We bought each other his and hers watches when we got engaged.

Lyric Boy, you are talking about my namesake, ....The ring she wears on TV is a prop -- it just keeps her (supposed) male fans at bay.



Prop?  Supposed?  Oh, we are very REAL.  ;)

I have a beaut of a ring which I love.
I actually hate it when people get married but don't wear rings it seems to me like they are pretending they aren't really married just incase someone else is interested, like those guys you get in bars who take their ring off and start chatting up other girls..........

I've got a beautiful engagement ring.  I really hate it when women upgrade their engagement rings when money is more plentiful.  I would never have my ring redesigned or replace it with a more expensive ring .... it's the ring Paul gave me in 1983 and it represents a lot.  He gave me a beautiful eternity ring after our firstborn.  I suppose I am old fashioned but what's wrong with that?  My mother has a ring made out of a shilling coin and a piece of toothbrush handle which my father made for her when he was in the army.

I've got a beautiful engagement ring.  I really hate it when women upgrade their engagement rings when money is more plentiful.  I would never have my ring redesigned or replace it with a more expensive ring .... it's the ring Paul gave me in 1983 and it represents a lot.  He gave me a beautiful eternity ring after our firstborn.  I suppose I am old fashioned but what's wrong with that?  My mother has a ring made out of a shilling coin and a piece of toothbrush handle which my father made for her when he was in the army.


You have the right idea. I don't think engagement rings are a bad thing.  It is a custom that people can perpetuate, or not, to their discretion.  The notion that it has to be a diamond is ludicrous, as is the notion that the bigger or more expensive the more he(or she) cares.  I would say that your mothers ring is more precious than anything anyone could buy at Shreve, Crump and Low.

Buying a diamond supports all kinds of bad labor practices and human rites violations.  When you walk out of Tiffany with your fancy blue box feeling proud of yourself, you should really feel ashamed.

I didn't get an engagement ring because Carlos doesn't "believe" in diamonds-which is the one thing that we disagree on. I love diamonds because they are my birth stone. But, I do have the ring that REALLY matters-my wedding ring-just a band of gold, no ornaments, no inscription-just a plain ring with no beginning and no end-just like our love for each other.

But, if I were to have a diamond ring-I wouldn't want the stone to be any bigger than a 1/4 karat because I have such small hands and anything bigger would look very gawdy on me.




Cat

I totally believe in both marriage and egagement.  I also believe in the rings and what they represent.

And to be honest, I think that if I had not given either my ex or my late fiancee' a ring, they would have questioned my seriousness.  And being willing to spend the money shows that you are serious about the commitment.

When I got my ex her ring, it was nothing special.  Just a simple wedding set with a small diamond in the center.  In fact, to show that the marriage was final, she sent the rings to me after she had cut them in half with tin snips.

For my late fiancee, I was lucky enough to be working at a pawn shop at the time.  A set I saw caught my eye, and it happened to be the perfect size for her.  It was an antique set (approx 80-100 years old), with a small diamond in the center, and the base of the stone was surrounded with either white gold or platinum.  It was a very petite set, which worked very well.  The set is being saved, so our oldest son can give it to his beloved when the time comes.

I know there are some who are saying that marriage is old-fashioned.  If that is the case for you, fine.  Don't get married, just shack up with your partner (or partners).  But please, do not dispariage those of us who believe in tradition, perminance, and stability.