Okay so after mulling things over the past few days and really trying to get inside myself about this whole dating issue, and see what I truely feel, I think I've come to an important realisation for myself. And thats that whats important is being genuine and really getting to know someone. I've thought about things I want in life, my general outlook and come to the conclusion that the right attitude goes a long way.

So this is the profile description I wrote for myself on Yahoo! personals, I want feedback on it. There won't be any fussing or anything of the sort, I promise.

Headline: Lets take a chance

"The trick to life is enjoying it despite everything else. Thats what I try to live by, anyhow. I'm not unambitious though, I'm a gourmet and plan on owning my own restaurant some day. I'm relocating to the South Florida area with my family because of business oppurtunities. I'm a little reserved at first, but once I get to know you I'm a warm and easy going guy. I don't have any baggage from previous relationships so if you're trying to avoid drama look no further. I don't want to make up for anything in the past, I just want to enjoy the present and get to know new people.

I can enjoy hanging out at the house watching movies, listening to music, cooking etc. but I also really like to get out and have an adventure. I'm not into playing sports but I do like the outdoors. Driving down to Key Biscayne on a pleasant Saturday is very appealing to me. Traveling the world once I make my millions(ha!) is most definitely on my itinerary.

If this sounds good to you we should exchange e-mail and see where things go. No better time to live life than now. I'm not looking for a booty call, so don't worry about anything like that. I'm a perfectly respectable gentleman..within reason.  ;-)"


What do you guys think of it?

I think it's great.  Good for you on the attitude shift.  I think you're headed in the right direction.

I think it's great.  Good for you on the attitude shift.  I think you're headed in the right direction.


Oh good. :)

So theres nothing in it that would turn you away if you were reading my profile and deciding whether or not to contact me?

I'm trying to make sure I'm communicating in the best way possible before I submit it.

I think it sounds fine...and good luck!  :)

I think it sounds fine...and good luck!  :)


Thanks. :)

It's good, but I'm not sure about using "booty call", maybe change that to something like "a fling" or something less tacky :)

good work.

there are tons and tons of things that i dislike...and things that get me down. but really- what good is it to mope around when you can look at the water, or watch a great movie or chat here?!
other, deeper things come when you least expect them.
that is one thing i learned.
you can go get what you want, sure. you can succeed in your carreer...or you can learn to paint...then BAm! someone gives you a compliment, a kiss, a phone number, you win 4$ on a scratch off card...these are the best.
relax.
let them come!

It's good, but I'm not sure about using "booty call", maybe change that to something like "a fling" or something less tacky :)


Yeah, well its just that while browsing the female users' profiles I saw that line from them about a million times "If you're just looking for a booty call I'm not interested" so thats why I decided to go with that nomenclature. I dunno, I may change it.


good work.

there are tons and tons of things that i dislike...and things that get me down. but really- what good is it to mope around when you can look at the water, or watch a great movie or chat here?!
other, deeper things come when you least expect them.
that is one thing i learned.
you can go get what you want, sure. you can succeed in your carreer...or you can learn to paint...then BAm! someone gives you a compliment, a kiss, a phone number, you win 4$ on a scratch off card...these are the best.
relax.
let them come!


Definitely.

It'll work.  Very refined work, by the way.  Good Luck :)

Okay so after mulling things over the past few days and really trying to get inside myself about this whole dating issue, and see what I truely feel, I think I've come to an important realisation for myself. And thats that whats important is being genuine and really getting to know someone. I've thought about things I want in life, my general outlook and come to the conclusion that the right attitude goes a long way.

So this is the profile description I wrote for myself on Yahoo! personals, I want feedback on it. There won't be any fussing or anything of the sort, I promise.

Headline: Let's take a chance

"The trick to life is enjoying it despite everything else." That's what I try to live by, anyhow. I'm not unambitious though, I'm a gourmet and plan on owning my own restaurant some day. I'm relocating to the South Florida area with my family because of business opportunities. I'm a little reserved at first, but once I get to know you I'm a warm and easy going guy. I don't have any baggage from previous relationships so if you're trying to avoid drama look no further. I don't want to make up for anything in the past, I just want to enjoy the present and get to know new people.

I can enjoy hanging out at the house watching movies, listening to music, cooking etc. but I also really like to get out and have an adventure. I'm not into playing sports but I do like the outdoors. Driving down to Key Biscayne on a pleasant Saturday is very appealing to me. Traveling the world once I make my millions(ha!) is most definitely on my itinerary.

If this sounds good to you we should exchange e-mail and see where things go. No better time to live life than now. I'm not looking for a booty call, so don't worry about anything like that. I'm a perfectly respectable gentleman..within reason.  ;-)"


What do you guys think of it?



A few typos. (I hope you can pick them out).  Otherwise, I think it sounds fine.



Cat

It's good, but I'm not sure about using "booty call", maybe change that to something like "a fling" or something less tacky :)


Yes, that's what I'd change...it just sounds a tad on the 'cheap' side, but that's probably 'cause I'm getting old!

It's very, very well-written. Nicely done, sir.

that's pretty good Alex. you might want to mention that you have a penis.  good luck

you might want to mention that you have a penis.


Nonsense, that'll be the surprise.

A few typos. (I hope you can pick them out).  Otherwise, I think it sounds fine.



Cat


Luckily it turns out that when Yahoo! reviews it, they do a spell check and correct any errors for you. :)


It's very, very well-written. Nicely done, sir.


Thanks.


that's pretty good Alex. you might want to mention that you have a penis.  good luck


:D ??? Um, could you explain what you're getting at here?

Good job, well written, I hope you find somebody.  :)

:D ??? Um, could you explain what you're getting at here?

it's a joke.  one SNL episode, many years ago, John Lovitz picked up a chick in a bar, he's walking out with her and the last thing he says in the sketch to her, is "did I mention I have a penis"?  it was quite funny to me. so nothing personal here towards you although it could be seen and taken as a jest, jab at you, but my intentions were not so.  8)

it's a joke.  one SNL episode, many years ago, John Lovitz picked up a chick in a bar, he's walking out with her and the last thing he says in the sketch to her, is "did I mention I have a penis"?  it was quite funny to me. so nothing personal here towards you although it could be seen and taken as a jest, jab at you, but my intentions were not so.  8)


Oh thats pretty funny actually. ;D

So far in my searches on Yahoo! I've already found a lot of wonderful ladies, I've saved about 20 profiles so far. That way when I get my subscription I'll already have compatible people picked out to message. :)

It's good, but you better not dump these people after the first date if they don't give you sex... And I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm being serious.

It's good, but you better not dump these people after the first date if they don't give you sex... And I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm being serious.


::) Talk about misconstruing what someone said.

that's a good ad dude. i've been on personals on and off for a couple years and i always struggle with the ad, one i have now is this cobbled-together monstrosity.

that's a good ad dude. i've been on personals on and off for a couple years and i always struggle with the ad, one i have now is this cobbled-together monstrosity.


Monstrosities are good for getting interesting people, though. *Nods*

Best of luck to you, Alex.  :)

I had an ad on Yahoo Personals a couple years back - never subscribed, but one woman did and hit me up on YIM.  We made it nearly 2 1/2 year and we're parting on good terms (she's moving to KS).  Also, the week we met she was over at my place listening to my show and ANOTHER woman who saw my ad was trying to reach me on YIM (I didn't answer).  I didn't write anything flashy nor made myself out to be someone I wasn't; hell I didn't even have a job when we started dating.  :P  So it can happen for you.  Good for you for getting yourself out there. :) 

I like how it sounds Alex. If I was single and reading your column...it would interest me enough to exchange emails & go out on a date.  I wish you the best in your endeavors! :)

Thank you very much Erin. :) I am now in high spirits and confidence that I'll find the right person in the next 2 or 3 years.

Thank you very much Erin. :) I am now in high spirits and confidence that I'll find the right person in the next 2 or 3 years.


It is a very well written ad.

That's actually really quite good.

Better to sound respectable than go down the "Is my dick big enough, is my brain small enough." route.

The ad sounds fairly good, Alex.

One small note- No "dee dee dee"? :D

Met my husband through Yahoo personals.  Actually, met a couple people through online personals.  A couple I just dated casually, then my hubby blew me away and the rest is history.  ;D

Basically the best advice is just keep it simple and honest and just describe your interests.  Your ad sounds good.  :)

When I was looking (before I got married, the only ones in my area were looking for "discreet relationships" which is code for "they are married and want a mistress"  ::)  I had to open up my search for a larger area but eventually found what I was looking for.  It was immediate so don't get discouraged if it doesn't happen right away either.  :)

I thought the ad read very well.  Good luck with this but don't get despondent if it doesn't work out straight away. 

Another thought.  In some personal columns I've spotted that they have a friendships only section.  You might consider posting something there if the same thing exists in Yahoo Personals (I've no idea if it does).  Sometimes just making an effort to widen your social circle can increase the range of people you come into contact with and one day meet 'the one'

If I was 30 years younger I'd answer it, heck if I wasn't in a relationship now I'd answer it.  It is a good one, sounds sincere.  Hope it works.  ;)

It's good, but you better not dump these people after the first date if they don't give you sex... And I'm not saying that to be mean, I'm being serious.


Have I taught you NOTHING?!

If I was 30 years younger I'd answer it, heck if I wasn't in a relationship now I'd answer it.  It is a good one, sounds sincere.  Hope it works.  ;)
i might steal it and use it for mine. how's THAT for sincere?

Have I taught you NOTHING?!


Oh, you've taught me very much. I just decided to be difficult and not obey your orders.

That's actually really quite good.

Better to sound respectable than go down the "Is my dick big enough, is my brain small enough." route.


;D Yes indeed. And thanks for the compliment on it.


The ad sounds fairly good, Alex.

One small note- No "dee dee dee"? :D


:D I'm saving that for the 3rd date.

And thanks.


Met my husband through Yahoo personals.  Actually, met a couple people through online personals.  A couple I just dated casually, then my hubby blew me away and the rest is history.  ;D

Basically the best advice is just keep it simple and honest and just describe your interests.  Your ad sounds good.  :)

When I was looking (before I got married, the only ones in my area were looking for "discreet relationships" which is code for "they are married and want a mistress"  ::)  I had to open up my search for a larger area but eventually found what I was looking for.  It was immediate so don't get discouraged if it doesn't happen right away either.  :)


Thank you for the compliment about the ad. I've already changed my location on Yahoo! Personals to Miami, FL because I'll be moving there in a couple of months and I won't be getting a subscription before then anyhow and I've got my search set for within 250 miles of Miami. Which covers basically all of South Florida and most of Central Florida, up to Tampa and Orlando. I figured that anywhere where it would take less than half a day to drive to was okay.

I'm not expecting it to happen right away. I figure that its actuallly going to be at least 6 or 7 months before I really start corresponding with anyone because I've got to get moved, get my vehicle, work on myself a bit more and of course pay for a subscription.


I thought the ad read very well.  Good luck with this but don't get despondent if it doesn't work out straight away. 

Another thought.  In some personal columns I've spotted that they have a friendships only section.  You might consider posting something there if the same thing exists in Yahoo Personals (I've no idea if it does).  Sometimes just making an effort to widen your social circle can increase the range of people you come into contact with and one day meet 'the one'


I'll look into that, karen. Thank you. :)


If I was 30 years younger I'd answer it, heck if I wasn't in a relationship now I'd answer it.  It is a good one, sounds sincere.  Hope it works.  ;)


I'm very flattered. Thank you. :)



i might steal it and use it for mine. how's THAT for sincere?


Hmm I dunno what if somebody sees both of our's? They'll be like, "thats not the same dude at all, one of them must be a phoney but I have no way of knowing which one, so I'm not interested in either of them now, just to be on the safe side". ;D

I'm not expecting it to happen right away. I figure that its actuallly going to be at least 6 or 7 months before I really start corresponding with anyone because I've got to get moved, get my vehicle, work on myself a bit more and of course pay for a subscription.


Work on yourself more? What.. you wanna work out?

I'm a big fat beer guzzler who needs a haircut and wears crappy clothes.. and I score. Wouldn't worry about your image, it's if you're a jerk or not that matters. Seriously... all these people who say "Be yourself." They're half right. If you're a nice guy to begin with, then be yourself, if you're a prick, then just be a phoney and pretend to be nice.

Work on yourself more? What.. you wanna work out?

I'm a big fat beer guzzler who needs a haircut and wears crappy clothes.. and I score. Wouldn't worry about your image, it's if you're a jerk or not that matters. Seriously... all these people who say "Be yourself." They're half right. If you're a nice guy to begin with, then be yourself, if you're a prick, then just be a phoney and pretend to be nice.


Yeah but there are just a few things I need to improve, for myself, if I'm going to do this. Sure working out is part of that, I already do. I want to continue to lose weight. Not just for this but for health reasons as well.

I need to get a new digital camera. I saw one at Wal-Mart for $80 awhile back. The current one I have is just a 15 dollar keychain camera, so my pic is kinda crappy. I need a better one. I may post several, a good headshot for my main pic, another good one upclose and a couple farther away that show my whole body. I read that its a good idea to post a pic of yourself doing something you like, so I might get someone to take a couple pics of me cooking.

I need to get a new digital camera. I saw one at Wal-Mart for $80 awhile back. The current one I have is just a 15 dollar keychain camera, so my pic is kinda crappy. I need a better one. I may post several, a good headshot for my main pic, another good one upclose and a couple farther away that show my whole body. I read that its a good idea to post a pic of yourself doing something you like, so I might get someone to take a couple pics of me cooking.


I wouldn't be allowed to post pictures of what I like doing.

I need to get a new digital camera. I saw one at Wal-Mart for $80 awhile back. The current one I have is just a 15 dollar keychain camera, so my pic is kinda crappy. I need a better one. I may post several, a good headshot for my main pic, another good one upclose and a couple farther away that show my whole body. I read that its a good idea to post a pic of yourself doing something you like, so I might get someone to take a couple pics of me cooking.



yes, it's nice to have numerous pictures posted of yourself. Digital cameras are pretty cheap nowadays....you don't need anything fancy.

Even if you don't want the expense of a digital camera (not that there aren't some good deals out there) but, you can still get digital pics online scanned for you.  Take (or have taken) pictures of yourself, then take them to the photo department at Wal-Mart.  They have an option that allows to retrieve your photoss online (after you paid for them at the store.)  I think it costs about 5 dollars extra and it's a little bit of a hassle 'cause you still gotta go to the store twice (once to drop off film and the second time to pay for them and pick up your pictures and the code you need to get the pictures.)  I used to do this years ago 'cause I didn't have access to a scanner easily.

Important tip:

When on a date, if you break wind in front of them, under no circumstances should you attempt to blame it on your chair.

It doesn't work....I've tried it. ;)

Even if you don't want the expense of a digital camera (not that there aren't some good deals out there) but, you can still get digital pics online scanned for you.  Take (or have taken) pictures of yourself, then take them to the photo department at Wal-Mart.  They have an option that allows to retrieve your photoss online (after you paid for them at the store.)  I think it costs about 5 dollars extra and it's a little bit of a hassle 'cause you still gotta go to the store twice (once to drop off film and the second time to pay for them and pick up your pictures and the code you need to get the pictures.)  I used to do this years ago 'cause I didn't have access to a scanner easily.


I'll remember this in case I decide not to buy a camera, thank you. :)


Important tip:

When on a date, if you break wind in front of them, under no circumstances should you attempt to blame it on your chair.

It doesn't work....I've tried it. ;)


;D Okay I'll bear that one in mind

My idea for a first date is going to a coffee shop.

My idea for a first date is going to a coffee shop.



YAY! perfect Alex...a great place to be able to converse! :)

Okay so here is the updated version I wrote for Match.com(whom I'll get a sub with instead of Yahoo! personals):

Headline: Lets take a chance together.

"The trick to life is enjoying it despite everything else. Thats what I try to live by, anyhow. I'm not unambitious though, I'm a gourmet and plan on owning my own restaurant some day. I'm relocating to the South Florida area with my family because of business oppurtunities. I'm a little reserved at first, but once I get to know you I'm a warm and easy going guy. I don't have any baggage from previous relationships so if you're trying to avoid drama look no further. I don't want to make up for anything in the past, I just want to enjoy the present and get to know new people.

I can enjoy hanging out at the house watching movies, listening to music, cooking etc. but I also really like to get out and have an adventure. I'm not into playing sports but I do like the outdoors. Driving down to Key Biscayne on a pleasant Saturday is very appealing to me. Traveling the world once I make my millions(ha!) is most definitely on my itinerary.

My passions include cooking, the outdoors(the beach!), the Spanish language and I have an urge to want to help out in the world. Later in life after I come to a more secure place financially I'd really like to get involved with charities.

If this sounds good to you we should exchange e-mail and see where things go. No better time to live life than now. I'm not looking for a cheap fling, so don't worry about anything like that. I'm a perfectly respectable gentleman..within reason. ;-)"

My idea for a first date is going to a coffee shop.


OMG Me too! Neato.

By the way, I just got your PM to look at what you wrote. Actually, I looked at this thread earlier today. I think it (and the final draft) are just great. Good luck finding someone : ) I've only been to 2 dating sites, and one of them was a May-December one. Nothing but ugly desperate guys. Not cool.

BTW, I only like older men who aren't desperate. Like... teachers. Oh Gawd, teachers! <333 I miss my high school band director... 

But why am I even saying this? God, it's 2:00am and I really need to go to bed.

BTW, I only like older men who aren't desperate. Like... teachers. Oh Gawd, teachers! <333 I miss my high school band director... 

But why am I even saying this? God, it's 2:00am and I really need to go to bed.
one of my close concert buddies ended up marrying her band teacher. they are about at least 20 years apart  :o they are both my friends and a perfect match.

What do you think of it Mike?

one of my close concert buddies ended up marrying her band teacher. they are about at least 20 years apart  :o they are both my friends and a perfect match.


God, she's so lucky. My band director was married, and to some ugly chick. He deserved so much better. Millsie (my nickname for him, lol) is going on 40, I do believe.

God, she's so lucky. My band director was married, and to some ugly chick. He deserved so much better. Millsie (my nickname for him, lol) is going on 40, I do believe.


We have something else in common because I kind of have a thing for older women. No offense to you. ;D

Couldn't have said it better myself!
Dee-dee-dee-dee-dee-dee-dee-dee-dee!

What do you think of it Mike?
what do I think of it?  me?, the good Mike  ;D  well, if I was a chick, I'd be thinking "this sounds like a really nice guy and I wouldn't mind meeting him"  It's good stuff Alex. very good.  My only ? would be in the opening statement, and it's a good opener
the trick to life is enjoying it  but the 2nd half  despite everything else makes me wonder what does that mean. Is the intention that your're determined to enjoy life (No Matter What)cheap Badfinger reference,  or does it mean you've had or have problems that won't keep you from enjoying life?  it depends on how you read it or perceive it. You did good and I'm thrilled to see you get up and do something for yourself. best of luck to ya.



God, she's so lucky. My band director was married, and to some ugly chick. He deserved so much better. Millsie (my nickname for him, lol) is going on 40, I do believe.
lucky? really?  you must like your band teacher.  my friend ended up cheating on her band teacher hubby, but I think they worked it out and now it's a 3-some  ;D

You and those Badfinger references.

lucky? really?  you must like your band teacher.  my friend ended up cheating on her band teacher hubby, but I think they worked it out and now it's a 3-some  ;D


God, I loved him. Everyone in band knew, too. My color guard buddies would be like, "Oh, look Ashley! There's Millsie!" I've always wondered if he knew, or if he liked me back. You should see my journal entries about him. God, I was such a teenager.

God, I loved him. Everyone in band knew, too. My color guard buddies would be like, "Oh, look Ashley! There's Millsie!" I've always wondered if he knew, or if he liked me back. You should see my journal entries about him. God, I was such a teenager.



You said he was married.  Is he divorced or no longer married? 

You and those Badfinger references.
skewed priorities  ???  but it did work into the post


God, I loved him. Everyone in band knew, too. My color guard buddies would be like, "Oh, look Ashley! There's Millsie!" I've always wondered if he knew, or if he liked me back. You should see my journal entries about him. God, I was such a teenager.
he knows, as I'm a guy, he knows  ;)

My only ? would be in the opening statement, and it's a good opener
the trick to life is enjoying it  but the 2nd half  despite everything else makes me wonder what does that mean. Is the intention that your're determined to enjoy life (No Matter What)cheap Badfinger reference,  or does it mean you've had or have problems that won't keep you from enjoying life?  it depends on how you read it or perceive it.


Well, it means both actually. I am determined to enjoy life no matter what, and I have had my problems.

You said he was married.  Is he divorced or no longer married? 


Naw, he's still married : (



he knows, as I'm a guy, he knows  ;)


That makes me happy, but sad at the same time. Why didn't he say anything? Well, I guess his job or marriage would have been on the line, but talking wouldn't have hurt, you know? Anyways, I feel bad for taking up Alex's thread. I'm going to the PPP and making a new thread about this.

No worries, nicki.

I've been inspired to become proactive about this because of an odd reason: http://www.inthe00s.com/index.php?topic=23092.msg1154609#msg1154609

It just made me realise I was being too hard on myself. What I want is already there for the taking, if only I'll go for it.

Well, it means both actually. I am determined to enjoy life no matter what, and I have had my problems.
it's a good honest, strong opener. keep it as it is, and I'd say don't change a thing, but that's up to you. I have a friend who's dated on Yahoo and she's met some decent guys, but she had some baggage and a couple of kids and the guys did not stick around. poor baby. but she got dates.


Naw, he's still married : (

That makes me happy, but sad at the same time. Why didn't he say anything? Well, I guess his job or marriage would have been on the line, but talking wouldn't have hurt, you know? Anyways, I feel bad for taking up Alex's thread. I'm going to the PPP and making a new thread about this.
talking can lead to more talking which can lead to intimacy and then that can lead to trouble  :o it is sad, but in the real world, it could cost him everything if he fell for a young lady at the age you were. I think it's cool to have crushes on people even if they don't become more than just a passing fancy and good to remain friends too.

It's a good advert and I'm sure it will work. I also have friends who met on the internet, one set got married last year!

My cousin David met his wife Elisha online.....granted it was a Mormon chat room, but it was still online.

Well so far I've sent winks to 12 women, ranging from ages 19 to 35. ;D

I'll hopefully be getting my sub by next week, so we'll be able to really communicate. Heres hoping a few of them wink back at me.

Well so far I've sent winks to 12 women, ranging from ages 19 to 35. ;D

I'll hopefully be getting my sub by next week, so we'll be able to really communicate. Heres hoping a few of them wink back at me.


The next step is to talk to all and not focus on one in the beginning, no matter how "right" one may feel, as you go along you may find another who, after conversation, if "righter".

Thats good advice Danoota, thank you. I shouldn't put all my eggs in one basket. :)

Sent 16 more winks.

Sent 16 more winks.


Cool.  8)

My cousin David met his wife Elisha online.....granted it was a Mormon chat room, but it was still online.



I met my boyfriend on this forum. Wasn't looking, but I'm happy that it happened. I used to be uncomfortable telling people how I met him, but as time goes on, I find there's nothing wrong with how we met.



Your description was awesome, Alex. The best of luck to you.

I met Chris online too. At the time, one of my friends was talking to him...and she sort of introduced us. We talked online for a long time before meeting in person.

I met my boyfriend on this forum. Wasn't looking, but I'm happy that it happened. I used to be uncomfortable telling people how I met him, but as time goes on, I find there's nothing wrong with how we met.



Your description was awesome, Alex. The best of luck to you.


Man, you didn't even have to look, and he's like... the best boyfriend evar!

Well... one of them...

Man, you didn't even have to look, and he's like... the best boyfriend evar!

Well... one of them...


I know! Pretty crazy.

I'm going to be the best boyfriend ever.

And I sent out 20 more winks. w00t! :D

I met Matt because Shawn was friends with him on myspace. Ah, don't you love how technology brings people together?

I met my husband online too - Yahoo Personals to be exact!

Wow, hearing about all these couples who met online is very encouraging. :)

Oh, you've taught me very much. I just decided to be difficult and not obey your orders.


You've let us both down.

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Back when I was single, I was a member of the "Loveline" myself.

I met many wonderful women out there, and I remained friends with quite a few, until I went to college, and had the one experience that changed my life forever.

I hope your foxhunting goes well, Alex.

There has been much sage advice out here, and I am glad to see that you are serious about considering it.

I may have to just pass the official torch to you, m'son!

I'm going to be the best boyfriend ever.



Be sure to add your trait of modesty in your description as well! :D

You've let us both down.

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W'll, hey, yanno...

... ...

... HOW DARE YOU USE BECK ON ME!? *Cries*

Be sure to add your trait of modesty in your description as well! :D


Hmm, do I detect a hint of sarcasm here? :D

Hmm, do I detect a hint of sarcasm here? :D


I think she was being completely serious.

I'm a bit disappointed at the moment. I've sent out about 50 winks altogether, but only got one wink back(which was an affirmative wink, not a rejection wink, at least). 8 of out of the 20 women saved in my favorites have been online in the last 24 hours(profiles show when people've been online), no wink back though.

A rejection wink at least would be appreciated. Sucks being left hanging.

I guess these winks don't work that great, I need to write them messages. I'm getting my money order this afternoon, so it should be in the mail tomorrow morning. The Match.com offices are actually in Dallas, so it should only take a day to get there. So by Saturday I should have my subscription activiated and be able to send e-mail.


I think she was being completely serious.


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I'm a bit disappointed at the moment. I've sent out about 50 winks altogether, but only got one wink back(which was an affirmative wink, not a rejection wink, at least). 8 of out of the 20 women saved in my favorites have been online in the last 24 hours(profiles show when people've been online), no wink back though.

A rejection wink at least would be appreciated. Sucks being left hanging.

I guess these winks don't work that great, I need to write them messages. I'm getting my money order this afternoon, so it should be in the mail tomorrow morning. The Match.com offices are actually in Dallas, so it should only take a day to get there. So by Saturday I should have my subscription activiated and be able to send e-mail.

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Alex, women don't rush into these things, we like to think about it!

Alex, women don't rush into these things, we like to think about it!


That one woman who sent me a wink back in the positive did so immediately. I think this means at least in the case of those who have been online in the past 24 hours since I've sent them, no.

Maybe they didn't want to respond.

Maybe they didn't want to respond.


Its just common courtesy to respond with a yes or a no. >:(

That one woman who sent me a wink back in the positive did so immediately. I think this means at least in the case of those who have been online in the past 24 hours since I've sent them, no.
Maybe maybe not.If it was me I'd read your ad and go away and think about it, then come back later or the next day and read it again, and possibly still think about it a bit longer! But yes it's true maybe they just chose not to reply.  

They're not required to respond.  I'd rather no answers at all then 49 "no"s.

Dude, chicks are jerks.

They do all that thinking crap.. losers. If I were a chick, you know I'd be all "Yoooo.. I want some dick to-nitahh!"

But yes it's true maybe they just chose not to reply. 


It hurts. :(


They're not required to respond.  I'd rather no answers at all then 49 "no"s.


No sh*t they aren't required to respond, theres a difference between something thats required and something thats the right thing to do and the courteous, right thing to do is to respond, even with a no. I'd rather have a no than a nothing, a nothing is much worse to me.  :-
Dude, chicks are jerks.

They do all that thinking crap.. losers. If I were a chick, you know I'd be all "Yoooo.. I want some dick to-nitahh!"


Thinking my arse. With the majority of them its been 24 hours since I've sent them and I know they've been online in the past 24 hours.

No sh*t they aren't required to respond, theres a difference between something thats required and something thats the right thing to do and the courteous, right thing to do is to respond, even with a no. I'd rather have a no than a nothing, a nothing is much worse to me.  :-[


So instead of 1 yes and 49 undecideds that could turn into yesses, you'd rather have those 49 women give you the internet equivalent of a "f*ck you"?  Yeah, that'll help your self-esteem and improve your opinion of women.

So instead of 1 yes and 49 undecideds that could turn into yesses, you'd rather have those 49 women give you the internet equivalent of a "f*ck you"?  Yeah, that'll help your self-esteem and improve your opinion of women.


Beth its obvious they're all no's anyhow, so yeah I'd rather them be straight up about it rather than just not wink back to let me know. Being ignored is worse for my self-esteem than a no.

How do you know they're all no's?  Sh*t....give people time.

A good profile helps, but you can't get around being unattractive I guess.  :-\\

nobody answers winks. i get winks from time to time and i never answer them. i think i answered one wink, and her profile pic looked like meatballs-II-vintage kim richards. that's what it takes. usually i think, okay, she was interested enough to send a wink but not interesting enough to actually write something.

read their profile, think of something catchy to respond with, and actually send an email. it's the only thing that works. winks are for crap.

nobody answers winks. i get winks from time to time and i never answer them. i think i answered one wink, and her profile pic looked like meatballs-II-vintage kim richards. that's what it takes. usually i think, okay, she was interested enough to send a wink but not interesting enough to actually write something.

read their profile, think of something catchy to respond with, and actually send an email. it's the only thing that works. winks are for crap.


You have to have a sub to write e-mail.

It seems incourteous not to answer them to me.

Ahh, there is obviously an etiquette here then that Tia seems to know all about.

Well what can I do? I don't have a sub. F@#$ I wish I had a credit card.

You have a job?  Get a credit card.  I have one and I don't have a job.

You have a job?  Get a credit card.  I have one and I don't have a job.


Er, nevermind.

What?  Do you have a job?  Yes?  Then get one.

What?  Do you have a job?  Yes?  Then get one.


Well I have a job but I might as well not have one as far as they're concerned.

Well I have a job but I might as well not have one as far as they're concerned.


Get one through your bank.  You have a bank, right?

It will take me awhile to get a card anyway, so its useless arguing about whether or not I can get one.

I guess I'll just have to wait a couple days to do anything. :(

This all could have been solved if I could of used my mom's credit cards but they're all max'd out because of Christmas.

Gah, I'm lonely. The holidays are going to suck being alone...again.

Time for a Rum Nog I think.

I'm alone for the holidays too, but they won't suck for me.  I make them not suck.  You actually have to work to make them not suck.

Well what can I do? I don't have a sub. F@#$ I wish I had a credit card.
you gotta break an omletee to eat some eggs. or whatever. they want money before they give you your life mate.

you can use snail mail and pay by check or money order, i'm sure. it's tricker but click around on the info pages on the site youre using and i'm sure you can get info on it. it's the only way to go.

a couple of my favorite christmases, i spent alone. love the dawn-of-the-dead after-the-apocalypse feel of christmas when family is far away and you just have you and the world with no one else in it. good time to bring your walkman and listen to some HuG.

Then again i'm just sorta f**ked up that way.

Time for a Rum Nog I think.
dude, the love of a rum nog is unconditional. you ain't doing so bad. there's starving children in africa, you know!

(cue davey ;D)

Then again i'm just sorta f**ked up that way.



I refuse to believe that.

you gotta break an omletee to eat some eggs. or whatever. they want money before they give you your life mate.

you can use snail mail and pay by check or money order, i'm sure. it's tricker but click around on the info pages on the site youre using and i'm sure you can get info on it. it's the only way to go.



Yeah I know thats what I'll do I suppose, it just annoys me that it'll take a few days. I spent hours searching profiles, finding ones I liked, sending out winks..it was frustrating for it not to work.


dude, the love of a rum nog is unconditional.


Yes, yes it is. ;D

dude, the love of a rum nog is unconditional. you ain't doing so bad. there's starving children in africa, you know!

(cue davey ;D)


Lord, on this christmas day let us be thankful for our family.. our friends, the wonderful possessions we have.. and the starving children in Africa... fu.ck em!

Okay so after mulling things over the past few days and really trying to get inside myself about this whole dating issue, and see what I truely feel, I think I've come to an important realisation for myself. And thats that whats important is being genuine and really getting to know someone. I've thought about things I want in life, my general outlook and come to the conclusion that the right attitude goes a long way.

So this is the profile description I wrote for myself on Yahoo! personals, I want feedback on it. There won't be any fussing or anything of the sort, I promise.

Headline: Lets take a chance

"The trick to life is enjoying it despite everything else. Thats what I try to live by, anyhow. I'm not unambitious though, I'm a gourmet and plan on owning my own restaurant some day. I'm relocating to the South Florida area with my family because of business oppurtunities. I'm a little reserved at first, but once I get to know you I'm a warm and easy going guy. I don't have any baggage from previous relationships so if you're trying to avoid drama look no further. I don't want to make up for anything in the past, I just want to enjoy the present and get to know new people.

I can enjoy hanging out at the house watching movies, listening to music, cooking etc. but I also really like to get out and have an adventure. I'm not into playing sports but I do like the outdoors. Driving down to Key Biscayne on a pleasant Saturday is very appealing to me. Traveling the world once I make my millions(ha!) is most definitely on my itinerary.

If this sounds good to you we should exchange e-mail and see where things go. No better time to live life than now. I'm not looking for a booty call, so don't worry about anything like that. I'm a perfectly respectable gentleman..within reason.  ;-)"


What do you guys think of it?

Hi Alex,

It's  a  little late, I know.. I haven't had much time this week to hang out on the boards here..
I just read your 'ad' . It's good. It's also a little vague. It talks of your interests, but it doesn't say what your physical features are or what you are looking for in a mate physically. (Face it, if we read the personals, most of us are wondering, 'what does he/she look like').  I'm no expert as I've never placed an ad or answered an ad, but maybe, a brief description, i.e. height, hair,eye color, age, build , would spice it up.  Don't worry if you are bald or 20 lbs overweight or a tall lanky type.. there are people who look for all types.. :)
But for the most  part, your ad is good. If I weren't married, and I were looking for someone in the Florida area, that would definitely make my '2nd look' list. 
Take care Alex.. and good luck.

I'm a bit disappointed at the moment. I've sent out about 50 winks altogether, but only got one wink back(which was an affirmative wink, not a rejection wink, at least). 8 of out of the 20 women saved in my favorites have been online in the last 24 hours(profiles show when people've been online), no wink back though.

A rejection wink at least would be appreciated. Sucks being left hanging.

I guess these winks don't work that great, I need to write them messages. I'm getting my money order this afternoon, so it should be in the mail tomorrow morning. The Match.com offices are actually in Dallas, so it should only take a day to get there. So by Saturday I should have my subscription activiated and be able to send e-mail.

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Patience is a virtue.  Persistence also helps. Think about it, maybe the persons you've sent the winks to, have gotten dozens of winks from maybe some not so charming guys... and maybe they just have lost faith in those winks.. and choose to ignore them..  (that doesn't make a person a bad or discourteous person.. everyone has their reasons). But if you maybe send follow up 'winks' along with a warm message, maybe that will turn their heads.  But if not, then you can at least say you tried. 

You wrote a very nice profile, Alex. I think this is who you've always been and sometimes it takes a little while to go back to where you stood in the first place. Don't get discouraged either, because it takes time to get that special girl. Also, look into myspace.com, as I know there have been some successful matches made on there, too.  :)

Hi Alex,

It's  a  little late, I know.. I haven't had much time this week to hang out on the boards here..
I just read your 'ad' . It's good. It's also a little vague. It talks of your interests, but it doesn't say what your physical features are or what you are looking for in a mate physically. (Face it, if we read the personals, most of us are wondering, 'what does he/she look like').  I'm no expert as I've never placed an ad or answered an ad, but maybe, a brief description, i.e. height, hair,eye color, age, build , would spice it up.  Don't worry if you are bald or 20 lbs overweight or a tall lanky type.. there are people who look for all types.. :)
But for the most  part, your ad is good. If I weren't married, and I were looking for someone in the Florida area, that would definitely make my '2nd look' list. 
Take care Alex.. and good luck.


Theres a picture of me on my profile. ;)


Patience is a virtue.  Persistence also helps. Think about it, maybe the persons you've sent the winks to, have gotten dozens of winks from maybe some not so charming guys... and maybe they just have lost faith in those winks.. and choose to ignore them..  (that doesn't make a person a bad or discourteous person.. everyone has their reasons). But if you maybe send follow up 'winks' along with a warm message, maybe that will turn their heads.  But if not, then you can at least say you tried. 


Yeah, maybe so.


You wrote a very nice profile, Alex. I think this is who you've always been and sometimes it takes a little while to go back to where you stood in the first place. Don't get discouraged either, because it takes time to get that special girl. Also, look into myspace.com, as I know there have been some successful matches made on there, too.  :)


Thanks, Krissy.

Okay well I'm sending a few more winks so I can feel like I'm doing something, as I cannot yet send e-mails.

I'm also adding certain profiles to my 'favorites' so I can message them once my subscription does go into effect.

nobody answers winks. i get winks from time to time and i never answer them. i think i answered one wink, and her profile pic looked like meatballs-II-vintage kim richards. that's what it takes. usually i think, okay, she was interested enough to send a wink but not interesting enough to actually write something.

read their profile, think of something catchy to respond with, and actually send an email. it's the only thing that works. winks are for crap.


I agree wholeheartedly with what Tia said. 

To share some of my experiences - I think most people know I live in Utah.  Well the Salt Lake Valley is something like 80% Mormon, so if you aren't Mormon and don't want to meet people in bars, it is pretty much impossible to meet people around here.  I got on the personals just so I could meet some new guys, but I wasn't looking for a relationship at all.  (The fact that I ended up marrying my husband on there was pure chance and a whole 'nother story.)  Anyway, I got tons of winks - I think girls get a lot more than guys do.  I simply didn't have time to respond to all of them.  I know it might make me sound like a jerk, but that's the truth.  The people I actually responded to were the ones who took the time to send me an email telling me about themselves.  I realize that isn't possible for you to do right now, but be patient.  As soon as you get your account activated, go back over some of the girls you picked, and send thoughtful emails to a few of them, being more specific about yourself.  I'm sure you'll get a better response.  And remember, Rome wasn't built in a day.

I agree wholeheartedly with what Tia said. 

To share some of my experiences - I think most people know I live in Utah.  Well the Salt Lake Valley is something like 80% Mormon, so if you aren't Mormon and don't want to meet people in bars, it is pretty much impossible to meet people around here.  I got on the personals just so I could meet some new guys, but I wasn't looking for a relationship at all.  (The fact that I ended up marrying my husband on there was pure chance and a whole 'nother story.)  Anyway, I got tons of winks - I think girls get a lot more than guys do.  I simply didn't have time to respond to all of them.  I know it might make me sound like a jerk, but that's the truth.  The people I actually responded to were the ones who took the time to send me an email telling me about themselves.  I realize that isn't possible for you to do right now, but be patient.  As soon as you get your account activated, go back over some of the girls you picked, and send thoughtful emails to a few of them, being more specific about yourself.  I'm sure you'll get a better response.  And remember, Rome wasn't built in a day.


Thanks, Ash

Okay well I'm sending a few more winks so I can feel like I'm doing something, as I cannot yet send e-mails.

I'm also adding certain profiles to my 'favorites' so I can message them once my subscription does go into effect.
Alex, when did you first submit your profile as a potential candidate?  wasn't it just a day or 2 ago? 

Alex, when did you first submit your profile as a potential candidate?  wasn't it just a day or 2 ago? 


Couple of days ago. However I've sent winks to about 60 different women. Only got 1 back, so far...

Couple of days ago. However I've sent winks to about 60 different women. Only got 1 back, so far...



wow, your eye must be tired, Dude. ;) ;D

wow, your eye must be tired, Dude. ;) ;D


Hee!  ;D

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This is my current profile pic. I don't think I'm very attractive...



wow, your eye must be tired, Dude. ;) ;D


;D

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This is my current profile pic. I don't think I'm very attractive...


Cut your hair a bit, and make your goatee more center-focused.

Cut your hair a bit, and make your goatee more center-focused.


And by a bit, I mean a lot.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v675/bobbymcgee/alex1.jpg

This is my current profile pic. I don't think I'm very attractive...

;D





Alex...it's just a bad quality pic (you can't really see what you look like)...however, I will say that you look great! I can tell that you've lost a lot of weight...you let your hair grow out....I think once you get a better camera and include a few different poses..that will make a big difference! :)

Alex...it's just a bad quality pic (you can't really see what you look like)...however, I will say that you look great! I can tell that you've lost a lot of weight...you let your hair grow out....I think once you get a better camera and include a few different poses..that will make a big difference! :)


Just wait for your new camera tomorrow! =D

Alex...it's just a bad quality pic (you can't really see what you look like)...however, I will say that you look great! I can tell that you've lost a lot of weight...you let your hair grow out....I think once you get a better camera and include a few different poses..that will make a big difference! :)


And smile!  :)

Cut your hair a bit, and make your goatee more center-focused.

And by a bit, I mean a lot.


No way. I appreciate the suggestion and all, but theres no way I'd ever do that. As far as I'm concerned I've got my long hair for life. And its been 2 months since I've taken that pic now(it was in late October), so its longer. Its getting close to being long enough to tie back. The back is long enough but the sides aren't, I'm trying to wait for the sides to get long enough, then I'm going to have the back trimmed to be even with the sides.

I know a lot of today's women don't like long hair(a lot of them seem to want dudes who wax their chests now..ugh), on Match.com about half(and I mean literally half) or more of the profiles I look at have Long hair listed as a turn-off. But I like it and shouldn't cut it just to please others.


Just wait for your new camera tomorrow! =D


Actually my psoriasis is kinda bad right now, I need to get it under control. Might be a few days before I'm ready to take new photos and post them.  :-\\

Thats been one of the things other than my weight to help repel away women. Sores on your face aren't too attractive.

Actually my psoriasis is kinda bad right now, I need to get it under control. Might be a few days before I'm ready to take new photos and post them.  :-\\

Thats been one of the things other than my weight to help repel away women. Sores on your face aren't too attractive.



do you have medication for it?

do you have medication for it?


Well the only medication for it per se is a shot developed about 4 years ago, that is taken monthly, and each shot costs over a thousand dollars. :o

The places on your skin such as your face or knees you just have to put lots of creams on such as hydrocortisone, and on my scalp I just have to scrub the hell out of it and scrape the patches off, and just keep them off that way. Theres no cure for it, yet. Its one of the things theres a strong chance of curing with stem cell research though. Its a blood-based disease.

Well the only medication for it per se is a shot developed about 4 years ago, that is taken monthly, and each shot costs over a thousand dollars. :o

The places on your skin such as your face or knees you just have to put lots of creams on such as hydrocortisone, and on my scalp I just have to scrub the hell out of it and scrape the patches off, and just keep them off that way. Theres no cure for it, yet. Its one of the things theres a strong chance of curing with stem cell research though. Its a blood-based disease.


oh wow...that's a lot of money for one shot!! :o

oh wow...that's a lot of money for one shot!! :o


Yeah it really is.

Its a pain in the azz having psoriasis. I remember being made fun of for it in junior high, they'd call me herpes face. ::)

oh wow...that's a lot of money for one shot!! :o


Would it even be worth it!?