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Subject: I'm unhappy

Written By: Goreripper on 09/12/02 at 08:36 a.m.

Until Sept 2 I was enjoying a wonderful relationship with a girl with whom I was hoping to grow old. Alas, after three years and two weeks, that relationship has now ceased to be. My 12 yr old daughter, who lives with her mother, loved my partner as much as I did, and it was very difficult for me to break the news to her. In fact I couldn't tell her until last night when I rang her to talk about her next visit with me. She began to very elaborately explain what she planned for us, telling me what time she was going to wake up, when she was going to wake us and when we would leave and what we would do. That made it even harder for me to tell her that Jasmine and I had split. I wish I could have been with her when I told her. I could hear her crying on the phone and I just wanted to hold her and cry together. For some reason I just thought about it now and I'm sitting here at work with my eyes welling over. Thank you for your patience if you are reading this, especially in light of Banasy's moving post and the atmosphere of gloom surrounding the current time, but you people are the first I've shared this with apart from my mother. I just needed to get it out.

Thank you.

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: carrilynn on 09/12/02 at 08:53 a.m.

I can relate to your situation and what you're feeling right now. I'm sorry you feel so saddended but hope you find something great to smile about today. Take care...

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: MissInformation on 09/12/02 at 09:22 a.m.

Life just bites sometimes.  Sorry about the news, and I hope things brighten up for you soon.  It seems like a lot of people here are feeling heart-sore lately, but I guess it's just a common human condition.  I hope your daughter isn't too torn up about it, 12 is a very tender age to lose somebody (I guess any age is at that).

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: Bobo on 09/12/02 at 12:18 a.m.

Sorry to hear about that. Hope things will get better for you. They deserve to be better than that.

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: langdon_hughes on 09/12/02 at 12:56 a.m.

Your daughter is blessed indeed to have a father that doesn't confuse emotion with weakness, who openly listens to his daughter's feelings, who doesn't interpret another's pain through his own guilt, and who is capable of teaching that love is worth risking and encountering agony. She may hurt now, but you are showing her that no matter how great your suffering may be, you will always be there for her. I hope you allow her to comfort you and remember that you are not to blame... and that both of you will love again.

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: dagwood on 09/12/02 at 01:14 p.m.

I am so sorry, Goreripper.  Hang in there and it will get better.

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: Astral on 09/12/02 at 01:46 p.m.


LOVE AND PRAYERS BUD xxx

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: Zella on 09/12/02 at 03:47 p.m.

Goreripper, my heart goes out to you. It is the most horrible feeling in the world, experiencing the emptiness of loss when a relationship that you invest your hopes and dreams in does not work out.... And to have to relive that sorrow again thru your daughter's pain must make it doubly difficult. Just try to be strong for your daughter; it is all you can do right now until some of the hurt fades....

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: Indy Gent on 09/12/02 at 03:52 p.m.

I'm sorry to hear that about the break-up in your relationship. I'm sure God (or whatever god you worship) will give you another woman as good as Jasmine, and your daughter will love her as much too.

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: jamminoldies on 09/12/02 at 07:16 p.m.


Quoting:
Until Sept 2 I was enjoying a wonderful relationship with a girl with whom I was hoping to grow old. Alas, after three years and two weeks, that relationship has now ceased to be. My 12 yr old daughter, who lives with her mother, loved my partner as much as I did, and it was very difficult for me to break the news to her. In fact I couldn't tell her until last night when I rang her to talk about her next visit with me. She began to very elaborately explain what she planned for us, telling me what time she was going to wake up, when she was going to wake us and when we would leave and what we would do. That made it even harder for me to tell her that Jasmine and I had split. I wish I could have been with her when I told her. I could hear her crying on the phone and I just wanted to hold her and cry together. For some reason I just thought about it now and I'm sitting here at work with my eyes welling over. Thank you for your patience if you are reading this, especially in light of Banasy's moving post and the atmosphere of gloom surrounding the current time, but you people are the first I've shared this with apart from my mother. I just needed to get it out.

Thank you.
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Hey,Gore,I know what you're going through.I just got out of a 5 year relationship October 2001 myself with my ex-girlfriend Anna.All she wanted after 5 years was the ring but we weren't financally stable yet and weren't working really.She treated me like a dog on a leash.I couldn't breathe when she was around sometimes.She acted like a mother when we were together.Her nice Italian Family loved me like an Uncle or cousin and almost every occasion they would invite me over to the houses to celebrate any occasion.Oh,well.gotta move on with my life now! -howard-

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: RockandRollFan on 09/12/02 at 07:24 p.m.

Sorry to hear about your latest news....and yes, everything I wanted to tell you has already been said but, from my heart Please know that I care and am here if you ever need to talk ;)

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: CeramicsFanatic on 09/12/02 at 07:33 p.m.

That sounds just awful, Goreripper!  Three years is a long time to be with someone and I can understand how you were hoping to spend the rest of your life with this woman.  Look at it this way...it's her loss!  She is the one who will miss out on spending time with a wonderful man and his equally charming daughter.  Chin up, buddy!

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: 80sTrivia on 09/13/02 at 06:49 a.m.

I'm sorry to hear of your pain and sadness as well, GR. I thought Langdon's words were very eloquent and well-spoken, and I hope that you have found some small comfort here among friends...

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: Jonman on 09/13/02 at 02:26 p.m.

I'm feeling for ya Goreripper...it's all been said here and I just want you to know I'm sorry.

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: Banasy on 09/14/02 at 12:55 a.m.

Sweet thing, I am so sorry for your pain.  Everything that has been said here is heartily seconded by me...and it goes without saying that my shoulders are open 24/7 for crying or leaning on.  Kiss and hug your beautiful daughter, and know that you both occupy a place in my thoughts, and in my heart.

Take care, love.

:-* :-* :-*

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: FussBudgetVanPelt on 09/14/02 at 06:25 p.m.

Hey Goreripper

I'm sorry about your news - what has been said above does just about cover anything I could have said to you.

Please hang in there.....

FB  :)

Subject: Re: I'm unhappy

Written By: Indy Gent on 09/14/02 at 09:19 p.m.

I have to apologize for this message, Goreripper. I thought about it awhile, and I shouldn't make you rush into anything. Although, I still do believe God has another woman for you and your daughter, it should be up to the both of you whether you want one now, later, or ever. Or if you want to make amends with Jasmine. Just give it time, and you will recover from this.

Quoting:
I'm sorry to hear that about the break-up in your relationship. I'm sure God (or whatever god you worship) will give you another woman as good as Jasmine, and your daughter will love her as much too.
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