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Subject: Is anyone dreading getting older?
Yesterday was my dads 60th Birthday. He's in perfect health, is fit, and acts young; however 60 appears really old. I started to think about it, and it seems like only yesterday my dad was turning 50. Are the years going by faster now, or is it just in my mind? I can look twenty years into the future, and see myself middle aged, but still relatively young. By then my dad will be 80. I just wanted to tell you what's on my mind tonight.
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It drives me nuts to know I will be 50 in less than 20 years!! And I also worry about my folks getting older too...my mom is 55 and paps will be 65 in July. I know that death and taxes are the only two sure things in life...but somehow I would like to skip them both!!!
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I know for one that I'll have to be dragged kicking and screaming out my childhood. As for years going faster, here is my theory.
I am currently sixteen. This year, I am living one sixteenth of my life. My grandad, who is 85 this year, is currently living 1/84th of his. Perhaps these fractions make the years seem quicker perceptively, and coupled with whatever you happen to be doing during those years of your life, make the time rush on more. That said, I still feel that I'm savouring every moment as it is, now, and hopefully for a long time yet. So yes, in that respect, I am, but since, as an adult, it is probably easier to accept your presence, that possibly changes my view slightly.
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I'm certainly not thrilled about the idea of getting older. My childhood seems so long ago now and so much has happened in the time since I led that carefree life. I agree with you, Screwball, about the years going by faster as we get older. Or so it seems. When we were kids we couldn't wait for our next birthday to come around. And now that we're adults we dread that next birthday because we know it means that we're getting "older"! :-/
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Well, I am one of the oldest people on this board, and I remember that it didn't bother me turning 30 or turning 40. But I do wonder what it is like to be 70 and know that your time is limited. That has to be scary. Although I think it depends a lot on your health. I have a good friend who is 70 and I do not think of her as old, and I don't believe she views herself that way either. MY grandparents never seemed old even in their 80s as they were fortunate to be healthy and active.
Time definately goes faster as you get older. I remember when I was a child an hour seemed like a really long time.... ;)
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I have to agree with Zella here, especially about the time going quicker part. That's possibly because you're more busy, depending on what responsibilities you have ?
My dad in in his 80's and my Mum in her 70's, and I worry about their health, rather than mine. I suppose that when they have gone I will think more about mine because at the moment I also think about my kids' health.
There are also times when I wish I was younger again, but then I think about all the problems I had and that if i went back I wouldn't have the privelige of knowing then what I know now, so all in all I would not want to repeat that all over again.
When you really get down to it, dreading getting older is pointless, because with everything else that happens to you.....THAT'S LIFE.
That's my existentialist rant for the day.......
FBVP :)
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I'm only 17, but yes I am dreading getting older. I just have to think about how quickly these past couple of years have gone and it just freaks me out. Last year, I was stressed out about sitting my GCSE exams, and now I'm currently doing my A-Levels. Last year seems as if it were last month. I do kind of wish I was still at school, as I had some very good times there, but I guess it's time to move on. As soon as I hit 18, I just want to stay that age forever - then at least I'll be legal , but yet still in my teens!
I've promised to myself that when I get older I'm going to be good to myself. I'm going to make an effort to look nice, keep fit and have and have my little luxuries I want to be a cool mother/grandma!! I know that's going to be years away, but it's nice to think about what life could be like I guess. But right now I know I should towards the present, I certainly don't want to wish my life away, just yet! :)
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Nah....for some reason it doesn't bother me at all. I do have my days when I wish I could be in high school again...no worries, no bills, but don't really dread getting older. Now ask me again in 20 years, and the answer will probably have changed. ;D
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Nah,not really.I'm almost 30.gonna be 30 years old in 2004.I'm thinning cause it runs in the family and I'm getting a little pudgy around the belly area. ;D -howard-
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I'm actually of two minds on this, depending on exactly what I'm in the middle of at the moment.
On the one hand, I'm looking forward to it, because my daughter will be old enough not to need a babysitter, and I will have the freedom to do what I want, when I want.
On the other hand I'm dreading getting older because it means my daugter will be older and won't need (or maybe want) me to take care of her. I'm also wondering if I would still want to do the things I'm interested in now, twenty years from now.
As far as health issues those concern me too. My family has a history of living long lives, but not every family member has had perfect health, either. But since it's nothing that can be predicted with any certainty, I just try not to think about it most of the time.
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I used to dread the whole folk-approaching-death thing, but then my mom got cancer. Now we're making sure that everyday is lived for the moment and we remember to tell each other we're loved. Somehow once the fear became real, it disappeared.
I am happier, smarter, nicer and in better shape than I've ever been. I don't see that fading but rather increasing, so I'm not afraid of exchanging my youth for it.
My only regret is that I don't have children yet. I hear by thirty-five I'm starting to risk all sorts of things. So I'd better get crackin'.
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To put it as I did in High School:
I may be getting older, but I refuse to grow up!
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I'm not dreading getting older. I've accepted that innevitable fact of life. I'll add (because I evidently felt the need to ramble):
I feel older than I actually am mainly because I think of my "Goodtimes" when I used to go do "The Hustle" on the dancefloor, yet never loosing my "Charisma" for Rock. Then, I came back to "Planet Earth" and got hooked on Duran Duran and became "Hungry Like The Wolf" for everything 80's. I was really doing my best "Showing Out" and I was "Lovin' Every Minute Of It". I was still dancing to "Musique Non-Stop"! I could go on and on...... Indeed, "Seasons Change". Yes, I missed the 80's when they were gone "Like The Desert Missed The Rain". Not only for what they were in the sense of entertainment, fashion and style, but also because I could no longer look into "My Father's Eyes", for he'd passed on.
It all seems like it was so long ago. It was, I suppose.
I'm really happy and healthy today. I guess I'm just a nostalgic throwback of past decades, especially the 80's.
Hey! At least I'm in good company!!! ;)
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I'm of two minds here. On one hand, I definitely don't like the idea of getting older. Turning thirty was no big deal for me, but as I see forty rapidly approaching it becomes more of an issue. However, on the other hand, both my parents' families have histories of longevity, so maybe I can squeeze a few more years out if I eat right and try to keep myself in shape. ;)
I agree about the time seeming to go faster as we get older. When you're a child, and even a teenager, it seems as if you have all the time in the world ahead of you, and you get impatient for things to happen. Now, at thirty-six? High school was a lifetime ago. I remember my son coming home from the hospital like it was yesterday, but this fall he'll be nine years old. :o
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Ever since I was about 29...which by the way, I STILL am...for the past 13 years ;)
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I'm not dreading it because I know for a fact that many good things are going to happen in my life as I get older :).
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Ya know since this topic started I have noticed a bald spot starting at the back of my head! >:( Dangit!
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Ya know since this topic started I have noticed a bald spot starting at the back of my head! >:( Dangit!
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Join the party...
Nah, I'm not worried about getting old.
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A am older. Than I was, anyway.
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I know for one that I'll have to be dragged kicking and screaming out my childhood. As for years going faster, here is my theory.
I am currently sixteen. This year, I am living one sixteenth of my life. My grandad, who is 85 this year, is currently living 1/84th of his. Perhaps these fractions make the years seem quicker perceptively, and coupled with whatever you happen to be doing during those years of your life, make the time rush on more. That said, I still feel that I'm savouring every moment as it is, now, and hopefully for a long time yet. So yes, in that respect, I am, but since, as an adult, it is probably easier to accept your presence, that possibly changes my view slightly.
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Funny, but that's the sort of way I think about it, too: certainly it seems like the days fly by way too quickly now. It's one of the reasons why I always seem to be late in my tax returns: January comes and goes before I've realized Christmas is over.
Phil
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I think alot of it has to do with your state of mind too.My Nan is 87 and still talks about the 'old people'around her,she doesn't think of herself as old and until she had a stroke was still belting about the place at 100 miles an hour.she maintained keeping your brain active is vital to keeping young too.
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you know what, i never really thought about it until a few days ago :-/
I'm not really sure. but they do say school days are the best days of your life ;D
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Most definately! I am about to turn 32. Still single, no kids and not getting any younger. :(
I almost had a panic attack when I turned 30! I hate to see what happens when i turn 40!!!! :o
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Ever since I was about 29...which by the way, I STILL am...for the past 13 years ;)
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You butthead...you stole that line from me!!!
As to the topic...why worry about something that you cannot change? I especially like the fact that as I'm getting older, so are all of you!!! ;)
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I have always dreaded getting older. It is one of my worst fears. I am not afraid of dying, but I am afraid of being so old that I can no longer take care of myself. And the terrible fact that our looks and body of our younger years diminish with each passing year. :'(
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I don't necessarily dread getting older. I don't feel much different than I did when I was 21. My oldest son is gonna be a freshman next year and my youngest son graduated from 6th grade last night! So I suppose that I really am 35! I guess that's is what I dread the most, is how fast time is going and how quickly my boys are growing up!!
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Only the responsibilities that come with getting older...
LIKE:
Drinking in moderation
Not driving crazy
Not smoking *Anything*
Not being able to run around naked like a crazy person
Having kids (AHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!)
Not being able to have several boyfriends at one time
Not being able to get into cat fights and have people smile because u just kicked the Sh*+ out of the other chick
(sigh)
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I'm dreading the wrinkles, the aches and pains and the illnesses that are associated with aging - not to mention the pitiable way people treat old folks. Have you ever noticed (and I'm just as guilty as the rest) how people talk louder when they're around the elderly? I guess we all assume they're partially deaf.
Also, I don't want to be a burden to anyone. I wouldn't mind living to 100 as long as I remain lucid. Of course, I'm not very lucid now, so I don't see that happenin'. ;)
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... I remember my son coming home from the hospital like it was yesterday, but this fall he'll be nine years old. :o
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Goldie said:
Quoting:My oldest son is gonna be a freshman next year and my youngest son graduated from 6th grade last night! So I suppose that I really am 35! I guess that's is what I dread the most, is how fast time is going and how quickly my boys are growing up!! End Quote
This is why all parents are sleep deprived. We are afraid to blink or close our eyes. We might miss something important!
Subject: Re: Is anyone dreading getting older?
I think you're only as old as you let yourself feel ;) And right now I feel like I'm 15 :D (I was hyper)
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i'm not really dreading getting older, more or less dreading graduating high school. (i think i'm the youngest person here; i'm only fourteen!) i'll then have the freedom to move out and get away from my brother (;D), but i know that once i graduate from college, i'll have to get a job and earn money without my parents' help. and that kind of creeps me out because i'm incredibly lazy and the biggest procrastinator i know. i procrastinate on everything...i often start projects at odd hours of the morning. (actually, right now, i'm supposed to be writing a report on volleyball...oops... ;) )
for me, time has three different speeds: summer break (really fast), semester one (fairly quick), and semester two (slow as hell). :D
i sometimes worry about my parents' health though, because my parents had my brother and me much later than most parents i know... :-/
Subject: Re: Is anyone dreading getting older?
Well,a Little bit. I'm gonna be 30 soon.
My Mother will be 60 soon and My Father will be 65 in just a couple of years. I guess you can say we all dread getting older. :D
Howard
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I have a BIG birthday coming up. I decided I am going to throw myself a big party. I haven't had a birthday party since I was 16-I think I am due. I just printed out the invations today and already handed out a couple of them. I figured if I am going to get old, I'm going to do it drunk! lol
Cat
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That's the spirit! I think it bothered me more to turn 25 than when I turned 30. The whole "I am actually a quarter of a century old" thing bothered me. Now, I am just old and I am learning to accept it. :(
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That's the spirit! I think it bothered me more to turn 25 than when I turned 30. The whole "I am actually a quarter of a century old" thing bothered me. Now, I am just old and I am learning to accept it. :(
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You are only as old as you feel inside...grasshoppa!
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You are only as old as you feel inside...grasshoppa!
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And I feel 143. lol
Cat
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Well, if I am only as old as I feel, then I am usually about 17, but every once in a while I will be 8 or 9. ;D
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Well, I'm 45 going on 46 and I have dreaded turning 40. It seems everything has gone wrong with me since then. I ought to be like Jack Benny and say I'm 39, but then again I had a brother who died at 39 and I wanted to outlive him…
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Yes, it bugs me now, but only cuz my life seems at a standstill w/little to show. Going nowhere, at my age. :-/
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31-34 were some slow years for me, 35 hit and I got on roll. You have plenty of time left to get somewhere. :)
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Yes, it bugs me now, but only cuz my life seems at a standstill w/little to show. Going nowhere, at my age. :-/
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Does anyone see any gray hairs now?
I thought one time,I did but I don't know if it was a gray hair :o
Howard
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Does anyone see any gray hairs now?
I thought one time,I did but I don't know if it was a gray hair :o
Howard
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Quick Howard !
Get the WeedWhacker to it ;)
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Too late...already there. 8)
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The grey hair doesn't bother me so much, there are solutions for that, it is the fact that it seems like I am having to work harder to do as much as I did at 22 (Kickboxing, for example. I don't recall it being that tiring then. Of course, I was in better shape...) When I was 19, I was in college full time, working as a waitress nights, going out to party or whatever until about 5 in the morning, sleeping for maybe 3 hours and then getting up to do it all over again. I can't even entertain the thought of keeping such a schedule now.
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Im only 17... so... no. Life is just starting at 17: school finishing, leaving home, start a job, legally drink ;D , etc etc...
Life just gets better with age (till u reach 30... then its down hill from there)
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When I was 19, I was in college full time, working as a waitress nights, going out to party or whatever until about 5 in the morning, sleeping for maybe 3 hours and then getting up to do it all over again. I can't even entertain the thought of keeping such a schedule now.
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I was there once and I definitely know how you feel! I also think back and wonder how I did all that. Now my life is so different...I have a husband and kids, I never go out dancing anymore and it's impossible for me to stay up until the wee hours of the night/morning!
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Does anyone see any gray hairs now?
I thought one time,I did but I don't know if it was a gray hair :o
Howard
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I have no sympathy for anyone with gray hair. I started going gray at the ripe old age of 15-have been coloring since I was 19. My (older) sister started complaining I don't know how many years ago about her 10th gray hair-yes, she counted them. But the thing is, I earned every one of my grays-all 23,547 of them. lol
Cat
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How many wrinkles,
or hairs in my nose?
How old will i be,
when i realize im old?
I dont worry about age itself, i just wonder what i will be like, and if i will be another victim of Crippling Arthritis :-/
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Actually, the only thing I fear about getting older is the day I wake up and discover I am my mother. :o
Cat
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I know I'm getting older when I keep brushing my hair after a shower and some of the clumps land on my comb.I'm gonna wind up being bald before 40. :(
Howard
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I try not to think about being old. My mind is definitely young, the body is another story. Sometimes I shuffle out of bed like Ozzy Osbourne. Silly things make me remember I'm going to be 40 in August. I've made it all the way through my first container of face cream, the freckles on my hands are suddenly "age spots", Taco Bell can do terrible damage now, I'm starting to enjoy pants with elastic wastebands, I can only read fine print at arms length and the list goes on. ::) My biggest fear of growing old is knowing that at some point I will be without my children.
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I dread not doing all the things in life that I have always wanted to do or accomplish. I also dread the day that I can no longer take care of myself due to old age.
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I dread that if I keep cracking my knuckles,I'll wind up with major arthritis. :(
Howard :)
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I dread that if I keep cracking my knuckles,I'll wind up with major arthritis. :(
Howard :)
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Me too. I don't even think doctors know for sure that knuckle-cracking can cause arthritis, but I'm trying to stop anyway.
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I keep cracking my head all the time but I don't see my head falling off. ;D
howard
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Getting older doesn't bother me, the older I get the older the kids get, is that a bad thing? Everyone says not to rush them, I can't wait to have grandkids...love them, spoil them, send them home ;D that isn't so bad!
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It never used to bother me. Now I'm suddenly a Grandpa and my next birthday starts with a 4! OMG where did the time go? I really don't wanna grow up.
Howard, I got my first grey hair when I was 27...now I have none...because I'm worth it as Mrs. Sambora would say...heheeee
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I keep cracking my head all the time but I don't see my head falling off. ;D
howard
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But Howard ! One day when you least expect it, it will hurt more than normal, and you will find yourself looking up from the floor at your headless body :o ::)
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I don't dread getting older, because frankly I don't care that I'm going to be 30 in seven years or whatever. Â I don't have time to stress about it, really. Â If one day I wake up with gray hair, then good for me.
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But Howard ! One day when you least expect it, it will hurt more than normal, and you will find yourself looking up from the floor at your headless body :o ::)
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Naw,that's not true Fuss.I've been cracking my bones I think since I was 13 And I'm 30 now.It all started with my elbows,then hands,feet,back,neck and head.Some people in High School thought I was doing the boogaloo! ;DTalk about painful! :o
Howard
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Since someone decided to revive this thread, I corrected some errors in my first post on page one. A couple of college English classes sure made a difference.