I'm asking, because I've read different opinions about it.  I've heard that people are making a big mistake in having an online romance because it's just a fantasy and you can't truly love someone unless you meet them in person, yet others have said it's fine, romance has to hit the 21st century somehow.
IMHO, I think it depends on the people involved, because you have to be totally trustworthy with the person to really get into them.  I'm in a budding romance online with someone, and I'm going slowly with him.  I was in another online romance, but it was one sided and I got obsessed with the person and caused them major issues because I was jealous of them.  I didn't trust this person and I wasn't confident in myself to even trust me.  But this budding romance is different.  We were good friends before the spark hit and BAM!!!  I'm in love.
But I just wanted your opinions about it. 

Well, I'm currently dating someone I met on the internet (Actually, someone on this forum). Honestly, It's something I was always against, and thought I would never do. But, it happened---I'm REALLY glad it did. However, we met in person before we started anything, just to make sure one of us wasn't a 65 year old chain-smoking sofa.  :D

I haven't met this person in person yet (probably won't for a while because of our finances), but we did speak on the phone a couple of times.  I'd love to see him, but it's nice to just chat online with him.  ;D

I don't believe in online romances.You never know who you're going to be meeting these days.There a lot of kooky people out there.

I don't believe in online romances.You never know who you're going to be meeting these days.There a lot of kooky people out there.


But there are alot of kooky people out there that you meet in real life that hide it well.

I have never been invloved in an online romance so I am not an expert.  I think it is just like other romances.  It could work out badly or it could be good.  Just be careful.

Well...I actually met my husband through a friend...but she knew him from being online...and we both happened to be from the same town.  Yes...it's true..there are a LOT of strange rangers online who are lurking around looking for someone to stalk, torment, or lie to....but you can find that in real life...meeting someone at a local coffee shop. You have to be cautious of whoever you meet, no matter how you meet them.




Erin :)

I've had nothing but bad luck with girls that I've met online.  The worst one ever was pregnant w/ child and she neglected to tell me online.  Apparently the guy who knocked her up went to prison, so she was looking for some Sugar Daddy with $$$

Um .. no thanx

I've had nothing but bad luck with girls that I've met online.  The worst one ever was pregnant w/ child and she neglected to tell me online.  Apparently the guy who knocked her up went to prison, so she was looking for some Sugar Daddy with $$$

Um .. no thanx



that sucks!  One time I met this real crazy guy online.....he acted like he was a female online...but was a guy in person.




Erin :)

It can definitely work, Molly. However, it depends on the circumstances and whether there is a development in place. It would be extremely difficult if there isn't a plan of action to meet each other as that seals how compatible you both are.

I don't believe in online romances.You never know who you're going to be meeting these days.There a lot of kooky people out there.



I could be a forty year old fat man

I've known people who it worked for, and others who said they wouldn't do it again. So it can go both ways. Before you can say "You're in Love" you need to meet this person IRL.  If it doesn't work out, then move on. Like a few said here. SOME people will lie to you, just because they can. So if you think you really are falling for this person. Make a date to meet in a PUBLIC place.  ;) There are crazies out there , and your safety is more important.

As with anything else online, I think it can work, just a little differently. I'm not speaking from experience (the only people I know online have only been "friends" - in some cases good friends, but nothing more nonetheless), but I know it has worked for some people.

However, if ever you're gonna meet someone from the Internet, I'd always suggest doing it in a public, very "safe" place. I'd also suggest talking a bit on the phone first too, just to make sure the person is "for real".

As with anything else, I have a saying that holds true for alot of things: The bad ones give the good ones a bad rap. In other words, there's psychos and weirdos online, but that shouldn't deter anyone from knowing there's plenty of good people too.

Just be careful, though.

I could be a forty year old fat man


Nowadays, you never know..... ;D

I could be a forty year old fat man


Ahem!

I am a forty (almost!) year old fat man...language, please...!!

I could be a forty year old fat man


I'm a sixty four year old Asian woman who escaped from a mental institute.

I'm a sixty four year old Asian woman who escaped from a mental institute.


Ha ha!

As for this 'are they who they are' business, I think people have a sixth sense to distinguish what is a fake and what is true. Usually photographs, telephone calls and even using webcam can be ideal tools to determine who you have fallen in love with.

I'm a sixty four year old Asian woman who escaped from a mental institute.


I can't say I'm not surprised  ;D  :P

Ha ha!

As for this 'are they who they are' business, I think people have a sixth sense to distinguish what is a fake and what is true. Usually photographs, telephone calls and even using webcam can be ideal tools to determine who you have fallen in love with.


I know with my current blossoming relationship I've used a webcam, talked to him on the phone and I've seen his picture and he's seen mine.  The only problem I have is we live so far away, he lives in North Dekota and I live in New York. 
I've looked for men here in Buffalo, but I haven't had any luck. 

I know with my current blossoming relationship I've used a webcam, talked to him on the phone and I've seen his picture and he's seen mine.  The only problem I have is we live so far away, he lives in North Dekota and I live in New York. 
I've looked for men here in Buffalo, but I haven't had any luck. 


It sounds like you have integrity in that relationship, Molly. Excellent news.

I have always been aware of the advantages of webcam but haven't got around to buying one. Someone told me I would need a faster USB port (0.2 or something like that) to get the best video capture.

Good luck with your relationship. It sounds promising. Distance is only a problem if you think it's a problem. If you both want to meet that bad, you will make it happen one way or another.  ;)

I don't think an online romance is for me.  I don't think I could develop any kind of feelings for someone unless I knew them in real life.

I am also suspicious by nature, which wouldn't make it any easier for me.

But hey, if it makes you happy, there's nothing wrong with that!

I also don't understand having feelings for someone on the internet.

It all seems so impersonal.

I did it once but I'll never do it again. I say if it floats youir boat g'head. ::)

I also don't understand having feelings for someone on the internet.

It all seems so impersonal.


You'd be surprised.

The only problem being is that it is very easy to project your ideal on the person involved.

Man, they're retarded! Thank God I don't anyone stupid enough to get into one of them...  ;D

Man, they're retarded! Thank God I don't anyone stupid enough to get into one of them...  ;D



One time I heard of a Xanga relationship. LAME! Have you ever heard of something like THAT before?  :D

One time I heard of a Xanga relationship. LAME! Have you ever heard of something like THAT before?  :D


Oh, Sweet Jesus, that's just sad. Thank God I don't know anyone like that.. they're pathetic.

Why is so pathetic to have an online relationship?  Am I missing something? 

Why is so pathetic to have an online relationship?  Am I missing something? 


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^ by the way, the second one is mine.

Two of my most defining relationships have had online connections. The internet is no different than any other form or fashion of meeting someone. As long as you play your cards right and are not gullable, you should be able to handle the internet fine.

One time I heard of a Xanga relationship. LAME! Have you ever heard of something like THAT before? 


How romantic...

I would give you all the e-props in the world, darling...

On this board alone, I've met:
A gal who got banned along with her sister

A WONDERFUL lady who was too young and though we had that something special, have maintained a close freindship.

To someone who I STILL think of as a very sweet lady but who has nothing but hatred for me because I called her on the FACT that we had what we had.

Anyway, overall I'd say to each thier own, you never know ::)

Two of my most defining relationships have had online connections. The internet is no different than any other form or fashion of meeting someone. As long as you play your cards right and are not gullable, you should be able to handle the internet fine.


I can see if you know a person in real life but communicate via internet.  But for me, physical attraction is important.  I'm not necessarily saying the person has to be great looking, because sometimes I find I'm attracted to people who I wouldn't even turn my head at if I saw them walking down the street.

For me, one of the first signs that I'm feeling something for someone is when they barely touch me and I get all chills and a rush goes through me.  Or when they smile at me and I feel so good...or when they give me a hug and i wish they'd never let go.  I don't know what the online equivalent to those things would be.  I don't think seeing " <hug> " typed out would do much for me. :-\\

I can see if you know a person in real life but communicate via internet.  But for me, physical attraction is important.  I'm not necessarily saying the person has to be great looking, because sometimes I find I'm attracted to people who I wouldn't even turn my head at if I saw them walking down the street.

For me, one of the first signs that I'm feeling something for someone is when they barely touch me and I get all chills and a rush goes through me.   Or when they smile at me and I feel so good...or when they give me a hug and i wish they'd never let go.  I don't know what the online equivalent to those things would be.  I don't think seeing " <hug> " typed out would do much for me. :-\\


Well, not to go into details, but if you start online just as friends - none of those emotions are going to be needed - as I won't be expecting hugs or kisses from them. I met my current guy online, but I think it was mere fate as this person was only living within miles from me my whole life. I swear I feel as if I saw him at one point in my life before we actually connected online. Being online brought us together in which who knows how else we would've met if the internet hadn't existed. And when we met for the first time, I felt as if I had known him my whole life.

Well, not to go into details, but if you start online just as friends - none of those emotions are going to be needed - as I won't be expecting hugs or kisses from them. My current guy pal I met online, but I think it was mere fate as this person was only living within miles from me my whole life. I swear I feel as if I saw him at one point in my life before we actually connected online. Being online brought us together in which who knows how else we would've met if the internet hadn't existed. And when we met for the first time, I felt as if I had known him my whole life.


I can understand that.  I just can't see myself falling in love with someone I have never met in real life.  Again, I don't think there's anything wrong with it... I just don't think it could ever happen to me.

I can understand that.  I just can't see myself falling in love with someone I have never met in real life.  Again, I don't think there's anything wrong with it... I just don't think it could ever happen to me.


I agree. I could never really be head over heels or feel any true feelings of love until I really saw them and felt the "chemistry."

I've had three of them, the last one ending in marriage.

I won't elaborate, but I will say that they were all great while they lasted and I made some very good friends out of it. Yeah, I'm still friends with what I consider my exes.

The last one (with the Cube) started out as friendship, but developed into something more. We've been together for two years now with almost a year of marriage tossed in there.

Online relationships are cool, but like any real life relationship you have to take it slow and get to know the person. It could start out as casual conversation, maybe a little harmless flirting. Personally, I sensed how all these guys were from the first. That's just me though. It also helps if you talk on the phone with them a lot. Phone time is a little more personal than words on the screen and you can usually tell by their tone of voice if they're putting you on in any way.

So yeah. That's my two cents.

How romantic...

I would give you all the e-props in the world, darling...


Man, shutup!  ;D

I've had three of them, the last one ending in marriage.

I won't elaborate, but I will say that they were all great while they lasted and I made some very good friends out of it. Yeah, I'm still friends with what I consider my exes.

The last one (with the Cube) started out as friendship, but developed into something more. We've been together for two years now with almost a year of marriage tossed in there.

Online relationships are cool, but like any real life relationship you have to take it slow and get to know the person. It could start out as casual conversation, maybe a little harmless flirting. Personally, I sensed how all these guys were from the first. That's just me though. It also helps if you talk on the phone with them a lot. Phone time is a little more personal than words on the screen and you can usually tell by their tone of voice if they're putting you on in any way.

So yeah. That's my two cents.
I love the phone :)

I love the phone :)


The phone would be great, but when your calls are as monitored as mine, it's hard.

The phone would be great, but when your calls are as monitored as mine, it's hard.
Sorry to hear that :-\\ If my calls with a gal a few years back had been monitored it would've made for great porno :o ;D Although it was VERY real in every sense :)

Sorry to hear that :-\\ If my calls with a gal a few years back had been monitored it would've made for great porno :o ;D Although it was VERY real in every sense :)


:o PORNO?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

:o PORNO?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
Take it easy!! It was just dirty talk but unlike a cheap porno film, it was meaningful ;)

Take it easy!! It was just dirty talk but unlike a cheap porno film, it was meaningful ;)


Just kinda scared me there is all..

Just kinda scared me there is all..
Sorry about that! It truely was a wonderful relationship, while I haven't had tha good fortune in a couple others where they basically decided to just leave and then had the insanity to deny anything ever happened ::)

Man, shutup!  ;D


When I'm with you, all my emoticons are happy faces.

It doesn't seem as trustworthy sometimes.

It doesn't seem as trustworthy sometimes.


I'm sure it can be daunting. Admittedly, it can actually build your trust in the other person as . . . well, you've got no choice.  ;D