I'm I the only Gay guy on this site?

Far from it bud! :D

I didn't know you were gay. I remember I gave you a long winded explanation of a gay pun ("Drake started from the bottom"). Mess. ;D

Yes ;) mostly masculine. lol I remember  ;D

Yes ;) mostly masculine. lol I remember  ;D


Nice! I mastered straight-acting in high school, but I still got a feminine part of me on the inside.  :-[

Same Here. My feminine side is screaming to came out.

I'm a proud lesbian, though I don't really fit in with the mainstream lesbian community due to my feminimity, disinterest in nightlife, and hopeless romanticism.

Same Here. My feminine side is screaming to came out.


That's hot! ;D

Order Katy Perry's hottest new album WITNESS on iTunes for $9.99 today, and let that inner gay out! http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v232/korn0818/ATRL_Smilies_All/atrlers/jonny_zpsc73391c5.png

just kidding, don't do that.

I'm a proud lesbian, though I don't really fit in with the mainstream lesbian community due to my feminimity, disinterest in nightlife, and hopeless romanticism.


How's the search going these days?

This is now the official LGBTQ thread.  :-X

Far from it bud! :D

I didn't know you were gay. I remember I gave you a long winded explanation of a gay pun ("Drake started from the bottom"). Mess. ;D


Do you think Drake is?....I mean he comes off as such a lady's man??  :o

Do you think Drake is?....I mean he comes off as such a lady's man??  :o


Yeah, okay
You need to get done, done, done, done at work, come over
We just need to slow the motion
Don't give that away to no one
Long distance, I need you
When I see potential I just gotta see it through
If you had a twin, I would still choose you
I don't wanna rush into it, if it's too soon
But I know you need to get done, done, done, done
At work come over

Sorry if I'm way less friendly
I got niggas tryna end me, oh
I spilled all my emotions tonight, I'm sorry
Rollin', rollin', rollin', rollin', rollin'
How many more shots until you're rollin'?

We just need a face to face
You could pick the time and the place
You spent some time away
Now you need to forward and give me all the...
Work, work, work, work, work, work

We just need to slow the motion
Don't give that away to no one
Long distance, I need you
When I see potential I just gotta see it through
If you had a twin, I would still choose you
I don't wanna rush into it, if it's too soon
But I know you need to get done, done, done, done
At work come over

Sorry if I'm way less friendly
I got niggas tryna end me, oh
I spilled all my emotions tonight, I'm sorry
Rollin', rollin', rollin', rollin', rollin'
How many more shots until you're rollin'?

We just need a face to face
You could pick the time and the place
You spent some time away
Now you need to forward and give me all the...
Work, work, work, work, work, work


Sounds like a meeting on Craigslist!  ;D

How's the search going these days?

Badly. I had an awful evening last Thursday, when I stated, during an icebreaker, that my perfect day would end with a romantic dine-out, to which there was an awkward pause followed by the moderator telling me it wasn't appropriate for me to mention it. There's just such a jarring disconnect between me and the rest of the San Diego lesbian community, like I'm operating on completely different brainwaves.

I'm hoping things will look up when I more specifically explore the small subcommunty of other femmes, which is basically how I met Ashley. I just joined a meetup group based in LA, so I'm hoping, when I get the time, I can explore that. It's likely other cities have more diverse lesbian communities than San Diego's one-note culture that doesn't resonate with me.

Sounds like a meeting on Craigslist!  ;D


Don't tell anyone I told you this, but everyone in Toronto has Drake on booty call  :-X

That's what the song Hotline Bling is about.


You used to call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
Call me on my cell phone
Late night when you need my love
And I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing
I know when that hotline bling
That can only mean one thing

Ever since I left the city, you
Got a reputation for yourself now
Everybody knows and I feel left out
Boy, you got me down, you got me stressed out
‘Cause ever since I left the city, you
Started wearing less and goin' out more
Glasses of champagne out on the dance floor
Hangin' with some boys I never seen before

Badly. I had an awful evening last Thursday, when I stated, during an icebreaker, that my perfect day would end with a romantic dine-out, to which there was an awkward pause followed by the moderator telling me it wasn't appropriate for me to mention it. There's just such a jarring disconnect between me and the rest of the San Diego lesbian community, like I'm operating on completely different brainwaves.

I'm hoping things will look up when I more specifically explore the small subcommunty of other femmes, which is basically how I met Ashley. I just joined a meetup group based in LA, so I'm hoping, when I get the time, I can explore that. It's likely other cities have more diverse lesbian communities than San Diego's one-note culture that doesn't resonate with me.


It's great that you looked somewhere else besides your own city. :)

Sometimes I don't even fit in with my own family, or my own age group. It was severely hard for me to talk to people before I turned 15. I had an old mind, an old soul, like a 45 year old.

Badly. I had an awful evening last Thursday, when I stated, during an icebreaker, that my perfect day would end with a romantic dine-out, to which there was an awkward pause followed by the moderator telling me it wasn't appropriate for me to mention it. There's just such a jarring disconnect between me and the rest of the San Diego lesbian community, like I'm operating on completely different brainwaves.

I'm hoping things will look up when I more specifically explore the small subcommunty of other femmes, which is basically how I met Ashley. I just joined a meetup group based in LA, so I'm hoping, when I get the time, I can explore that. It's likely other cities have more diverse lesbian communities than San Diego's one-note culture that doesn't resonate with me.


Oh, I remember reading about that in another thread. That must've been embarrassing. :(

Hopefully you can get past that and regain the confidence to find who you're looking for in LA. It was rather brave of you to go to that meetup, and now even to LA. That's more than I can muster. ;D I hope your efforts finally pay off. :)

Oh no, exodus deleted his account. I was hoping to get to know him better.  :\'(

Oh no, exodus deleted his account. I was hoping to get to know him better.  :\'(


He'll probably come on again with a different username.  :o

Nice! I mastered straight-acting in high school, but I still got a feminine part of me on the inside.  :-[


I'm mostly gay but don't feel I fit in with average gay guys.  I'm confused about my sexuality in a lot of ways.  I used to be more feminine but now I am very straight-acting.  Part of it is my conversion therapy and my repressive environment where I live but I think getting older might play a part.

I'm mostly gay but don't feel I fit in with average gay guys.  I'm confused about my sexuality in a lot of ways.  I used to be more feminine but now I am very straight-acting.  Part of it is my conversion therapy and my repressive environment where I live but I think getting older might play a part.


Sometimes that's just the way you act. Doesn't mean you're 'trying to be straight', or 'hiding something.'

He'll probably come on again with a different username.  :o


I hope so! Maybe I should post the message on a public board? He won't see it in the politics section as a guest.


I'm mostly gay but don't feel I fit in with average gay guys.  I'm confused about my sexuality in a lot of ways.  I used to be more feminine but now I am very straight-acting.  Part of it is my conversion therapy and my repressive environment where I live but I think getting older might play a part.


By "average" do you mean feminine? Or are there other reasons you feel you don't fit in anymore?

By "average" do you mean feminine? Or are there other reasons you feel you don't fit in anymore?


It's really complicated.  Things like the flirtiness with guys are a big part.  I used to be decent at it but now I interact with guys socially as a straight guy would.  I think some of it would re-emerge if I was around gay men regularly but living where I live, that's not something I can freely do.  Another thing is most gay guys seem to want to hook up when we first meet but I can't do it.  I have to get to know the person first.  Would I might need is something more like a FWB that could potentially evolve into something more permanent.

I hope so! Maybe I should post the message on a public board? He won't see it in the politics section as a guest.

By "average" do you mean feminine? Or are there other reasons you feel you don't fit in anymore?


:\'(  :\'(  :\'(  :\'(

It's really complicated.  Things like the flirtiness with guys are a big part.  I used to be decent at it but now I interact with guys socially as a straight guy would.  I think some of it would re-emerge if I was around gay men regularly but living where I live, that's not something I can freely do.  Another thing is most gay guys seem to want to hook up when we first meet but I can't do it.  I have to get to know the person first.  Would I might need is something more like a FWB that could potentially evolve into something more permanent.


Hmm, did you have male friends growing up? I remember you said you had one, but your parents forced you to stop seeing him.  :-\\

I completely understand what you're talking about though! It actually sounds like some of my past relationships (which, after reading your post at night, I had a dream about, and now I'm in a bad mood xD). Like, I want to be with a dude that I play video games with, order a pizza, drink some beer, like any normal male friendship, but we also just happen to cuddle and do extra things sometimes. More Bromance Plus than romance. I'd rather go out and wrap my arm around his neck than hold hands. I'd rather greet him with "'Sup man" rather than "Hello sweetheart" etc. I can think of a million other allégories ;D

Or at least, that's what I think you meant?

:\'(  :\'(  :\'(  :\'(


IMO I don't care what Hillary Clinton said, people should not be allowed to delete accounts. Like a wise man on this forum once said: "You can check out, but you may never leave."  :-X

Happy Pride, Everyone!  :)

Hmm, did you have male friends growing up? I remember you said you had one, but your parents forced you to stop seeing him.  :-\\

I completely understand what you're talking about though! It actually sounds like some of my past relationships (which, after reading your post at night, I had a dream about, and now I'm in a bad mood xD). Like, I want to be with a dude that I play video games with, order a pizza, drink some beer, like any normal male friendship, but we also just happen to cuddle and do extra things sometimes. More Bromance Plus than romance. I'd rather go out and wrap my arm around his neck than hold hands. I'd rather greet him with "'Sup man" rather than "Hello sweetheart" etc. I can think of a million other allégories ;D

Or at least, that's what I think you meant?


That is exactly what I am talking about! That would be my perfect relationship.  Wish I knew where to meet guys who are the same way.

Questioning who I am ATM. This thread might be interesting. Also made a post elsewhere online about this:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,224304.msg1986498.html#msg1986498

Happy Pride, Everyone!  :)


Thanks! You too. :D Are you going to the parade?


That is exactly what I am talking about! That would be my perfect relationship.  Wish I knew where to meet guys who are the same way.


Nintendo fanboy meetups!

Just kidding. I wish I knew too.


Questioning who I am ATM. This thread might be interesting. Also made a post elsewhere online about this:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,224304.msg1986498.html#msg1986498


Thanks for sharing this. I was confused at some of your posts before, but this post made it a lot more clear. I think I can understand you better now. :)

Thanks for sharing this. I was confused at some of your posts before, but this post made it a lot more clear. I think I can understand you better now. :)

Thank you for your concern, I'm just wondering if you have any opinions about this.

IMO I don't care what Hillary Clinton said, people should not be allowed to delete accounts. Like a wise man on this forum once said: "You can check out, but you may never leave."  :-X


I thought Hillary was a fembot pioneer.  :-X  :-X

Hmm, did you have male friends growing up? I remember you said you had one, but your parents forced you to stop seeing him.  :-\\
No, my parents didn't do anything.
I completely understand what you're talking about though! It actually sounds like some of my past relationships (which, after reading your post at night, I had a dream about, and now I'm in a bad mood xD). Like, I want to be with a dude that I play video games with, order a pizza, drink some beer, like any normal male friendship, but we also just happen to cuddle and do extra things sometimes. More Bromance Plus than romance. I'd rather go out and wrap my arm around his neck than hold hands. I'd rather greet him with "'Sup man" rather than "Hello sweetheart" etc. I can think of a million other allégories ;D

Or at least, that's what I think you meant?

Didn't you copy and paste that? Also, I'm wondering about your dream, and considering I've been reading some yaoi, I admit I might want this sort of relationship; granted, I don't actually feel comfortable doing this, and I think this may come from the fact that I had better relationships with men when I was young.

Thank you for your concern, I'm just wondering if you have any opinions about this.


Do you mean my opinion on your thoughts? Or do you mean my opinion on women being more beautiful?

Do you mean my opinion on your thoughts? Or do you mean my opinion on women being more beautiful?

Both if you can, like on my thoughts from here and from what I've posted there as well as your opinion on women being more beautiful.

I thought Hillary was a fembot pioneer.  :-X  :-X


She is an alien in a synth woman body, yes. She feeds off the young virgin blood to maintain her youth. And some oil changes.

She is an alien in a synth woman body, yes. She feeds off the young virgin blood to maintain her youth. And some oil changes.


She's part of the reptilian species. Part of the Illuminati plot for world control!  :(  :(

Both if you can, like on my thoughts from here and from what I've posted there as well as your opinion on women being more beautiful.


I will type up a more length reply to your post, once I get on a computer. It's almost 8PM here right now, and I'll be finishing dinner/cleaning around 10PM. I just thought I should let you know, because I think it's pretty late over there, and I don't want to keep you waiting. :)

Both if you can, like on my thoughts from here and from what I've posted there as well as your opinion on women being more beautiful.


Okay, here are my thoughts.

At first, I was terribly confused at why you liked emo types so much. It felt like you liked them for their rebellious nature and smashing gender norms. But to me, emos were just a bunch of teenage attention-seeking wealthy kids who thought they had it hard, so they put on 'sad' clothes, listen to 'sad' music, and cut themselves for attention. I never looked at them in a larger socio-cultural lens in any way.

But after reading your post, I think I understand it much more clearly. You think women are much more beautiful than guys. I'm not sure if I'd personally compare the two sexes in this regard, but I do find women 'beautiful' too, even if I'm not sexually attracted to them, so I think I can see where you're coming from. In turn, you think that youthful looking emos are much more 'beautiful' than the average guy with an unremarkable short hair or a scruffy beard. You feel society's gender norms are forcing men to look more conservative and not beautiful.

You envy girls because they look more beautiful, and also are free to look more beautiful than guys are, because of the gender roles. I noticed you envy girls for other reasons too, such as lower sex drives. You remind me of a friend I had in elementary school. He hated the fact that he wasn't born a girl. He didn't like that boys were violent, rough, and loud. He told me he wanted to be a girl because he thought they were more kind, caring and didn't resort to physical violence. And I totally got what he was saying. I didn't feel the same envy in magnitude, but I did know the direction of where that envy came from, and could empathize with him. In the same way, I can see where you're coming from too, and I can see a bit of him in you. :o

No, my parents didn't do anything.

Didn't you copy and paste that? Also, I'm wondering about your dream, and considering I've been reading some yaoi, I admit I might want this sort of relationship; granted, I don't actually feel comfortable doing this, and I think this may come from the fact that I had better relationships with men when I was young.


Hmm, I think you misread who I quoted. That was a reply to Chris's post. :P

Okay, here are my thoughts.

At first, I was terribly confused at why you liked emo types so much. It felt like you liked them for their rebellious nature and smashing gender norms. But to me, emos were just a bunch of teenage attention-seeking wealthy kids who thought they had it hard, so they put on 'sad' clothes, listen to 'sad' music, and cut themselves for attention. I never looked at them in a larger socio-cultural lens in any way.

But after reading your post, I think I understand it much more clearly. You think women are much more beautiful than guys. I'm not sure if I'd personally compare the two sexes in this regard, but I do find women 'beautiful' too, even if I'm not sexually attracted to them, so I think I can see where you're coming from. In turn, you think that youthful looking emos are much more 'beautiful' than the average guy with an unremarkable short hair or a scruffy beard. You feel society's gender norms are forcing men to look more conservative and not beautiful.

You envy girls because they look more beautiful, and also are free to look more beautiful than guys are, because of the gender roles. I noticed you envy girls for other reasons too, such as lower sex drives. You remind me of a friend I had in elementary school. He hated the fact that he wasn't born a girl. He didn't like that boys were violent, rough, and loud. He told me he wanted to be a girl because he thought they were more kind, caring and didn't resort to physical violence. And I totally got what he was saying. I didn't feel the same envy in magnitude, but I did know the direction of where that envy came from, and could empathize with him. In the same way, I can see where you're coming from too, and I can see a bit of him in you. :o



Thank you for your concern. I hope we can go through this with time. I'm also wondering what happened to that guy.

Thank you for your concern. I hope we can go through this with time. I'm also wondering what happened to that guy.


You could say he became my boyfriend, when I touched third base with him when I was 11  ;D

I think I mentioned him before in other threads. He got beat up for liking Hillary Duff.  :-X

That lasted for like 3 weeks. I had to move to Toronto in summer 2004, and his family was really poor (his dad was an alcoholic ), he didn't have a computer so I didn't get to talk to him much. I came to his house unannounced (he wasn't answering the phone) when I was back in Hamilton for March Break 2005 (we get a week off from school in March), but there was someone else in the house then.  :(

I found him a year back on Facebook. From his profile pic, I'm guessing he's a nurse now. I've been a bit shy about re-establishing contact.  :-[

You could say he became my boyfriend, when I touched third base with him when I was 11  ;D
That got me wondering, how come it's never the straight men that wish this, to be the opposite sex? (save for a few cases).

That got me wondering, how come it's never the straight men that wish this, to be the opposite sex? (save for a few cases).


Do you mean transgender women who are attracted to women? That happens in about 25% of cases, last I heard.

Do you mean transgender women who are attracted to women? That happens in about 25% of cases, last I heard.


Yeah. Straight guys who are't trans, yet express envy for women are regarded as "beta cucks" though.

Yeah. Straight guys who are't trans, yet express envy for women are regarded as "beta cucks" though.


Isn't that you? Or are you bisexual (attracted to women and androgynous men)?

You could say he became my boyfriend, when I touched third base with him when I was 11  ;D

I think I mentioned him before in other threads. He got beat up for liking Hillary Duff.  :-X

That lasted for like 3 weeks. I had to move to Toronto in summer 2004, and his family was really poor (his dad was an alcoholic ), he didn't have a computer so I didn't get to talk to him much. I came to his house unannounced (he wasn't answering the phone) when I was back in Hamilton for March Break 2005 (we get a week off from school in March), but there was someone else in the house then.  :(

I found him a year back on Facebook. From his profile pic, I'm guessing he's a nurse now. I've been a bit shy about re-establishing contact.  :-[


Maybe now he can nurse you his milk.  :P  :P  :o

Okay, here are my thoughts.

At first, I was terribly confused at why you liked emo types so much. It felt like you liked them for their rebellious nature and smashing gender norms. But to me, emos were just a bunch of teenage attention-seeking wealthy kids who thought they had it hard, so they put on 'sad' clothes, listen to 'sad' music, and cut themselves for attention. I never looked at them in a larger socio-cultural lens in any way.

But after reading your post, I think I understand it much more clearly. You think women are much more beautiful than guys. I'm not sure if I'd personally compare the two sexes in this regard, but I do find women 'beautiful' too, even if I'm not sexually attracted to them, so I think I can see where you're coming from. In turn, you think that youthful looking emos are much more 'beautiful' than the average guy with an unremarkable short hair or a scruffy beard. You feel society's gender norms are forcing men to look more conservative and not beautiful.

You envy girls because they look more beautiful, and also are free to look more beautiful than guys are, because of the gender roles. I noticed you envy girls for other reasons too, such as lower sex drives. You remind me of a friend I had in elementary school. He hated the fact that he wasn't born a girl. He didn't like that boys were violent, rough, and loud. He told me he wanted to be a girl because he thought they were more kind, caring and didn't resort to physical violence. And I totally got what he was saying. I didn't feel the same envy in magnitude, but I did know the direction of where that envy came from, and could empathize with him. In the same way, I can see where you're coming from too, and I can see a bit of him in you. :o


I'm not trolling. But I wanted to be Cat woman from 1992's Batman Return film. It's unintentionally funny, but it's also true.

Maybe now he can nurse you his milk.  :P  :P  :o


Wow LMAO

I live for that thick creamy consistency  :-
I'm not trolling. But I wanted to be Cat woman from 1992's Batman Return film. It's unintentionally funny, but it's also true.


Oooo, I wanted to be Linka from Captain Planet, but really only because she was Wheeler's girlfriend ;D

Isn't that you? Or are you bisexual (attracted to women and androgynous men)?



Maybe both of them.

Wow LMAO

I live for that thick creamy consistency  :-[
Oooo, I wanted to be Linka from Captain Planet, but really only because she was Wheeler's girlfriend ;D


Captain Planet is hot! Oh, oh yeah! Linka, yes, her.  :-[

Maybe both of them.


I'm not an expert on gender or anything, and like those guys in that forum said, it's probably best to talk to gender therapist, but I do think you're a cis male that's attracted to women, but also women that look feminine. This is actually rather common in some cultures, like Thailand (I think, I might be wrong).


Captain Planet is hot! Oh, oh yeah! Linka, yes, her.  :-[


He's fricken' blue!

I'm not an expert on gender or anything, and like those guys in that forum said, it's probably best to talk to gender therapist, but I do think you're a cis male that's attracted to women, but also women that look feminine. This is actually rather common in some cultures, like Thailand (I think, I might be wrong).


I might try and get hold of my counsellor and see if they can recommend me to this or something else. I've been advised by someone to see a mental health professional.

I might try and get hold of my counsellor and see if they can recommend me to this or something else. I've been advised by someone to see a mental health professional.


That's good. They can be really helpful. :)

I'm not an expert on gender or anything, and like those guys in that forum said, it's probably best to talk to gender therapist, but I do think you're a cis male that's attracted to women, but also women that look feminine. This is actually rather common in some cultures, like Thailand (I think, I might be wrong).

He's fricken' blue!


And muscular, tall, athletic, and has magical powers!  :-[  :-[  :(

And muscular, tall, athletic, and has magical powers!  :-[  :-[  :(


But has green hair.

https://www.thegailygrind.com/2017/06/16/teacher-defiantly-displays-lgbtq-pride-viral-oval-office-photo-even-trump-wont-acknowledge-pride-month/

Teacher Defiantly Displays LGBTQ Pride In Viral Oval Office Photo, Since Trump Won’t Acknowledge Pride Month

Yass Queen!!

https://i.imgur.com/Qci4Eib_d.jpg?maxwidth=640&shape=thumb&fidelity=high

Rhode Island’s 2017 teacher of the year has gone viral after sharing a photo from his Oval Office meeting with President Trump and first lady Melania Trump.

Trump abandoned Barack Obama’s eight-year tradition of kicking off LGBT Pride Month celebrations at the White House.

Obama had issued annual proclamations recognizing June as Pride Month and hosted LGBT celebrations in the White House. The former president’s proclamations recognized the “fight for dignity and equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people” and signaled the government’s commitment to “broaden opportunity, advance equality, and level the playing field for LGBT people and communities”.

Instead, the White House proclaimed June as “National Homeownership Month”, “National Ocean Month”, “African Music Appreciation Month” and “Great Outdoors Month”.

“For my trip to the White House, I wore a rainbow pin to represent my gratitude for the LGBTQ community that has taught me to be proud, bold, and empowered by my identity — even when circumstances make that difficult,” he wrote.

“I wore a blue jacket with a bold print and carried a black lace fan to celebrate the joy and freedom of gender nonconformity.”

On Thursday, The Washington Post reported that The Commerce Department had gutted language from its annual equal opportunity statement barring discrimination based on sexual orientation or gender identity.

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In Canada, Bill C-16 which promotes gender expression and gender identity to a protected class (along with gender, race, sexual orientation etc.) passed the Senate today and will receive Royal Assent by next week.

Trudeau will also attend a memorial where he will erase all the criminal convictions that came about as a result of same-sex activity (same sex activity was punishable by death, then punishable by life in prison until 1967 in Canada).

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Theresa May promises the liberal wing of the Conservative Party that LGBT rights will not be backtracked as a result of forming a coalition with the Northern Irish DUP, a religious anti-LGBT party.

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The Serbian president appoints its first LGBT and first woman prime minister to the post.

Ana Brnabić, 41, a graduate of the University of Hull in England, is the Balkan nation’s first gay PM and first female PM.

Brnabić’s appointment, which comes in the same week that Leo Varadkar was formally elected as Ireland’s first gay PM, is all the more remarkable given that virulent homophobia is still widespread in the Balkans.

That's your news ticker for the day. :o

@Slowpoke, how would you feel if I said something like this?


I don't want to be gay, but I feel like that I'm getting there since I'm getting bored of straight and lesbian porn. Granted, I still don't find many guys attractive in terms of their facial features unless they look young or rather feminine.


Part of this might have had to do with my crappy relationships with the guys I've come across compared to before I left the UK (had more loving male relatives in my opinion before this), but also, for around the first 13 or 14 years in my life, my crushes have pretty much been on girls.


I probably have been looking into this gay stuff (in the form of yaoi comics) because I thought it was quite sweet to see some sensitive guys. I don't know, I probably didn't like how emotionally cold the guys in my life were since I moved to the UK, or I was trying to spite my parents when they want me and my brother to toughen up and not cry so much (they still do this with my sister).


Now, I no longer really feel this, and when I masturbate, I just think about how some gay guy's fantasies or some lesbian's fantasies contrast with that to their straight counterparts.


I find that if I don't masturbate for a while, my sex drive skyrockets. I don't know if you've heard about this "NoFap" thing online.

I'm a straight male, but in all honesty, I do sometimes wish that I was the opposite sex. I'm not transgender and i'm not "girly" in any sense. I just think it would be interesting to know/experience what it would be like to be the complete opposite gender. I'm curious to know how it would change my view of the world, who I would be friends with, what I would be interested in etc.


Is this an intense feeling, or just something you're curious thought about?


@Slowpoke, how would you feel if I said something like this?


I don't want to be gay, but I feel like that I'm getting there since I'm getting bored of straight and lesbian porn. Granted, I still don't find many guys attractive in terms of their facial features unless they look young or rather feminine.


Part of this might have had to do with my crappy relationships with the guys I've come across compared to before I left the UK (had more loving male relatives in my opinion before this), but also, for around the first 13 or 14 years in my life, my crushes have pretty much been on girls.


I probably have been looking into this gay stuff (in the form of yaoi comics) because I thought it was quite sweet to see some sensitive guys. I don't know, I probably didn't like how emotionally cold the guys in my life were since I moved to the UK, or I was trying to spite my parents when they want me and my brother to toughen up and not cry so much (they still do this with my sister).


Now, I no longer really feel this, and when I masturbate, I just think about how some gay guy's fantasies or some lesbian's fantasies contrast with that to their straight counterparts.


I find that if I don't masturbate for a while, my sex drive skyrockets. I don't know if you've heard about this "NoFap" thing online.


That's... interesting. Most people who are gay would just know it.

Are the guys in those yaoi comics very feminine looking? I'm guessing they're very soft and kind too, in personality. The only yaoi I've read was a Persona 4 one, because I had a crush on the side character.  :-[

Are there real life guys you're attracted to? If so, I think you might be bi. If it's mostly yaoi characters, it's possible that you have 'emotional crushes' on them, rather than purely sexual.

Yes, I've heard of Nofap. ;D I don't think it's a good idea. Letting it off is a good way to relieve yourself without hurting yourself or anyone, and there are only positives. The only problem is when you watch so much porn that it warps your sense of reality. Porn is entertainment, it's not meant to be taken as something real or achievable or even desirable. Think of it as watching a good sci-fi movie. That's my opinion on nofap and porn.  :-X

Is this an intense feeling, or just something you're curious thought about?

That's... interesting. Most people who are gay would just know it.
I knew that from a young age I wasn't attracted to guys, but for some reason, I kind of had a thing for Noddy in the TV show. I mistook him for a girl because of the hat he was wearing, which I thought was long hair or at least was hiding it.
Are the guys in those yaoi comics very feminine looking? I'm guessing they're very soft and kind too, in personality. The only yaoi I've read was a Persona 4 one, because I had a crush on the side character.  :-Are there real life guys you're attracted to? If so, I think you might be bi. If it's mostly yaoi characters, it's possible that you have 'emotional crushes' on them, rather than purely sexual.
There are probably some guys I just like the look of. Other than that, being emotionally attracted to a guy isn't something that comes to me naturally. It may just be both campy and attractive guys that attract my attention, but apart from that, not so much.


Again, thank you for your concern.