feel, and feel it at the same time, without totally driving myself mental.

Thankyou AV


:o

I'm so sorry to hear this, Bobo!! :( You have my sincerest condolences. This must have been awfully traumatic for you, and I'm definitely with those who have suggest you seek grief counselling. It will do you a lot of good to have someone help you deal with your loss.

My thoughts are with you...

Absolutely Vile


Thank you, Criminally Vulgar.


I am so sorry to hear of your loss,Bobo. You are in my prayers and thoughts...


Sorry guys. Hate to bring this thread down this low, but thankyou for everything. It's funny how a group like this can so easily help people get themselves together when they most need to.

Be safe, everyone.
Matt

Thank you too, Bobby. Stuff happens, but stuff sucks. I don't know any other way of putting it.

Why would she do it? I guess she was looking for the shock she would (and has) given me, and the relief of being where I get the impression she wanted to be.

I don't know. I'm still struggling to understand what went on, and trying to sort through all the memories and everything she's helped me with over the last four months or so.

Thank you too.


Sorry guys. Hate to bring this thread down this low, but thankyou for everything. It's funny how a group like this can so easily help people get themselves together when they most need to.

Be safe, everyone.
Matt


That's a bit lousy though if she wanted to give you a shock! Especially coming from a friend.

Regardless, we are all here will listen to you, Bobo. You are a great person and we have a lot of time for you.

Take care, man.  ;)

Well, twelve hours have passed since I last said anything on here..

I don't know quite how to say this. I'm going to make as best of it while blinding myself with tears as I can.

A very deep friend of mine has committed suicide. She was fourteen, and expecting a child. I was talking to her on the phone the moment she did it. It's hurt me so much. I've phoned my girlfriend about it, and she's ripping herself up about it as much as I am. I just feel so helpless now.

So I don't feel so good.


I have been close to where you are. I have known a couple of suicides, one was my closest friend,
another a guy who loved me, and even though it has been years I have tears in my eyes now thinking
about it, and knowing what you are going through.  It takes time, and it takes talk, and even though
you know that you are not responsible for what they did, you will always wonder if there is something
more that you could have done.  There isn't.  Remember the good parts, remember them. It will
get easier. 

Well, twelve hours have passed since I last said anything on here..

I don't know quite how to say this. I'm going to make as best of it while blinding myself with tears as I can.

A very deep friend of mine has commited suicide. She was fourteen, and expecting a child. I was talking to her on the phone the moment she did it. It's hurt me so much. I've phoned my girlfriend about it, and she's ripping herself up about it as much as I am. I just feel so helpless now.

So I don't feel so good.


Bobo,

I am so very sorry to hear of this, and of your hurt and distress. I can't begin to imagine the depth of it.

It is very sad.... :(

Bobo ... you poor, poor love.  You and your friend are in my thoughts and prayers.  Let us hope that the peace your friend so desperately sought is now hers. :( :\'(

Matt,

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.  It's hard to lose someone you are so close with.  We are all here if you need to talk, cry, vent, laugh...whatever.





I do agree with Cheer. I'm sure that most of us on this board will be willing to help you as much as we can. Please Bobo, don't be afraid to ask us-and don't be afraid to lean on us.




Cat

I do agree with Cheer. I'm sure that most of us on this board will be willing to help you as much as we can. Please Bobo, don't be afraid to ask us-and don't be afraid to lean on us.




Cat


I had a childhood friend (and neighbour down the road) who committed suicide when he was sixteen. We were all going to the same school. It was very traumatic for me and everybody else. I can certainly empathise with how you feel. I know what it's like to lose a friend to suicide.

Absolutely Vile

Bobo...I am so, so sorry to hear that your friend decided to take her life.  I can only imagine the emptiness you must be feeling right now.  Be strong, and please know that I am thinking about you.



Karen

Those good times were wonderful times, and though they didn't last long, I know they will remain good in my heart for a long time yet.

Thankyou for the good wishes, Danoota.

I have been close to where you are. I have known a couple of suicides, one was my closest friend,
another a guy who loved me, and even though it has been years I have tears in my eyes now thinking
about it, and knowing what you are going through. It takes time, and it takes talk, and even though
you know that you are not responsible for what they did, you will always wonder if there is something
more that you could have done. There isn't. Remember the good parts, remember them. It will
get easier.


Thanks manda. It's certainly something I've never really had to cope with, and as such it's going to be hard for as long as the thought lives in my heart and in my mind.


Bobo,

I am so very sorry to hear of this, and of your hurt and distress. I can't begin to imagine the depth of it.

It is very sad.... :(


That peace is hers. And even though she is no longer among us, I know where she now is, and that gives me considerable comfort.


Bobo ... you poor, poor love. You and your friend are in my thoughts and prayers. Let us hope that the peace your friend so desperately sought is now hers. :( :\'(


Thankyou. There's a lot of emotion, and I don't know when it's going to climax, but time is there.


Matt,

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. It's hard to lose someone you are so close with. We are all here if you need to talk, cry, vent, laugh...whatever.


Advice well taken, Cat. Peace to you and thanks for the wishes.


I do agree with Cheer. I'm sure that most of us on this board will be willing to help you as much as we can. Please Bobo, don't be afraid to ask us-and don't be afraid to lean on us.

Cat


Thank you, AV.


I had a childhood friend (and neighbour down the road) who committed suicide when he was sixteen. We were all going to the same school. It was very traumatic for me and everybody else. I can certainly empathise with how you feel. I know what it's like to lose a friend to suicide.

Absolutely Vile


Thank you too, Karen. Thoughts reciprocated.


Bobo...I am so, so sorry to hear that your friend decided to take her life. I can only imagine the emptiness you must be feeling right now. Be strong, and please know that I am thinking about you.

Karen


Time for me to stop hijacking the thread with bad news. Happy stuff please..

Time for me to stop hijacking the thread with bad news. Happy stuff please..



Please don't feel that you are hijacking this thread. We are all concerned for you.



Cat

I'm gonna do some packing.



Howard

Had to work today....MORE dizziness than ever before :-\\

In the words of Brain:

"The same thing I do every day..!"

Had to work today....MORE dizziness than ever before :-\\


NO!  I thought you were taking meds, Mark.  Are they not helping?  :(

NO!  I thought you were taking meds, Mark.  Are they not helping?  :(
I'm going in tomorrow to set up an appointment with a specialist (E.N.T.).....but in the meantime...this really sucks :-\\

In the words of Brain:

"The same thing I do every day..!"


Take over the world? ;D

Absolutely Vile

I am going to work late.  Our server is acting up so the computers aren't working.  Hopefully they get it fixed so I can work today.

Just went down to the school to meet the teacher and see the classroom.  It's important when you
have a sped child to show up early(and often).

Went to the gym.  Cleaned house.  Went to lunch with some girlfriends to celebrate a 40th birthday.  15 year old daughter's social tonight so she invited 10 friends over.  They are a great group of kids.

I'm going to put away the stuff I accumulated last night from this thing I went to. It was for pregnant people and their families, and they gave us a bunch of diapers, diaper wipes, onesies, and other things that will come in handy. :)

Then I'm gonna try and nap, perhaps. Haven't been sleeping well. :P

I've got to do some grocery shopping, and then...who knows? Most likely post on this and the Ultravox forum, then probably watch TV, listen to some music, maybe start another drawing or fix up the one I thought I'd finished. (Naaah...I'd probably only end up ruining it that way.) :P

Absolutely Vile

After taking an extra trip to the orthodontist to fix some badly adhered braces I got to work then go home and hang drywall all long weekend.  Someone convinced me that remodelling a 3 years house was a good idea...

Wouldn't you know it!

Take over the world? ;D

Absolutely Vile

I'm still waiting to take a nap. I know as soon as I lie down and start drifting, my mother is going to call to see how I am. So I'm waiting for her to call. ::)

I'm still waiting to take a nap. I know as soon as I lie down and start drifting, my mother is going to call to see how I am. So I'm waiting for her to call. ::)
Just as long as you take good care of yourself and Don't forget to turn on your phone tomorrow, in that order, then I will be happy :)

Called a couple of friends I haven't talked to in a while. I also ordered some flowers for a friend who just had surgery.



Cat

I am going to clean the house again.  I need a housekeeper.

I am going to clean the house again.  I need a housekeeper.
Hey Dagny, I need a job and am willing to relocate :D

I forgot to mention in my last post on this thread that we are going to have some friends over for dinner-who we haven't seen in a while. This just seems to be a day to catch up with old friends.  ;D




Cat

If you are willing to work for thanks, come on down. ;)

If you are willing to work for thanks, come on down. ;)
"Thanks" doesn't pay the bills, Dagny....otherwise I'd be there before you could say "Cubs Win!"  :)

I am going to clean the house again.  I need a housekeeper.


G*d I hate housework, and the people who boast about having floors so clean you
"can eat off of them", well would you really want to?  I did some shopping at the local
butchers, went down to look at the waves at the beach(it was low tide, there weren't any)
and went for a swim to wake me up, it made me tired. Now I'm making an upside down
cake for the Labor Day picnic tomorrow,  and eagerly anticipate a Cubs/Red Sox World
Series wherein Cubs take it in the seventh on a HOMAH by NOMAH ;)

That would be great, Danoota.  The Red Sox wouldn't be very happy, would they? ;)

I had to fix my sister's computer and reinstall XP. :P It sucked. RockandRollFan got to hear firsthand how annoyed I was getting with this. ;D

That would be great, Danoota.  The Red Sox wouldn't be very happy, would they? ;)


Yeah, I think the fans they actually love the misery, gives them something to drink about ;D

That would be great, Danoota.  The Red Sox wouldn't be very happy, would they? ;)


Yeah, I think the fans they actually love the misery, gives them something to drink about ;D

I cleaned up after snobby rich people and their stinky diaper wearin' babies. I'm a house keeper at a chi-chi Golf club/resort.

A friend from work had a birthday party for her 7 year old granddaughter.  I took my daughter.

Labor Day pool party, too cool for the pool, but never too cool for food, friends,
and talktalk. Wish you were here :)

A friend from work had a birthday party for her 7 year old granddaughter.  I took my daughter.


That must be have been lovely. Parties take me back to my childhood.  ::)

Melt, probably. Gotta love a heatwave AFTER summer. ::)

Melt, probably. Gotta love a heatwave AFTER summer. ::)


Yep! We are appreciating the Indian Summer (at last).

How are you folks living in Florida coping with Hurricane Frances? I hope you are all coping fine.  :)

Unfortunately, nothing fun  :(  Had to work today, now both daughters are gone for the night, and I'm all alone  :\'(  So, probably watch some sappy, tear jerker movie and feel sorry for myself!  ;)

Unfortunately, nothing fun  :(  Had to work today, now both daughters are gone for the night, and I'm all alone  :\'(  So, probably watch some sappy, tear jerker movie and feel sorry for myself!  ;)


What movie do you fancy watching?

What movie do you fancy watching?




I usually get sucked into those sappy Lifetime Movie Channel movies. You know the one, guy leaves girl, girl gets mad, goes pyscho, kills guy, and throws his body in the lake! But wait, there's more. Guy isn't really dead!! It was his twin! Ha ha! Or someone gets amnesia and has to learn all over again who her husband and kids are, they're all about the same etc., etc., etc.,........ :D

I usually get sucked into those sappy Lifetime Movie Channel movies. You know the one, guy leaves girl, girl gets mad, goes pyscho, kills guy, and throws his body in the lake! But wait, there's more. Guy isn't really dead!! It was his twin! Ha ha! Or someone gets amnesia and has to learn all over again who her husband and kids are, they're all about the same etc., etc., etc.,........ :D


LOL. They are usually the ones with incredibly long film titles as well. The film you described is actually called 'Girl gets psycho because boyfriend left and kills him but it is his twin'.

You know what, Bobby? That movie could really get off the ground if I try hard enough..! And the title is perfectly marketable.

LOL. They are usually the ones with incredibly long film titles as well. The film you described is actually called 'Girl gets psycho because boyfriend left and kills him but it is his twin'.


Well, today is Monday, and yesterday the love of my life scheduled a trip to come down and see me for the last week of the summer holidays. And despite my having to shield her from a conversation I was having with an emigrated ex-girlfriend, I feel everything has worked out just fine.

That said, I gotta sleep on the floor less often, it's a bumpy ol' thing!

As for what I'm going to do for the rest of the day, draw myself bottles of cider, play the piano, and see to it that we have the best time of our lives. Maybe in reverse order..

Up early to watch the sunrise (Can't sleep)....then I'll TRY and go back to sleep ::)

I've been trying to catch up with things after being away from work again.  Last week I was on a Union organised course looking at our new agreement on job evaluations and stuff.  It was quite interesting.

As well as catching up on my normal stuff I've been helping pack stuff in another building here at work.  Almost everything needs to be put into storage or moved to a new location.  The building is about to be gutted and have all the asbestos removed.  Originally they were supposed to start work in late June/early July but they are starting next week.  The students arrive 3 weeks later!  So I'm going to be sharing my office and work area with another technician and trying to teach 120 students in a lab space for about 30!  should be lots of fun.

Nothing, but figure out how to enjoy today and tomorrow b/c my son returns to school.

Tanya

Everything today worked out as I forecast it would eighteen hours ago. And now, to get off to sleep..!

Submitting fanfic everywhere I've been invited to online....

You know what, Bobby? That movie could really get off the ground if I try hard enough..! And the title is perfectly marketable.


As marketable as the film title; 'The Incredibly Strange Creatures who stopped living and became Crazy Mixed up Zombies'?

As marketable as the film title; 'The Incredibly Strange Creatures who stopped living and became Crazy Mixed up Zombies'?



I think I have seen that movie. No wait, that was when I was working at data entry.  ;)




Cat

I think I have seen that movie. No wait, that was when I was working at data entry.  ;)


Ah! I didn't know you worked in data entry, Catwoman. The title does describe the ethos of our work-place.  ;D

I think I have seen that movie. No wait, that was when I was working at data entry. ;)


Cat


I work data entry.  Sounds like you worked in our shop. ;)