It works the other way, too. Sometimes people are willing to look past a bad personality if the person is really attractive... the internet rules that out, at least in the early stages.


That's true. Of course, it's incredibly easy to fake an attractive personality. 

That's true. Of course, it's incredibly easy to fake an attractive personality. 


At first, yes.. my ex did that... but eventually, you see their true character.. a charade can only last so long.

At first, yes.. my ex did that... but eventually, you see their true character.. a charade can only last so long.


That's true.  For instance, "Donnie Darko" isn't exactly the same person as the guy who voices him, but there's definitely enough of my writer in me that you have an idea what I'm like, after thousands of posts.

That's true.  For instance, "Donnie Darko" isn't exactly the same person as the guy who voices him, but there's definitely enough of my writer in me that you have an idea what I'm like, after thousands of posts.


Yeah.. you eventually get a feel for someone's character.

I met my last two boyfriends online. But, they both started out as friendships and then gravitated towards romance, so it wasn't something we were both seeking at the get go. I have no regrets. No matter how you meet your mate is a wonder in itself.  :)

I agree. I can't imagine having to Internet date. I'm not socially inept. I met my husband the traditional way. I asked him out in person and we went from there.


I'm not very good at conversing with strangers in person. 

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its okay I don't care about women anymore anyhow.  What are they good for?

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Yeah but they're boring.

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some are, and some are quite enchanting. Dude, you are gonna fall so hard in love with the first girl that comes around


I agree. There are some women who can really turn men off, but he's got to realise it's a similiar deal for women as well. But, obviously some of us must be doing something right otherwise there would be a lot of boring single people hanging around.  ;D

I agree. There are some women who can really turn men off, but he's got to realise it's a similiar deal for women as well. But, obviously some of us must be doing something right otherwise there would be a lot of boring single people hanging around.  ;D
Some of you are definitely doing something right.  ;)  It's quite an unusual phenomena, that someone can be very flamboyant and exciting and social on the internet, and in person that personna shys away and a spirit of timidity takes over.

It seems like men have the harder role to play in dating.

Sometimes I think if I were a woman things would be different because they don't have to pursue.

Some of you are definitely doing something right.  ;)  It's quite an unusual phenomena, that someone can be very flamboyant and exciting and social on the internet, and in person that personna shys away and a spirit of timidity takes over.


The internet can really be deceiving. I mean, I myself probably talk on here more openly than I would in person, but that's because I seem to take it that we all rather think on similar levels, so I know my limits. The nice thing about chatting or Internet dating is you can edit yourself. Talking in person and just rambling off without thinking much of what you're saying kinda gets you nowhere and if you don't hardly talk at all, you're in a similar disposition.

One time, I was at a friend's birthday party. And she had A LOT of people there, mixed with boys and girls and so on.. but it was a clean party, no alcohol and the like, and it was mostly fun. I started talking to the adults (as I seem to always end up doing) rather than the kids my age, but the boys started coming around and we began talking about world war II and fighter planes. By the time I left, I had a few phone numbers from boys who I hardly knew. I couldn't believe it didn't take any dance moves or making out to get these guys to like me. I had found my elixir for success, lol  ;D

I hope if I keep working out eventually I'll be good looking enough women will approach me.

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Just keep yourself motivated. The right girl will come at the right time, regardless of looks. Really, your personality will come right down to it. If you and her mesh well, then you've got the winning recipe. See, it's like a chemistry thing - it has to be just right  ;)


If I'm good looking enough she will choose to approach me- I want to be approached.


Talking.  Girls talk so much better than guys.


Ha!  I always enjoy my conversations with my male friends ten times better.  Girls are kind of boring to talk to, actually.  :-\\

Talking.  Girls talk so much better than guys.


Girls I think are more thoughtful. Guys are more blunt. This is what sometimes get's guys in trouble with women..  ;D

Girls I think are more thoughtful. Guys are more blunt. This is what sometimes get's guys in trouble with women..  ;D


Yeah... one thing about gals is you never know what they wanna talk about.  I'm always afraid I'm boring them to death  ;D

The internet can really be deceiving. I mean, I myself probably talk on here more openly than I would in person, but that's because I seem to take it that we all rather think on similar levels, so I know my limits. The nice thing about chatting or Internet dating is you can edit yourself. Talking in person and just rambling off without thinking much of what you're saying kinda gets you nowhere and if you don't hardly talk at all, you're in a similar disposition.

One time, I was at a friend's birthday party. And she had A LOT of people there, mixed with boys and girls and so on.. but it was a clean party, no alcohol and the like, and it was mostly fun. I started talking to the adults (as I seem to always end up doing) rather than the kids my age, but the boys started coming around and we began talking about world war II and fighter planes. By the time I left, I had a few phone numbers from boys who I hardly knew. I couldn't believe it didn't take any dance moves or making out to get these guys to like me. I had found my elixir for success, lol  ;D
you're quite the smooth operator Krissy  8)  Good point you make about being able to edit online.  In person you don't have the luxury to take a moment to think of the perfect best response and in person it's easy to spew out some mistakes  :o So at your party, talking to the adults attracted the young prey and then you were able to pounce on them and get the #'s.  ;D  thats a cute story. I think you'd be quite the same in person, in my opinion.

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Looks may get you somebody, but that may be about it. Whatever method you wish to get a girl, go ahead and try it out - it may work or it may not. But, if you want something lasting, look beyond the physical and dig deeper into the mind.

I generally enjoy talking to girls who are more on the masculine side. Not like lesbians, but just not the super prissy ones who talk about shopping all the time. Again, there are lots of different women out there, just as there are lots of different men. We can't close ourselves off from what true potential is out there for us.


Yeah ... I like deep girls.  Girls who like to ... well excuse the corny '80s pun ... have fun  ;D

Looks may get you somebody, but that may be about it. Whatever method you wish to get a girl, go ahead and try it out - it may work or it may not. But, if you want something lasting, look beyond the physical and dig deeper into the mind.

I CAN'T APPROACH WOMEN. I WANT TO BE GOOD LOOKING SO WOMEN WILL CHOOSE TO APPROACH ME.

you're quite the smooth operator Krissy  8)  Good point you make about being able to edit online.  In person you don't have the luxury to take a moment to think of the perfect best response and in person it's easy to spew out some mistakes  :o So at your party, talking to the adults attracted the young prey and then you were able to pounce on them and get the #'s.  ;D  thats a cute story. I think you'd be quite the same in person, in my opinion.
I think it can also help you with your own self-confidence and I fully support getting fit and taking pride in one's self. Keep up the good work Alex. That's something to have in common with a member of the opposite sex, working out, give you a topic to talk about if nothing else comes to mind.


lol, I swear I wasn;t looking for it, I swear..  ;D


And you're right about having something in common to talk about, such as the physical fitness thing. That may be a good attraction getter in that sense as well  ;)

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Sorry for all caps but I had been trying to tell you that and it seemed like you thought I was saying looks are first to me and thats not it.  I just think I have more chance of being approached if I'm better looking.

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I'll be alone for awhile I think, and perhaps rightly so afterall.

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Putting on a front is a turn-off and any woman will tell you that.  Sure it's fun to pretend to be Fabio when you're online because the person you're talking to has no way of knowing what you really look like, but that won't translate well off-line.  You shouldn't have to lie to someone to get them to like you. 

Some women do the approaching rather than wait for guys to come to them, so if you see a girl you think is cute and you wanna chat them up, give them a signal you'd like to talk.  Have a drink sent to them, smile in their direction......stuff like that.  Chances are good they might come over and say hi.


I dont think you understood me.  What I'm saying is I'm working out FOR REAL in REAL LIFE so that I'lll get in better shape and be therefore more physically appealing, so theres more chance she'll make the first move.  I'm too shy to myself.

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I was- but its gonna be a year now.  I'll probably go with my cousin/best friend after he graduates from H.S. in 2007; he wants to be a chef too.

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All this talk of dating makes me think it would be fun to have a thread for Dating Stories:  The Best and the Worst.  But being fairly new, I don't know if you guys have done this already.  So...tell me....have you done this already?  (Sorry, I barely have time to read the current threads so asking is more efficient than searching through page after page).

All this talk of dating makes me think it would be fun to have a thread for Dating Stories:  The Best and the Worst.  But being fairly new, I don't know if you guys have done this already.  So...tell me....have you done this already?  (Sorry, I barely have time to read the current threads so asking is more efficient than searching through page after page).



I know we've had a thread about the "mate from hell"....but I am not sure about dating stories.....I say, give it a go! ;)

Bump ^

I still believe online chatting, dating, etc. is still successful for the most part - my brother and his wife are now another one to attest to that :)

I totally think it can work out! :)

Sometimes the best people in the world you could possibly know are online, even if you never initially intended it to be that way. That's not to say it's a replacement for face to face interaction, but I think it's somewhat easler and less intimidating to converse and meet people online. Because they get to see the "real you" and you can take time to express yourself in more detail and work out responses.

Also, there's easier ways to find things in common. For instance, alot of people on this board are quite old-school and/or nostalgic. Whereas in real life, you never know who you'll run across.

P.S. I feel all warm and cozy just reading this thread. It's from a year and a half ago (old school), started by one of my good buddies (even if he's a former member) and most importantly, it now relates to how I feel about the greatest, most beautiful woman on this Earth...that I'm so thankful everyday for knowing and being close with. :)

Sometimes the best people in the world you could possibly know are online, even if you never initially intended it to be that way. That's not to say it's a replacement for face to face interaction, but I think it's somewhat easler and less intimidating to converse and meet people online. Because they get to see the "real you" and you can take time to work out responses. Also, there's easier ways to find things in common. For instance, alot of people on this board are quite old-school and/or nostalgic.

P.S. I feel all warm and cozy just reading this thread. It's from a year and a half ago (old school), started by one of my good buddies (even if he's a former member) and most importantly, it now relates to how I feel about the greatest, most beautiful woman on this Earth...that I'm so thankful whom I know and am close with. :)




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All this talk of dating makes me think it would be fun to have a thread for Dating Stories:  The Best and the Worst.  But being fairly new, I don't know if you guys have done this already.  So...tell me....have you done this already?  (Sorry, I barely have time to read the current threads so asking is more efficient than searching through page after page).



did this thread ever get started? I missed it if it did

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I dedicated U Got it Bad to you guys the other day on what 2000s song are you listening to?  but you might have missed it so I dedicate it to you again!  ;D  Happy New Year... hope you hook up.  In the good way not the creepy way....  ;)

I dedicated U Got it Bad to you guys the other day on what 2000s song are you listening to?  but you might have missed it so I dedicate it to you again!   ;D  Happy New Year... hope you hook up.  In the good way not the creepy way....  ;)



awww...thanks girl...how very sweet of you!! :)

YW  HAPPY NEW YEAR!  8)

And my girlfriend thought that she was gonna find someone from those on-line dating websites.I've been playing her games much too long and you know something? She lost The Dating Game and now she has me,She'll never go on anymore sites cause she has learned her lesson.

I don't even trust those myself. ::)