Everyone here knows that I am 35 going on 36 this year. When I tell people my age, people give me such a hard time! I have to show all kinds of documents(esp. my birth certificate) and things to prove I am almost 36.  ::)

Whenever I meet someone for the first time they think I'm 19 or 20 years old. And then I have to prove them wrong and it makes me feel bad, lol. Has this happened to any of you? It's a nice compliment, but it can be annoying when I have to show all of my personal documents..

Everyone here knows that I am 35 going on 36 this year. When I tell people my age, people give me such a hard time! I have to show all kinds of documents(esp. my birth certificate) and things to prove I am almost 36.  ::)

Whenever I meet someone for the first time they think I'm 19 or 20 years old. And then I have to prove them wrong and it makes me feel bad, lol. Has this happened to any of you? It's a nice compliment, but it can be annoying when I have to show all of my personal documents..



Why do you have to show people your personal documents? The only time you HAVE to is if you are trying to buy something and they ask for your ID. Otherwise, it really is no one's business.


If they don't believe you when you tell them how old you are, that is their problem-not yours. By showing them your documents, that is making it your problem and you shouldn't have to do that.


Cat

Why do you have to show people your personal documents? The only time you HAVE to is if you are trying to buy something and they ask for your ID. Otherwise, it really is no one's business.


If they don't believe you when you tell them how old you are, that is their problem-not yours. By showing them your documents, that is making it your problem and you shouldn't have to do that.


Cat


I never show random people anything, only when I go places. I know what you meant though and will keep that in mind. Thanks

People think I'm in my late 20's but when I tell them I'm 42, they're stunned. That's because I shave every day to keep my babyface look.

People think I'm in my late teens (early twenties sometimes), even though I'm 16 and a half.

Based on your pictures, you look about early to mid 20's to me. I'm sure it gets annoying to you, though.

Based on your pictures, you look about early to mid 20's to me. I'm sure it gets annoying to you, though.


Are you referring to me? ???

Are you referring to me? ???


No, jessica_ann. But you do look younger than your real age, Howard.

People think I'm in my teens, even though I'm 23. Not as egregious as it is for you (35 and 19 is much bigger difference, take it as a compliment! ;D), but it's annoying being carded for video games (you have to be 17 ???) or at the bar (legal age here is 19).

People think I'm in my teens, even though I'm 23. Not as egregious as it is for you (35 and 19 is much bigger difference, take it as a compliment! ;D), but it's annoying being carded for video games (you have to be 17 ???) or at the bar (legal age here is 19).

I enjoy the complements but yeah it is annoying being carded when I want to get into an r rated film.

I'm 31 or 20-22. Most people say one of those to me and their mouths drop to the floor when I tell them I'm older!

I still get carded for cigarettes and alcohol even tho my tattoos that I got when I was 18 are old enough to buy alcohol. Will be 41 in two weeks. It's annoying because no 21 year old has a few gray hairs in his goatee. It's gone from complimentary to "are you fudgeing stupid?". On a good day, fresh and shaved I do still look late 20s tho.

Ant

I've gotten the same thing and it's been happening for several years. When I was younger, some folks thought I was older because of my height and now some people think I'm younger as my beard my shaved.

I'll be 50 years old later this year, but I still look plausibly in my 20s.  Several years ago at my college reunion one of my former classmates thought that I was a current undergraduate.  Also, one of the security guards wanted to ticket me because I was parked in the guest parking lot.  He told me I looked like a student, too.  I told him I was an alum and that I remembered him from my college days from, ummm, a certain incident.  He laughed and said he believed me (guess he remembered, too?  ;)).  So, in my early 40s, evidently I still looked <= 22.  Back when I actually was 22 (ca 1988), I was in a Las Vegas casino playing the slot machines when one of the security guards thought I was a high school kid.  Even after I showed him my driver's license, he didn't believe me; he thought my ID was fake.  Fortunately, my parents were there to vouch for me.  Anyway, showing IDs is normally not an issue for me because I don't smoke and I don't drink and rarely go to bars.

Basically, I'm happy and grateful for looking much younger than my age.  Sure, it can be slightly annoying when people think you're "one of those Millennial kids", but I'm philosophical about it.  I figure that if I looked my age, or older than my age, I'd be unhappy about that.  I'd be spending lots of money trying to look younger, and the young people would think I'm one of those old fart Gen-Xers or Baby Boomers instead.  I know of people my age and younger who get upset when a store clerk gives them a Senior Discount or when people think that their similarly-aged friend/coworker/spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend must be their son/daughter.  Grass is always greener on the other side.  Actually, it's definitely greener on the young side.  It's much harder to make yourself look younger than it is to make yourself look older.

People will always make assumptions or judgements based on your apparent age, race, gender, etc.  I actually get much more upset when people make assumptions based on my apparent gender and race.  Yes, I speak English.  Yes, I'm in the correct bathroom.  No, I did not "steal" your job.  No, that person is not related to me.

I still get carded for cigarettes and alcohol even tho my tattoos that I got when I was 18 are old enough to buy alcohol. Will be 41 in two weeks. It's annoying because no 21 year old has a few gray hairs in his goatee. It's gone from complimentary to "are you fudgeing stupid?". On a good day, fresh and shaved I do still look late 20s tho.

Ant



Several years ago, Carlos went into the grocery store and bought some orange juice and paid for it in cash. The person asked to see his ID.  ??? 

He still gets carded when he buys tobacco. I think it is the store policy that EVERYONE gets carded no matter how old/young they look.


I don't think I look my age but I am really not the person to judge that.


Cat

No, jessica_ann. But you do look younger than your real age, Howard.


I know I shave every day and trying to keep my babyface look. :)

I enjoy the complements but yeah it is annoying being carded when I want to get into an r rated film.


So they still ask for ID? ???

He still gets carded when he buys tobacco. I think it is the store policy that EVERYONE gets carded no matter how old/young they look.



Some stores do that.  Not only alcohol & tobacco, but also certain over-the-counter medications and other products that could be used to manufacture drugs.  One store will actually scan your ID, using that same device they use to scan the UPC bar codes.  I know this because the other night I was stuck behind someone when his ID wouldn't scan properly.  The clerk had to call the manager and she had to enter the information into the computer manually.

The government also supposedly sends out undercover enforcers -- people dressed in casual clothes buying alcohol & whatnot -- to test compliance.  The store probably doesn't want to get into an argument about "well, in MY opinion, she didn't look under 35...".  Particularly in the case of alcohol, they're also worried about lawsuits, e.g. if someone underage buys something from them and drives off and kills somebody.  It's just safer for the store to simply instruct its employees to card everyone.  It's also easier on the clerks.  You don't have to constantly try to guess what every customer's age is, you don't risk lawsuits, and you don't risk offending people by implying you think they're younger/older than they actually are.  You can just say, "store policy: everybody gets carded".

Some stores do that.  Not only alcohol & tobacco, but also certain over-the-counter medications and other products that could be used to manufacture drugs.  One store will actually scan your ID, using that same device they use to scan the UPC bar codes.  I know this because the other night I was stuck behind someone when his ID wouldn't scan properly.  The clerk had to call the manager and she had to enter the information into the computer manually.

The government also supposedly sends out undercover enforcers -- people dressed in casual clothes buying alcohol & whatnot -- to test compliance.  The store probably doesn't want to get into an argument about "well, in MY opinion, she didn't look under 35...".  Particularly in the case of alcohol, they're also worried about lawsuits, e.g. if someone underage buys something from them and drives off and kills somebody.  It's just safer for the store to simply instruct its employees to card everyone. It's also easier on the clerks.  You don't have to constantly try to guess what every customer's age is, you don't risk lawsuits, and you don't risk offending people by implying you think they're younger/older than they actually are.  You can just say, "store policy: everybody gets carded".



I agree. And I don't have a issue with that. But, I do have an issue with that person who carded Carlos for buying OJ with cash.



Cat

So they still ask for ID? ???

It depends. If its someone older. Not very many non teens for there so its not very often I have to deal with it

I look not quite my age either, I'm 39 going on 40 next month, and I look younger than that from my signature photo.  LOL!  I had people just guessing how old I am? LOL!

I look not quite my age either, I'm 39 going on 40 next month, and I look younger than that from my signature photo.  LOL!  I had people just guessing how old I am? LOL!


You look really younger than 39. But I think you look like you're in your late twenties.

I look not quite my age either, I'm 39 going on 40 next month, and I look younger than that from my signature photo.  LOL!  I had people just guessing how old I am? LOL!


Some people think in my late 20's and early 30's when I actually tell them I'm 42.

You look really younger than 39. But I think you look like you're in your late twenties.




Some people think in my late 20's and early 30's when I actually tell them I'm 42.


Whenever I tell people that I'm 39 they look stunned and have me pegged in my mid to late 20s.  :) It's very flattering to me considering that I'm old enough to remember what was going on back in the 80s.  LOL! ;D But now I can't really hide how old I am because of my gray hairs and I don't even have any kids! ;D

I'm in my early 30's and have had people say I look early 20's to mid 20's. I still get carded half the time I go to restaurants. I know places are supposed to do that. Still, sometimes I wonder if it's only because they have to. You can't help getting older. I always say it's all up to how you feel. Some people are too old for their age in their 20's, others are young at heart into middle age. Personally I can't relate to many people my age. You're not too old to be youthful if that's how you feel. I still like playing video games, I prefer fantasy to romance themes marketed at grown women, and would rather spend a day at a carnival, a night at a concert, and planning a new piercing or tattoo than being expected to settle down and be dull and not live life. I'm no party animal, but what fun is it to miss out on everything because society supposedly thinks you're too old? I don't get time to go out and have fun too often, so when I can hang out I want to make the most of it.

people in my music class seemed suprised when I said I was 34.  Now I am a little short, but yeah, people think I'm younger too.

I'm 17, approaching 18, but I have received comments from people (in recent times) believing that I am only 13 or 14 years old.

People think I'm in my teens, even though I'm 23. Not as egregious as it is for you (35 and 19 is much bigger difference, take it as a compliment! ;D), but it's annoying being carded for video games (you have to be 17 ???) or at the bar (legal age here is 19).


LOL a funny thing just happened to me. My 11 year old sister's new nurse called me down yesterday. It was late at night, and she told me to look after my sister because she had to go. She was giving extremely detailed  pointers on how to take care of her, to do this to do that, put her to bed etc. And I nodded along. I thought she was just being nice.

Today she got home the same time I did, and my parents and sister went out so they aren't here yet. So we were having a chat. She asked me how old I was, and I said 24, and her jaw almost hit the floor. She thought I was "under 18" and "around my sister's age"  (11!!) so she was extremely worried about leaving my sister with another minor. Lol, I used to change my sister's diapers,  slap the powder on, give her a bath and rock her to sleep when I was 13/14 and she was just a baby. Usually I get offended at these comments, but for some reason I couldn't help but laugh ;D ;D ;D

LOL a funny thing just happened to me. My 11 year old sister's new nurse called me down yesterday. It was late at night, and she told me to look after my sister because she had to go. She was giving extremely detailed  pointers on how to take care of her, to do this to do that, put her to bed etc. And I nodded along. I thought she was just being nice.

Today she got home the same time I did, and my parents and sister went out so they aren't here yet. So we were having a chat. She asked me how old I was, and I said 24, and her jaw almost hit the floor. She thought I was "under 18" and "around my sister's age"  (11!!) so she was extremely worried about leaving my sister with another minor. Lol, I used to change my sister's diapers,  slap the powder on, give her a bath and rock her to sleep when I was 13/14 and she was just a baby. Usually I get offended at these comments, but for some reason I couldn't help but laugh ;D ;D ;D


Based on the pics u posted you look between age 15 to 17, to me.

Based on the pics u posted you look between age 15 to 17, to me.


NOOOOO, I said "I usually get offended at these comments"  >:( :( :-X I want to be a manly man.

17 is okay though. Better than thinking I'm "around my sisters age".  ;D

NOOOOO, I said "I usually get offended at these comments"  >:( :( :-X I want to be a manly man.

17 is okay though. Better than thinking I'm "around my sisters age".  ;D


16 to 18 then.  :-X  :-X  :-X

16 to 18 then.  :-X  :-X  :-X


Mess.  ;D

I'm only about to turn 18 but I feel like I have lived at least 25 years, lol :P.

I'm only about to turn 18 but I feel like I have lived at least 25 years, lol :P.


next year I will turn 44 years old and I'm still in my prime.

I'm only about to turn 18 but I feel like I have lived at least 25 years, lol :P.


Most 25 year olds are very confused people. ;D

what?

next year I will turn 44 years old and I'm still in my prime.

prime of what? ;)


Most 25 year olds are very confused people. ;D

That explains a lot about my life :P.

prime of what? ;)
That explains a lot about my life :P.


life.

I'm 17 and I think I look about my age, maybe a bit younger.

I'll be 44 in just 6 months.

My brother had a birthday on July 8th

next year I will turn 44 years old and I'm still in my prime.


Yeah I think 43 is definitely still prime Howard, it's not like you're in your 60s and "getting up there", you are only in your 40s which is still relatively young. My dad is 64 and would certainly love to be only 43 again. Of course you also have the 85 year olds who would love to be only 64 again, that's life and as I've said before it's all relative.  :-\\

As for me, I am 30.

Yeah I think 43 is definitely still prime Howard, it's not like you're in your 60s and "getting up there", you are only in your 40s which is still relatively young. My dad is 64 and would certainly love to be only 43 again. Of course you also have the 85 year olds who would love to be only 64 again, that's life and as I've said before it's all relative.  :-\\

As for me, I am 30.


Yeah, you're right I'm 17 and I would really like to be 7 again lol. But being 17 is great also.

I know what you mean

I'm only about to turn 18 but I feel like I have lived at least 25 years, lol :P.

Time passes slower when you're younger!  :D

Time passes slower when you're younger!  :D


You're not wrong! I can remember when I was 7, thinking that an hour was a "really long time". Now it just feels like a few seconds. :P

Time passes slower when you're younger!  :D

Yeah :D.


You're not wrong! I can remember when I was 7, thinking that an hour was a "really long time". Now it just feels like a few seconds. :P

I know right!

Yes. I am 14 and I am mistaken for a 12 year old.

Yes. I am 14 and I am mistaken for a 12 year old.
Are you short by any chance? I'm asking because I know a girl who is 23 but she has been mistaken as a 12 year old many times as much you are due to her height. 

Are you short by any chance? I'm asking because I know a girl who is 23 but she has been mistaken as a 12 year old many times as much you are due to her height.

I am 5 foot 2 inches. I am short and I have a baby face.

I am 5 foot 2 inches. I am short and I have a baby face.


I'm basically a whole ft taller then you (I'm 6ft 1in)

I keep being mistaken for being in my 20s. I've even been told I SOUND young. (I've had to correct TJ three different time when he said it and had to remind him, I'm only 8 years younger than you)
I just hope I don't wind up like Bette Davis in Mr. Skeffington--chasing youth that's long gone.
But i'll enjoy it while I can.  ;D

I'm basically a whole ft taller then you (I'm 6ft 1in)

You are so lucky. I'm only about 5 ft 7...I hope that I grow 3 more inches, lol.

I just turned 37 a couple months ago but to some people I probably look a decade younger. I always seem to have looked young for my age, ever since I was a preteen. I guess I don't age at a "normal" rate.

I am 5 foot 2 inches. I am short and I have a baby face.
No wonder why. The same girl I mentioned also has a baby face although she's much older. It seems as you will get older, you might not age at all. I mean take a look at Pharrell Williams. He's been looking the same for so long!

I went to renew my library card the other day, and the librarian told me I only need my high school ID. That was with my beard too.  :-\\ The surprise on her face when I handed over my licence was to live for though. ;D

I went to renew my library card the other day, and the librarian told me I only need my high school ID. That was with my beard too.  :-\\ The surprise on her face when I handed over my licence was to live for though. ;D

RIP to you (and her) ;D.

You are so lucky. I'm only about 5 ft 7...I hope that I grow 3 more inches, lol.


Don't worry, you'll probaly get taller anyways because you're only 18 ;)

Don't worry, you'll probaly get taller anyways because you're only 18 ;)

I hope so....being this height sucks :-\\.

BTW, SharksFan99 said that he's about 6 ft 2...so you guys are basically the same height :P.

I went to renew my library card the other day, and the librarian told me I only need my high school ID. That was with my beard too.  :-\\ The surprise on her face when I handed over my licence was to live for though. ;D

Haha!

Yes. I am 14 and I am mistaken for a 12 year old.


I'm almost 44 and people think I'm in my 20's.  ;D

I am 5 foot 2 inches. I am short and I have a baby face.



I'm 6ft tall.

I'm 6ft tall.

I feel like less of a man because I'm not even 6 ft tall :(.

I'm almost 44 and people think I'm in my 20's.  ;D

So I shouldn't feel bad myself, being 37 and being mistaken as a 20-something.

I'm almost 44 and people think I'm in my 20's.  ;D


Why is that? Is it becasue of the way you look or do you act a little childish?

I'm 5'5 and I've never been mistaken for looking older or younger. I would say I look about my age.

I'm 5'5 and I've never been mistaken for looking older or younger. I would say I look about my age.

Being 5 ft 5 and also be a 15 year old girl is normal. As a matter of fact, being a 5 ft 5 female period (at any age above 11) is normal.


Try being a 5 ft 5 tall 15 year old male :\'(.

I feel like less of a man because I'm not even 6 ft tall :(.


Why do you feel this way?

So I shouldn't feel bad myself, being 37 and being mistaken as a 20-something.


the reason I make myself young is that I shave everyday.

Why do you feel this way?

Societal standards and statistics.

Why is that? Is it becasue of the way you look or do you act a little childish?



It's because I shave everyday or every other day if I wind up forgetting.

I'm 21 nearly 22 but one of my good friend's keeps mentioning that I look about 17/18 I don't really mind though.

the reason I make myself young is that I shave everyday.

Which is good to do.

In my previous post I also mentioned that I have looked "young" for my age (that is, whatever age I actually was) during most of my life.

It's because I shave everyday or every other day if I wind up forgetting.


I grew my beard to look older ;D

It grows out patchy and messy though, so it still looks like teenage facial hair.  :\'(

I'm 5'5 and I've never been mistaken for looking older or younger. I would say I look about my age.


That's funny odd because I'm only 5 ft 7 and since I reached my late 30s and now early 40s people mistake me for being in my late 20s.  It's very flattering but frustrating at the same time.

The best way to stay looking young is to wear sunscreen/avoid the sun. I've been wearing sunscreen since I was 15, and people still seem to confuse me for being 15, so it checks out.

I grew my beard to look older ;D

It grows out patchy and messy though, so it still looks like teenage facial hair.  :\'(



So why don't you shave? ???

So why don't you shave? ???


Because then I'll look 15.  :-\\

Because then I'll look 15.  :-\\



I shave and I don't look my age.

Lmao!! I went to buy Zero Time Dilemma for the 3DS (which is rated M, or 17+), and I was with my mom, and as I was getting my credit card out, the cashier turned to my mom and asked "Are you sure you want to buy this game for your son? It is rated M, for people over 16" ;D

God damn it, not even a beard and a good set of muscles is making me age. 

I'm 29, but feel like I'm 12.  :-X  :-X  :-X

That's funny odd because I'm only 5 ft 7 and since I reached my late 30s and now early 40s people mistake me for being in my late 20s.  It's very flattering but frustrating at the same time.

I agree on this part (which I bolded). Although for me it's more on the frustrating side.

The best way to stay looking young is to wear sunscreen/avoid the sun. I've been wearing sunscreen since I was 15, and people still seem to confuse me for being 15, so it checks out.
Maybe you should start rubbing it in and not leave it on your face. ::)
;) :D

Lmao!! I went to buy Zero Time Dilemma for the 3DS (which is rated M, or 17+), and I was with my mom, and as I was getting my credit card out, the cashier turned to my mom and asked "Are you sure you want to buy this game for your son? It is rated M, for people over 16" ;D

God damn it, not even a beard and a good set of muscles is making me age.


Don't complain, looking younger than you are is a good thing, even though it can be frustrating  at times

I turned 19 earlier this month and I'd say I look about my age, the only people that have guessed my age thought I was 17, which was earlier this month and one person said 16 last year.

I recently turned 19 and I'd say I look about my age, the only people that have guessed my age thought I was 17, which was earlier this month and one person said 16 last year.

I'm turning 19 in July and people think that I'm 16-17 years old. I guess that's not a bad thing.

A big reason for that though is that I'm a short guy :P.

I'm turning 19 in July and people think that I'm 16-17 years old. I guess that's not a bad thing.

A big reason for that though is that I'm a short guy :P.


Yeah, I don't see it as bad.

I can see being short affecting it (being short isn't bad either btw :)), I'm 6 ft. 2 in., so I don't think it has to do with my height, it could be that I'm usually clean shaven. I'm starting to look like a wolf boy right now though, so I probably need to shave soon. :P

I'm turning 19 in July and people think that I'm 16-17 years old. I guess that's not a bad thing.

A big reason for that though is that I'm a short guy :P.



Without seeing your pic, I thought you were older-which is actually a good thing because you seem more mature than a 19 year old.



Cat

Yeah, I don't see it as bad.

I can see being short affecting it (being short isn't bad either btw :)), I'm 6 ft. 2 in., so I don't think it has to do with my height, it could be that I'm usually clean shaven. I'm starting to look like a wolf boy right now though, so I probably need to shave soon. :P

I think that my face looks about my age. So in this case I think that my height (or lack thereof) is a big reason for the slight under guessing of my age by some people.

If I was your height (6'2"), I think that virtually no one would think that I'm 16-17 :P ;D.

Without seeing your pic, I thought you were older-which is actually a good thing because you seem more mature than a 19 year old.



Cat

Thank you! :)

That's something that I've been told since I was little. A lot of people think that I'm wise beyond my years :P.

Maybe you should start rubbing it in and not leave it on your face. ::)
;) :D


;D ;D ;D


Don't complain, looking younger than you are is a good thing, even though it can be frustrating  at times


That's true. I know when I'm 40 and I can still pass for being in my 20s I'll be more thankful. However, I think there's something more irksome for being confused for a teenager. I feel like people don't take me as seriously or don't see the need to be polite/respectful because they think I'm a kid.

Like a month or so ago, when I was waiting for the bus and it was really cold, the bus came but it was behind 3 or 4 cars at the intersection. I decided to walk towards the bus, so I can get in instead of freezing out there. When I got to the bus he didn't open the door. When the intersection was go and the bus came forward, and I got in, he was really rude and scolded me like a little kid "Where is the bus stop? Is it back there or is it here? Where are you supposed to wait?" etc. Anyway, I apologized, even though I didn't cause any delays. I feel like if he knew I wasn't a kid he wouldn't talk to me like that.  :-X

I'm 29, but if I were thin, people would probably think I'm about 17, or 18.

I'm 29, but if I were thin, people would probably think I'm about 17, or 18.


Asian genes ;D

Asian genes ;D


Maybe at the oldest, like 21. But I think most people would think roughly 18, or 19.

Maybe at the oldest, like 21. But I think most people would think roughly 18, or 19.


You already look early 20s.

;D ;D ;D

That's true. I know when I'm 40 and I can still pass for being in my 20s I'll be more thankful. However, I think there's something more irksome for being confused for a teenager. I feel like people don't take me as seriously or don't see the need to be polite/respectful because they think I'm a kid.




That's right.  Many people take me for early 60's but what's important is that I still feel young.  As to being taken seriously and respected, that is something everyone is entitled to regardless of age.

I'm not sure about your example. I see your point, but I also see the bus driver's point

;D ;D ;D

That's true. I know when I'm 40 and I can still pass for being in my 20s I'll be more thankful. However, I think there's something more irksome for being confused for a teenager. I feel like people don't take me as seriously or don't see the need to be polite/respectful because they think I'm a kid.

Like a month or so ago, when I was waiting for the bus and it was really cold, the bus came but it was behind 3 or 4 cars at the intersection. I decided to walk towards the bus, so I can get in instead of freezing out there. When I got to the bus he didn't open the door. When the intersection was go and the bus came forward, and I got in, he was really rude and scolded me like a little kid "Where is the bus stop? Is it back there or is it here? Where are you supposed to wait?" etc. Anyway, I apologized, even though I didn't cause any delays. I feel like if he knew I wasn't a kid he wouldn't talk to me like that.  :-X

I agree 100%.

That's right.  Many people take me for early 60's but what's important is that I still feel young.  As to being taken seriously and respected, that is something everyone is entitled to regardless of age.

I'm not sure about your example. I see your point, but I also see the bus driver's point



It does help that you have a wife who keeps you young.  ;)



Cat

;D ;D ;D

That's true. I know when I'm 40 and I can still pass for being in my 20s I'll be more thankful. However, I think there's something more irksome for being confused for a teenager. I feel like people don't take me as seriously or don't see the need to be polite/respectful because they think I'm a kid.

Like a month or so ago, when I was waiting for the bus and it was really cold, the bus came but it was behind 3 or 4 cars at the intersection. I decided to walk towards the bus, so I can get in instead of freezing out there. When I got to the bus he didn't open the door. When the intersection was go and the bus came forward, and I got in, he was really rude and scolded me like a little kid "Where is the bus stop? Is it back there or is it here? Where are you supposed to wait?" etc. Anyway, I apologized, even though I didn't cause any delays. I feel like if he knew I wasn't a kid he wouldn't talk to me like that.  :-X


Probably a grey area, a mix of both. Yes, he was trying to get you to follow the rules, but he probably would talk to you differently if you didn't look so young.

I'll be 44 in March and people think that I'm in my late 20's or early 30's.

I thought I was dressed very sharp today but a co-worker told me I look like a high school student wearing uniform  :-
Probably a grey area, a mix of both. Yes, he was trying to get you to follow the rules, but he probably would talk to you differently if you didn't look so young.


Naw, he was 100% in the wrong. There's no rule saying you have to stop exactly at the bus stop and not literally ~10 steps away, lol. We don't need that kind of pedantic precision especially since he was holding up traffic by stopping when the light was green.

I thought I was dressed very sharp today but a co-worker told me I look like a high school student wearing uniform  :-[ ;D

Naw, he was 100% in the wrong. There's no rule saying you have to stop exactly at the bus stop and not literally ~10 steps away, lol. We don't need that kind of pedantic precision especially since he was holding up traffic by stopping when the light was green.


Sorry he was a dick to you.  :-\\

It does help that you have a wife who keeps you young.  ;)



Cat


DAMN RIGHT

It does help that you have a wife who keeps you young.  ;)
I still haven't found the tree on which those are growing. :-\\ :-[

I still haven't found the tree on which those are growing. :-\\ :-[



Oh, I'm sorry. Hopefully, you will find her or him-depending on your preference.



Cat

Oh, I'm sorry. Hopefully, you will find her or him-depending on your preference.

I'm 36 now and with my constant depressions and possible mild autism it's not getting easier...:- (completely) given up yet.

I'm 36 now and with my constant depressions and possible mild autism it's not getting easier...:- (completely) given up yet.


just keep trying Elor and eventually you will get there.

I'm 36 now and with my constant depressions and possible mild autism it's not getting easier...:- (completely) given up yet.



When you stop looking, that is when you find it-or it finds you.



Cat

The older I get (for now) the more it annoys me when people refer to me as "that little girl." C'mon now. Most people think I'm a teen or a preteen. I definitely won't complain too much because I know that I will LOVE it when I'm older.

@Slowpoke, you mentioned that people are ruder to you because they think you're a kid but I feel the exact opposite. I feel like people are a lot more polite because they think I'm a child.

The older I get (for now) the more it annoys me when people refer to me as "that little girl." C'mon now. Most people think I'm a teen or a preteen. I definitely won't complain too much because I know that I will LOVE it when I'm older.

@Slowpoke, you mentioned that people are ruder to you because they think you're a kid but I feel the exact opposite. I feel like people are a lot more polite because they think I'm a child.


What makes you say that?

Because they think I'm a "cute little girl." They'll call me adorable, charming, cute and whatnot.

Because they think I'm a "cute little girl." They'll call me adorable, charming, cute and whatnot.

Try being a short male. Being called "adorable" and "cute" are traits associated with girls and little kids NOT males.

Being a short guy sucks...we're called "little nuggets", "midgets", "dwarfs" and only sometimes "cute" and "adorable".

Because they think I'm a "cute little girl." They'll call me adorable, charming, cute and whatnot.


Oh my god, same!  :-X

On Facebook on my 25th birthday a few days ago a lot of my relatives used words like sweet, cute, little etc. and it was mildly irksome especially since some of them were only 5-10 years older than me. But I'm not going to complain too much since there are worse things they could've said.  :-X ;D

Because they think I'm a "cute little girl." They'll call me adorable, charming, cute and whatnot.


Well aren't you?

::)
Well aren't you?

I hope so  8)

If you look at my profile you will see that I am 71.  Yesterday I was carded buying a bottle of wine.  Now I might not look 70's but I sure as hell look over 21

If you look at my profile you will see that I am 71.  Yesterday I was carded buying a bottle of wine.  Now I might not look 70's but I sure as hell look over 21


That must have been VERY annoying.  8-P

If you look at my profile you will see that I am 71.  Yesterday I was carded buying a bottle of wine.  Now I might not look 70's but I sure as hell look over 21
I believe in the US it's some store's policy to card everyone who buys alcohol just to be on the safe side.

I believe in the US it's some store's policy to card everyone who buys alcohol just to be on the safe side.

That's probably right. I've never tried buying alcohol, but if I did, they'd probably ask to see my id so that they'll know I'm an adult.

That must have been VERY annoying.  8-P


Not really, actually rather amusing

If you look at my profile you will see that I am 71.  Yesterday I was carded buying a bottle of wine.  Now I might not look 70's but I sure as hell look over 21


That's ridiculous.

If you look at my profile you will see that I am 71.  Yesterday I was carded buying a bottle of wine.  Now I might not look 70's but I sure as hell look over 21



At least you weren't buying orange juice with cash.  ;)



Cat

If you look at my profile you will see that I am 71.  Yesterday I was carded buying a bottle of wine.  Now I might not look 70's but I sure as hell look over 21


Wow! I didn't get carded at all the first time I went to get booze but I keep my ID with me just in case.

Wow! I didn't get carded at all the first time I went to get booze but I keep my ID with me just in case.
Maybe your dollars were enough legitimization for the owner... ;)

Wow! I didn't get carded at all the first time I went to get booze but I keep my ID with me just in case.


You keep it for just in case.

You keep it for just in case.


Yeah, I keep it just in case someone thinks that I'm younger than I really am.  :)

Somebody though I was 12 last month but I am really 14 T.T

Somebody though I was 12 last month but I am really 14 T.T

Eh, that's really nothing.

If you are 16 or 17 and someone thinks you're 12...then that can be annoying.

Eh, that's really nothing.

If you are 16 or 17 and someone thinks you're 12...then that can be annoying.

It kind of is something because 12-year-olds technically aren't teenagers yet. ;D

It kind of is something because 12-year-olds technically aren't teenagers yet. ;D

Eh, they are a year (or less) from turning 13.

Also, most people's bodies don't change drastically from when they're 12 to 14.

Eh, they are a year (or less) from turning 13.

Also, most people's bodies don't change drastically from when they're 12 to 14.

It's the opposite for me. I looked a lot different when I was 12 compared to 14. :P

Wow! I didn't get carded at all the first time I went to get booze but I keep my ID with me just in case.


The first time I was ID'd I was really anxious because I thought they wouldn't believe me and call my ID fake, but they looked at it for all of one split second and I was on my way.

It's the opposite for me. I looked a lot different when I was 12 compared to 14. :P

I guess it's different for girls because girls mature faster than boys on average.

However, most people don't look that different at 14 vs when they were 12.

Eh, they are a year (or less) from turning 13.

Also, most people's bodies don't change drastically from when they're 12 to 14.



I guess it's different for girls because girls mature faster than boys on average.

However, most people don't look that different at 14 vs when they were 12.


It is different for girls. Most girls hit puberty between 12 and 14 (some earlier, some later). There are drastic changes that go on during that time.


Cat

It is different for girls. Most girls hit puberty between 12 and 14 (some earlier, some later). There are drastic changes that go on during that time.


Cat

I figured that was the case. Thank you for that!

I barely looked any different at 14 than I did at age 12. It was when I became 15/16 that things changed.

Yeah, I keep it just in case someone thinks that I'm younger than I really am.  :)


So what if they don't believe you? ???

So what if they don't believe you? ???


Then that's their problem.  :)

So I am working from home today, because I have to wait for my sister's dialysis delivery. There's a bunch of Amazon boxes on our yard for recycling, because my brother is a e-shopaholic. But when the delivery man saw the boxes and looked at me, he said "Back to school shopping?" NO! ;D

So I am working from home today, because I have to wait for my sister's dialysis delivery. There's a bunch of Amazon boxes on our yard for recycling, because my brother is a e-shopaholic. But when the delivery man saw the boxes and looked at me, he said "Back to school shopping?" NO! ;D

;D ;D ;D

To be truthful I don't really care if people know that I'm almost 42.

To be truthful I don't really care if people know that I'm almost 42.


age is just a number.

To be truthful I don't really care if people know that I'm almost 42.



I don't care if people know how old I am-I just hate to say it out loud.


Cat

I don't care if people know how old I am-I just hate to say it out loud.


Cat


same here, Why should people know how old I am? It's none of their business.

age is just a number.


No Howard, nooo! Age means everything! Well...it does to me anyway. I enjoy getting older. Just think of all of the moments you had to go through to get to age 44....amazing right? That means a lot to me. I'm happy that you are 44 and that you are posting on the boards. I know I'm weird, hahaha lol.

same here, Why should people know how old I am? It's none of their business.

If it isn't relevant, I/they/whoever don't need to know.

No Howard, nooo! Age means everything! Well...it does to me anyway. I enjoy getting older. Just think of all of the moments you had to go through to get to age 44....amazing right? That means a lot to me. I'm happy that you are 44 and that you are posting on the boards. I know I'm weird, hahaha lol.


I plan on living my life to the fullest.  I'm still going to have fun no matter what.

No Howard, nooo! Age means everything! Well...it does to me anyway. I enjoy getting older. Just think of all of the moments you had to go through to get to age 44....amazing right? That means a lot to me. I'm happy that you are 44 and that you are posting on the boards. I know I'm weird, hahaha lol.


But the good thing about being in my 40's is that I'm aging gracefully and the only gray hairs are on both sides of my head, What about you?

I plan on living my life to the fullest.  I'm still going to have fun no matter what.


just do what you need to do, that's what I say.

just do what you need to do, that's what I say.


Absolutely Howard.  Do what feels good to you.

I think I'm starting to look older. I fully grew out my beard and wear fancy shmancy clothing (even bought a good watch!). I can't say for sure that people think I'm older (someone thought I was 20, but I was wearing a hoodie then), but I notice more people call me "sir" instead of "bud/buddy/sweetie" etc.

I think I'm starting to look older. I fully grew out my beard and wear fancy shmancy clothing (even bought a good watch!). I can't say for sure that people think I'm older (someone thought I was 20, but I was wearing a hoodie then), but I notice more people call me "sir" instead of "bud/buddy/sweetie" etc.


I'm 44 and just yesterday in Burger King someone thought I looked like John Travolta with my shades on so that made me feel a bit younger.

I'm 44 and just yesterday in Burger King someone thought I looked like John Travolta with my shades on so that made me feel a bit younger.
Travolta is 64. ;-)

I'm 44 and just yesterday in Burger King someone thought I looked like John Travolta with my shades on so that made me feel a bit younger.
Did you sign the autograph as John Travolta?

Travolta is 64. ;-)


a younger Travolta. ::)

Did you sign the autograph as John Travolta?


No, there was no autograph signing.

No, there was no autograph signing.
...better luck next time?

So I went to buy a shaker bottle this afternoon. The store near a university campus, and while the store owner was helping me pick out a bottle he asked me "are you in first year?", first year as in first year of university. God damn it! I was dressed business casual too. At first I was a bit peeved but now I think it's kind of funny ;D

He also asked me if I wanted a shaker bottle "for my girlfriend". So many assumptions! :P

F** age. Its all about killing loneliness. I need that warmth and its also more lethal I missed the opportunities in my teens, peak 20s. If she's into it, I'm 17, 18, etc. I'm into fitness for all the more benefits anyway.

Come at me.

I am always mistaken for being younger than my age. I was visiting my mum a few days ago and answered her door and the guy who knocked said ‘Excuse me, are your parents home?’.  >:(

Worst part? The guy was 19! He was raising funds for some young person’s thing.

everyone thinks I'm a kid

F** age. Its all about killing loneliness. I need that warmth and its also more lethal I missed the opportunities in my teens, peak 20s. If she's into it, I'm 17, 18, etc. I'm into fitness for all the more benefits anyway.

Come at me.


What do you mean? You can always feel warmth and love etc. when you're older.

F** age. Its all about killing loneliness. I need that warmth and its also more lethal I missed the opportunities in my teens, peak 20s. If she's into it, I'm 17, 18, etc. I'm into fitness for all the more benefits anyway.

Come at me.


So you want an older woman?  ???

What do you mean? You can always feel warmth and love etc. when you're older.


I'm not saying I don't want an older women or a women that's the same age as me, I really do but, a lot of them be taken tho. The next girl I approach who look like a adult, I won't even bring up the age topic anymore. I'mma just go all in. I was actually complimented that I don't even look my age, I even analyzed for my self and was blown away by it.

(If) she brings up age tho, then that's my q to dip, like it never even happened. All I really want is to hold a girl by her waist at the end of the day.

I'm not saying I don't want an older women or a women that's the same age as me, I really do but, a lot of them be taken tho. The next girl I approach who look like a adult, I won't even bring up the age topic anymore. I'mma just go all in. I was actually complimented that I don't even look my age, I even analyzed for my self and was blown away by it.

(If) she brings up age tho, then that's my q to dip, like it never even happened. All I really want is to hold a girl by her waist at the end of the day.


Oh, I see. Yeah, I heard the median marriage of American women is very young, around the mid-20s :o

Oh, I see. Yeah, I heard the median marriage of American women is very young, around the mid-20s :o


I married for the first time at age 19-the second time age 40. The first time all the warning signs were there but I was too naive to know what they were or too stupid to see them.


Cat

Oh, I see. Yeah, I heard the median marriage of American women is very young, around the mid-20s :o


Marriage is a joke. Either you love each other are you don't. I like casualness with my sh!t, our intimacy in secrecy. When its time to part, I'll watch from the distance as she go inside.

Classic.

Marriage is a joke. Either you love each other are you don't. I like casualness with my sh!t, our intimacy in secrecy. When its time to part, I'll watch from the distance as she go inside.

Classic.


There are benefits to marriage. Insurance, taxes, and things like that. When Carlos & I got married, we each got something. I got his insurance and he got a military dependent ID card. We filed jointly which was a savings. There were probably other benefits but I can't think of them at the moment.


Cat

I rather enjoy my single's life.  It doesn't mean that I'm not weighing out the options.  It just means that my standards are higher than most women's standards! There are a lot of fakes online which is why my standards are so high.

I am always mistaken for being younger than my age.

Over time, I have as well. The difference has grown considerably since I was (in truth) about 10. It does bother me because I don't like to be thought of as younger than I truly am.

I'm two years older than hubby.  It's not a problem - sometimes we joke about it, but he doesn't go too far (usually).  We're happy after 20 years, and a two year gap is ok.  I once briefly dated a guy when I was 26 and he was just 20 - that was a little eye opening.

My Dad was 17 years older than my Mom.  That's a significant age gap, and it showed in some of their cultural takes.  But they made it work (for the most part; they split up later, mostly Mom's idea).

I got married older than average.  Single life had its moments, but I love being married!  My hubby's awesome!  :-*

There are benefits to marriage. Insurance, taxes, and things like that. When Carlos & I got married, we each got something. I got his insurance and he got a military dependent ID card. We filed jointly which was a savings. There were probably other benefits but I can't think of them at the moment.


Cat


My Parents have been married almost 50 years, How long have you two been married?

Oh, I see. Yeah, I heard the median marriage of American women is very young, around the mid-20s :o


Which is funny, because there was a time when you were considered a washed up spinster if you weren’t married by 25. The Japanese even had a saying comparing Christmas to marriage - it’s over after the 25th. ;D

Here in the UK the average age when someone first gets married is around 31 for women and 33 for men. In 1971 it was 23 for women and 25 for men.

My Dad was 17 years older than my Mom.  That's a significant age gap, and it showed in some of their cultural takes.  But they made it work (for the most part; they split up later, mostly Mom's idea).

A 17 year age gap sounds extreme. The age gap at the most should be 10 years, it sounds badass. As long as you take care of your physique and chill about it. From my point of view, with a younger girl, something about it. I like how intriguing it is. If intriguingly warmth is the right way to word it.

I'm two years older than hubby.  It's not a problem - sometimes we joke about it, but he doesn't go too far (usually).  We're happy after 20 years, and a two year gap is ok.  I once briefly dated a guy when I was 26 and he was just 20 - that was a little eye opening.

My Dad was 17 years older than my Mom.  That's a significant age gap, and it showed in some of their cultural takes.  But they made it work (for the most part; they split up later, mostly Mom's idea).

I got married older than average.  Single life had its moments, but I love being married!  My hubby's awesome!  :-*



Carlos is 17 years older than me. There are some things that he won't get the reference to so I have enlighten him. My Hubby is also awesome and wouldn't trade him in for a newer model.

The funny thing is, my step-dad was 18 years older than my mother.



My Parents have been married almost 50 years, How long have you two been married?


15 years. And it is the second marriage for both of us.


Cat

There are benefits to marriage. Insurance, taxes, and things like that. When Carlos & I got married, we each got something. I got his insurance and he got a military dependent ID card. We filed jointly which was a savings. There were probably other benefits but I can't think of them at the moment.


Cat


I was also thinking of never getting married but you bring up good points.


A 17 year age gap sounds extreme. The age gap at the most should be 10 years, it sounds badass. As long as you take care of your physique and chill about it. From my point of view, with a younger girl, something about it. I like how intriguing it is. If intriguingly warmth is the right way to word it.


My parents were born 9 years apart so they fell just under your range ;D

Similar to American Girl, I was a 25 year old dating a 20 year old (although he was 4.5 years younger than me technically). Not that I'm ultra mature or anything but the maturity/life experience gap was apparent at times.  :-[