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Subject: WHY DO PEOPLE CYBER-DATE?
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Cyber date as going out online? Is that what you mean? If so, I have no idea, maybe because they have no life ???
In factual, I met my girlfriend online a few years ago. that being the reason I moved out to Vegas. so hey, you never know who you'll meet.
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Cyber-Dating is condemned. Buying, selling and dating over the internet is condemned.
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Oh dear, is that so. Hmmm.
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that being the reason I moved out to Vegas. so hey, you never know who you'll meet.
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Yeah especially if that person is a killer :)
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Ah...because it is safe sex? ;) ::) ;D
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Yeah especially if that person is a killer :)
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So, Alicia, when you have identified the killers on this board, could you warn the rest of us? ;D
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Cyber-Dating is condemned. Buying, selling and dating over the internet is condemned.
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I thought that was a play on words, and one of them was meant to say "Commended"
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I thought that was a play on words, and one of them was meant to say "Commended"
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Or recommended....? ;)
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So, Alicia, when you have identified the killers on this board, could you warn the rest of us? ;D
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You're talking to one ;D
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Well...contrary to popular belief...as far as I am concerned, if it works for people then let them be....I found happiness beyond my wildest dreams...so I am a believer in this. If others don't agree that is thier perogative, just as it is mine to have MY feelings :) Live and let live ;)
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To each their own. No need to diss something just because you don't do it yourself.
I've tried it before. Problem is that sometimes people arent' who they say they are...and that causes more problems. Gotta be careful.
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Agreed ! The 300 pound truck driver from Wyoming has never found it easier to transform into a nubile busty cheerleader ::)
Quote : Sgt Phil Esterhaus from 'Hill Street Blues'
"And HEY ! - Let's Be Careful Out There"
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You're telling me. It's so hard to keep all my multiple personalities in order (one of them is a killer, btw 8) ).
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Is that the same one as the stalker or a different one? ???
And BTW, Z says Merry Christmas! :-*
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To each their own. No need to diss something just because you don't do it yourself.
I've tried it before. Problem is that sometimes people arent' who they say they are...and that causes more problems. Gotta be careful.
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I haven't tried it, but am afraid to for the exact reasons stated above.
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To each their own. No need to diss something just because you don't do it yourself.
I've tried it before. Problem is that sometimes people arent' who they say they are...and that causes more problems. Gotta be careful.
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I know exactly who Jessica is and BTW, thanks for the support RiceCube ;)...oh, and Merry Christmas!
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Sometime we ain't who we seem to be here in Cyber City neither. No matter how lofty our intentions, the feedback loop on the net is severely limited. We're creatures of five senses -- the net services one of those senses.
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I met my love via the internet. We found that we had much in common and are happy now to have "each other" in common also :)
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I don't trust myself in cyber-dating.
It's just that you never know who might be
on the other end.Could be some 400 pound man
who disguises himself as a woman.You never know.
howard ;D
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People just don't know what thier getting into, you know. They can't find anyone good in the material world so they cross over into the next. They say you can find anything on the Web, and they mean it! Creeps, killers and all that nice stuff, posing as someone else, waiting for you to play into their filthy hands. Freeky... :-[
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But people can lie to others face-to-face. All senses there, but our emotions play Jedi-mind tricks on our minds.
The thing that's frightening is not being able to see what is clearly in front of everyone. Once a person admits their own indiscretions, it's something I'd have to be aware of. You know, it's like an animal who's already had a taste of human blood (can it be trusted again?). I cannot but help to think twice about claims of "true"/"forever" love (or any talk alluding to unconditional love) when, evidently, it is the other way around.
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You ever get into a cyber-argument with someone you've never met in the real world, get angry and say angry words because you're reading angry words, only to find out that the other person is really hurt and crying?
That's just one example of what, in my opinion, is a limitation to getting to know someone over the net...
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People just don't know what thier getting into, you know. They can't find anyone good in the material world so they cross over into the next. They say you can find anything on the Web, and they mean it! Creeps, killers and all that nice stuff, posing as someone else, waiting for you to play into their filthy hands. Freeky... :-[End Quote
WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!!!!
There are alot of great people on the net...many of them here! I have made alot of good friends here ;) and they are NOT freaks, killers or anything else! People look for friendships online too...and many long lasting REAL relationships can be formed!
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WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!!!!
There are alot of great people on the net...many of them here! I have made alot of good friends here ;) and they are NOT freaks, killers or anything else! People look for friendships online too...and many long lasting REAL relationships can be formed!
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I couldn't agree with you completly ;)
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Cyber Dating, never did it. Tried to have virtual sex once but my typing was too slow at the time and just caused to much frustration. :-/
I think that anonyminity works two ways, yeah you could hook up with some wierdo who's completely BS, or you can meet some that can open up more because of it.
I've met a few good ones here that I've chatted with privately back and forth, and I can't say that any of them have given info to question there legitamacy.
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I am sure that there are similarities here in cyberland as to "real life" dating...a person can lie to your face about who they are just as easily as type it (although I have to admit the 400 pound truck driver/cheerleader thing may be tough to pull off in real life ;D).I am not an authority on this subject by any means because I am very happily married, and I have not tried cyber dating. If you want to see an example of a working relationship from the net just look at RnRF and Jessica. They appear to know each other quite well, and I think (I'm kind of a newbie here lol) that they met online. I don't have to speak for them, just ask 'em. :) One of my best friends met her husband of two years online. To each their own. Who knows how a person will finally meet the one they are "meant" to be with? As for the why...I don't know why people cyberdate. A wiser person than I will have to answer that one. But as for message boards in general and this one in particular, even if I don't cyberdate, I look at this as a fantastic opportunity. People that otherwise would probably never have a chance to meet can share their thoughts and ideas with each other across the world. ;)
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You're quite astute :D You should quit your job and open a Whoville Detective Agency :)
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You're quite astute :D You should quit your job and open a Whoville Detective Agency :)
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Thanks RC! Just climbing off of that ole soapbox again. I tend to get verbose...just nevermind me if the messages get too long...or just say" BEEP BEEP Shazzaah!" ;) And I will shut up.. :-X
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A lot of people in our culture are hung up on "looks" and "appearance". Getting to know someone online is a way to get to know someone's real self (assuming the other party is being honest with you), before you meet in person. By that time, you already know whether or not you like them, and no longer care what they look like.
I have never been the type of person to care about what another looks like, so this explaination does not apply to me. But is has enabled me to make friends with people I would never otherwise get a chance to meet, because they live so far away from me. (Namely, most of the people here on this board).
I also met a nice young man in a chat room, and have been corresponding with him for almost a year. No romance, but I've gotten to know him enough to consider him to be like an extra brother. Without the internet, we would never have gotten to know each other. He lives in India. He has been wanting to come to visit America, but like me, he was recently laid off from his job.
I can't agree that people turn to the internet because they cannot connect with people in the real world. I have a number of "real world" friends. My best friend has a job that keeps her travelling, and we began keeping in touch by e-mail. Whenever one of us would find a cool site, we would sent the link to each other, and in that way both of us have met many other friends.
And you can never have too many friends.
As for romance, I would be much more careful about someone I met on the internet than someone I met in person, but only because I would not be able to check out their story with mutual friends as easily as I would with someone living in the same town as me. I know from experience that people you meet in "real life" can also be dangerous psychos. (My ex, for one...)
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I don't think it's all that safe. But neither is chatting on message boards, like I am doing now. But I do it anyway. I have been here long enough to know that this place does not have frequent trolls and harrassers, so I feel a little safer here than I would at other online chat rooms/boards. But still, you must be careful not to give out the city you live in, your e-mail, and all that. If you give out an e-mail address (like I do on my parodies), make sure it's not your "good" e-mail address, but your "spam" e-mail address. Only a few people here know of my "good" e-mail address, because I told them. For being only a teenager, I worry about this stuff.
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I know from experience that people you meet in "real life" can also be dangerous psychos. (My ex, for one...)
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I can second that!!!! ::)
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But I'm a good freak/psycho ;) ;D
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Hey everyone, check out the current events "morals" thread before you post any further to this guy! :o
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But I'm a good freak/psycho ;) ;D
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Hey everyone, check out the current events "morals" thread before you post any further to this guy! :o
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Whoa ! Thanks for the heads up man.
Vegas beware - there's a Killer On The Rampage (Eddy Grant) ;)
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I bought my computer 4 years ago to finish a 20 year genealogy project. 4 years later the project remains unfinished because I have been too busy making wonderful new friends thru the world wide web.
I think because I had always had penpals around the world as a kid and teen - i didnt find it all that different when it came to meeting people on the net.
Yes of course I have encountered some nastys over the years. But the positives outweigh the negatives.
Last year I had three people from the US fly over to stay with me - the first time they had met each other outside a chat room was at San Francisco airport !! They had a 20 hour flight to get to know each other better and then we had a fabulous 2 weeks together.
Since then I have flown to Sydney and Melbourne to meet online friends several times.
At first I was nervous - the whole self esteem thing - will I be like they expected thing. But I am over that now. I realise that all the people I talk to on message boards are not rake thin models with perfect personalities and neither am I !!
On the freaky side - most recently I was recognised by an American at a concert in Queensland - someone I didnt actually know - but she lurked at several websites I was a regular at. That was a bit freaky as she knew so much about me but as she had always been a lurker - I knew nothing about her. She spoke to me like I was a best friend !
With regards to actual cyber dating - I have several friends who have done it and there are good and bad endings to each one.
I personally probably wouldnt do it - simply because I am not looking for a romantic relationship in real life - so am unlikely to seek it in cyber life. I do have friends who have bought computers with the sole goal being to meet their dream man online. But then these are the same women who dress soley to attract men, and go out to pubs solely because Mr Right could be drinking there tonight. I am not remotely looking for Mr Right so I dont spend every waking minute searching for him in real life or online !!!!
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i dont know, ive met alot of friends online, but im personally attracted to someones eyes, and well a picture just wouldntbe enough for me, i would have to meet them face to face ( hey Lauren ), i guess you could just say im old fashioned. but i see nothing wrong with it. My Aunt Mary, met her Fiance online so hey apparently every now and then it works. And what about that movie " Youve Got Mail " (ONE OF MY PERSONAL FAVS ) SO YEAH im gonna shut up now.