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Subject: I should be with my family.
I got married May 13th, and my wife just had a baby September 7th, and yes I couldn't hold down a job, but I was under so much stress. My parents divorce, and my mom leaving to Utah. But I have tried to support my wife, and from now on I am going to support my family, what I am getting at is, I was fired from my last job because I was too slow, and my father-in-law kicked me out, and sent me up to Utah, and said I have to wait to see my wife until March, but my family I am living with up here in Utah said she is more than welcome to stay here until I get enough money for an apartment. My in-laws don't really like me because I got their daughter pregnant before we got married, and I messed up her life.
But I didn't mess up her life. I mean we made a mistake, but we are trying to fix everything. We have a family now, and I have always loved her, and I didn't marry her, just because she was having a baby. I married because I love her. I want her back in my life physically, in my presence. I know I have made mistakes, but I can make up for them. I know I can support my beautiful and beautiful little angel, we named her Brianna. I was there for her when she had her baby, I was right there coaching her. I will always be there for her. I just want opinions on this. Me and Deidra, (my wife) were thinking of me coming down for her November 7th, in just one month to go get her, after our babies appointment, because her oxygen will be off by that time. By the way my name is Rich. Thanks, and I hope I get a reply, I really want to see my little angel, and my wonderful princess. It really hurts to even know that my own sister-in-law is against me saying I am being selfish for wanting to see my own family, when she wants Deidra to move in with her.
Subject: Re: I should be with my family.
Well randbfan, it sounds to me like you have a problem. You must be thinking about this all the time.
I have known people in these situations, and all I end up hearing is the inlaws side of the story. I have never heard the husband's side (in your case I understand what you must be going through).
But most importantly forget what your inlaws think. Their just over protective of their daughter.
But if they can't see that you are a good man, then forget them.
Everybody makes mistakes; hold down a job, and go and show your inlaws that you're not what they currently think.
I hope this makes you feel better, 'cause after all I'm only a Teen.
Subject: Thank you.
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Well randbfan, it sounds to me like you have a problem. You must be thinking about this all the time.
I have known people in these situations, and all I end up hearing is the inlaws side of the story. I have never heard the husband's side (in your case I understand what you must be going through).
But most importantly forget what your inlaws think. Their just over protective of their daughter.
But if they can't see that you are a good man, then forget them.
Everybody makes mistakes; hold down a job, and go and show your inlaws that you're not what they currently think.
I hope this makes you feel better, 'cause after all I'm only a Teen.
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It does thank you so much, hey it doesn't matter if you are a teen, your opinion counts. You seem really bright, and thank you for your opinion, it really made me feel better. I just want her in-laws to accept me, that is all. I know my wife did the very first day she saw me. We love each other, and we always will. I want to keep talking to you back and forth about this and other things, and my e-mail is richthepoet23@yahoo.com. If you want to e-mail me. I really want to see my family, I am hurting.
Subject: Re: I should be with my family.
I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in now. I know in-laws have a tendency of messing up relationships because they don't like someone but in-laws have to realize that they are not married to that person. Have you talked to your wife and asked her what she wants? I think that the two of you could decide what is mutually the best course of action for you regardless of what her or your family says. Let us know what happens.
Cat
Subject: Re: I should be with my family.
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I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in now. I know in-laws have a tendency of messing up relationships because they don't like someone but in-laws have to realize that they are not married to that person. Have you talked to your wife and asked her what she wants? I think that the two of you could decide what is mutually the best course of action for you regardless of what her or your family says. Let us know what happens.
Cat
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Thank you Cat, my name is Rich, I would like to talk to you back and forth about this and other things, because you seem like you would help me out with some advice about my family. I don't think I am being selfish, I know I am not being selfish. I am going to get a job very soon, and the family I am living with now will provide my family with a roof over their head, until I get enough money for a place of our own.
Subject: Re: I should be with my family.
Rich-
I totally understand what you are going through and I have to say is screw the inlaws and go with your heart. You have your own family now. Her parents just dont want to let go of her yet, it sounds like. I think that once she sees you your relationship is going to be so much stronger than before. You must love her so much. I believe you will see each other sooner than you think.
-Swan