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Personally, I feel people should be more liberal and open-minded, and consider the possiblity of having More than one Girlfriend/Boyfriend at one time.End Quote

Judging by this and some of your other posts -

It's my guess your current girlfriend's not "doing it" for you.

Either that or you're insatiable.

In answer to your question, I think both women and men have their challenges in the dating game.

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I think for the most part they do, ::)
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Yeah from some perspectives the women have it "better" than the men.  But on the other hand, we men do not have to worry about being date-raped, physically abused, or given GHB to "loosen us up".  Also we men can usually put on a clean T-shirt and jeans for a date, while the girl has to put on expensive clothes, makeup, etc...  ::)

As for women being interested in personality, that is not always the case.  Ever notice how the nicest-looking women seem to hook up with some muscular guy who has the brains of a gnat?  There are as many superficial women as there are men, I suppose...  :-/

More than one GF at a time?  Hey it is all I can do to handle ONE at a time.   ;) You'd have to be a glutton for punishment, because sooner or later one of those fine ladies is gonna want to be "the one".  And when you dump the one who loses the contest, the "winner" will likely dump you because they were really more PO'd about you having 2 women than they were in love with you.  :P

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More than one GF at a time?  Hey it is all I can do to handle ONE at a time.   ;) You'd have to be a glutton for punishment, End Quote

LOL. I have trouble coping with one woman.  ;D

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A friend once said to me

"Sometimes I wish I was a beatiful bi-sexual woman, that way I could pose for Playboy,be a stripper,etc, make lots of money"

My friend told me he wasn't gay, but that women have it easier.
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Are all strippers and Playboy models bi-sexual?

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OK, I think everyone has their opinion (and you know what they say about that ;D)

First, how you interact with the opposite sex really depends on how you view yourself..It takes a reasonably confident person (man or woman) to have success in dating (or life). Approaching someone, how they/you look, or paying for the date/dinner is minor stuff to contend with in the scope of things..
If you don't have a good attitude towards yourself, then you are NOT going to ever meet the right person..if you put yourself down a lot or don't already "love" yourself you are not going to attract anyone worth a damn..if you have issues about yourself that make you feel inferior, then work on that before you get involved with someone, these issues will show up in the relationship, guaranteed to torpedo it.

Second, you have to stop looking at the opposite sex as that, beyond "them" having different genitals, they are people with a brain and a distinct personality, if you generalize (or make generalizations about) any group of men or women, you're setting yourself up for a downfall..if you think that all men cheat, and that all women are superficial, then why date at all, you’ve got to loose these stereotypes if you really want to date people.

Next, if you're sure that there is someone that you like and want to meet, or date, ASK them..No, it is NOT true that most beautiful women/handsome men are already attached, married or have a boy/girlfriend, just the opposite..lots of people are put off by their beauty and don't even ask these people out, I know of many "hot" guys and girls that suffer this dilemma..

Don't obsess or pine for the one you haven't or can't have without at least trying to know them or ask them out at least once. Holding a torch for someone that you don't even know is painful, time consuming & just not healthy for your mental health. Even in the few rare cases that you get together with that person, you're bound to find out that they are less than you’re expected (i.e. everyone has a dark or ugly side), these relationships are bound to fail.

Lastly, don't treat dating or the opposite sex as a means to a end. Dating, love, & sex is just one part of life, and you have to HAVE A LIFE to enjoy that part. Make sure you have a life, friends, social world, outside of the person you want or you're with..Make sure you have an idea of WHY you're dating, is it for companionship, playing the field, marriage, or sex? If you don't know, you need to find out before you start.

This is all coming from a guy that has had to learn all the above the very hard way and is still learning...

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Thank you.  Lots of people seem to love generalizing but it really depends on the individual.  I especially liked the part about asking yourself WHY you want to be in a relationship; there are way too many people looking for someone else to "make them happy".  Healthy relationships, I believe, consist of two people who are already happy and want to share that happiness.  The saddest is the people who get upset that their partner isn't making them happy so they decide to have a baby so THAT can make them happy, as if it's perfectly fair to expect a newborn to do for them what they've spent their entire lives failing at.  Okay, I'm done now.  Good post gumbypiz

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OK, I think everyone has their opinion (and you know what they say about that ;D)

First, how you interact with the opposite sex really depends on how you view yourself..It takes a reasonably confident person (man or woman) to have success in dating (or life). Approaching someone, how they/you look, or paying for the date/dinner is minor stuff to contend with in the scope of things..
If you don't have a good attitude towards yourself, then you are NOT going to ever meet the right person..if you put yourself down a lot or don't already "love" yourself you are not going to attract anyone worth a damn..if you have issues about yourself that make you feel inferior, then work on that before you get involved with someone, these issues will show up in the relationship, guaranteed to torpedo it.

Second, you have to stop looking at the opposite sex as that, beyond "them" having different genitals, they are people with a brain and a distinct personality, if you generalize (or make generalizations about) any group of men or women, you're setting yourself up for a downfall..if you think that all men cheat, and that all women are superficial, then why date at all, you’ve got to loose these stereotypes if you really want to date people.

Next, if you're sure that there is someone that you like and want to meet, or date, ASK them..No, it is NOT true that most beautiful women/handsome men are already attached, married or have a boy/girlfriend, just the opposite..lots of people are put off by their beauty and don't even ask these people out, I know of many "hot" guys and girls that suffer this dilemma..

Don't obsess or pine for the one you haven't or can't have without at least trying to know them or ask them out at least once. Holding a torch for someone that you don't even know is painful, time consuming & just not healthy for your mental health. Even in the few rare cases that you get together with that person, you're bound to find out that they are less than you’re expected (i.e. everyone has a dark or ugly side), these relationships are bound to fail.

Lastly, don't treat dating or the opposite sex as a means to a end. Dating, love, & sex is just one part of life, and you have to HAVE A LIFE to enjoy that part. Make sure you have a life, friends, social world, outside of the person you want or you're with..Make sure you have an idea of WHY you're dating, is it for companionship, playing the field, marriage, or sex? If you don't know, you need to find out before you start.

This is all coming from a guy that has had to learn all the above the very hard way and is still learning...

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Thanks for the post. It was really informative. It summed up life, dating and some other things.

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The saddest is the people who get upset that their partner isn't making them happy so they decide to have a baby so THAT can make them happy, as if it's perfectly fair to expect a newborn to do for them what they've spent their entire lives failing at.  Okay, I'm done now.  Good post gumbypiz
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That's true. I can never understand two unsatisfied people who have a baby together merely to disguise their dissatisfaction with each other? Barmy logic indeed.

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Straight-forward answer: NO!!!

Nobody asks me out, and I just don't get it. I don't consider myself to be gorgeous, but I've seen women who are less attractive than me, heftier (I'm only a size 6-8), and wore women who are mean, manipulative, too shy to say one word, whining, have no education, no ambitions, cheat on their boyfriends, or just treat them like $hit, and they still have their men loving them to bits. But if I do the littlest thing, men think I'm like the Wicked Witch of the West. I guess God doesn't want me in the love department. I'll just go back to school again and just live my life to the fullest as if I don't give a d@*n about men. Anyway, enough about my b&%ch*n'!
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Whoa, a little bitterness here?
A bitter heart attracts a sour soul..
Why wait for others to ask you out? You're female & it's 2004! Take the first step yourself.  If you know someone you like, ask them..in the scope of things you have nothing to lose if they turn you down..I bet theres some guys who are waiting for you to ask..

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Straight-forward answer: NO!!!

Nobody asks me out, and I just don't get it. I don't consider myself to be gorgeous, but I've seen women who are less attractive than me, heftier (I'm only a size 6-8), and wore women who are mean, manipulative, too shy to say one word, whining, have no education, no ambitions, cheat on their boyfriends, or just treat them like $hit, and they still have their men loving them to bits. But if I do the littlest thing, men think I'm like the Wicked Witch of the West. I guess God doesn't want me in the love department. I'll just go back to school again and just live my life to the fullest as if I don't give a d@*n about men. Anyway, enough about my b&%ch*n'!
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Does anyone else here wonder what it would be like to be of the opposite gender?
Not to be offensive or anything.
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Here is one perspective, taken from dialogue from the movie "As Good as it Gets":

Receptionist: I just Love your books.  As a man, how do you know how to write so well about women?

Jack Nicholson:  Well, I think of a man.  And I take away reason and accountability.

Heh heh...   ;D

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Girls have it easier for one simple fact, guys are horny. Unless we're extremely picky we could could easily get a date every day of the week if we put our minds to it. I think the only disadvantage that there is is that if a guy is polygamous it's looked on like it's a good thing. Let one of US have more than one guy on our plates and immediately we're called loose.
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A very good point.  I'll add to it...if a guy scores on the first date, he's a stud.  However, the woman he scored with is easy.  It's not "Politically Correct" for a woman to be horny, but for men, it's an accepted ideal.

IMO, I don't think either gender has it easy when it comes to dating.  There are pros and cons of being a man just as there are pros and cons to being a woman.  There are so many double standards, it's unreal.  Maybe I'm just out-of-date with my experience as I've been married for the past 9 years and much may have changed in that time.  I remember before I got married, though, and it wasn't easy for me dating.  

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The reason my relationship ended was because he came out  of the closet.  He confessed that he's bisexual.End Quote

I'm TrySexual.  I try even on the first date.  

;D

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I'm TrySexual.  I try even on the first date.  

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Ha ha!

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I guess we could say, In some ways, Men have it easier, in other ways women have it easier,
but Overall I would have to say Women have it easier, it's much easier for Women to get Sex,
It's Very difficult for men to "score"
Not to be offensive.
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I'd say confident people of either gender have an easier time.

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confident people of either gender have an easier time.
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I agree.

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but Overall I would have to say Women have it easier, it's much easier for Women to get Sex,
It's Very difficult for men to "score"
Not to be offensive.
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Hmm, I thought the topic was about "dating", sex is a different subject altogether..I'm hoping that we understand the difference.
If you dating just to get laid, well, you've got issues, and will have some problems for sure.
Anyhow, I'm not sure I completely agree, men, when motivated find someone, dispite however unsavory the person or circumstances may be for sex...history has shown that, and you might think its easier for women to get sex but thats not all they want..besides they have to have this "easier" sex with..a man.

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Dating is really difficult if you're a girl with Asperger's Syndrome or any other kind of Autism.

Girls are expected to understand all the emotional stuff in a relationship, really. But if you're an "Aspie" like me, you can't understand body language very easily.

Think about it- raising one eyebrow can mean "I want to have sex with you", or it can mean "I'm saying something sarcastic" or it can mean "What you have just said is very stupid" or it can mean... ugh, a whole bunch of stuff. Very puzzling.
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@sskicker,

So true.  It is because of the "confusion of body language" that I do my dates a big favor.

I just say "Hey baby, you wanna do it?".

Gets past all the games.  ;)

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Dating is really difficult if you're a girl with Asperger's Syndrome or any other kind of Autism.

Girls are expected to understand all the emotional stuff in a relationship, really. But if you're an "Aspie" like me, you can't understand body language very easily.

Think about it- raising one eyebrow can mean "I want to have sex with you", or it can mean "I'm saying something sarcastic" or it can mean "What you have just said is very stupid" or it can mean... ugh, a whole bunch of stuff. Very puzzling.
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Dating was difficult for me when I dated a Down Syndrome girl. >:(


Howard

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I just say "Hey baby, you wanna do it?".

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I'm sure this gets you all the girls.  ::) ;)

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I'm sure this gets you all the girls.  ::) ;)
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All the action I can handle.

;D

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lol, remember that movie Taxi Driver?  

Robert Diniro was so out of touch and such a loser, he took Cybill Shepard on a date....to a porno movie.  And he asked in her in the most straightfaced casual way if she wanted to "do it" with him.  LOL.
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Just call me Travis Bickle.   ;D

Heh heh...

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All the action I can handle.

;D
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Yeah,what action? Have you actually"did it" or you just lying? ;D ;)


Howard

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Yeah,what action? Have you actually"did it" or you just lying? ;D ;)

Howard
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Being a gentleman does not allow me to kiss and tell.  ;) :P

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Being a gentleman does not allow me to kiss and tell.  ;) :P


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I'll kiss you and then you tell me. ...heh,heh... ;D :P


Howard

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I saw "Pam" the other day, Man she looked hot
I want her so badly, it's like a Dagger in my Heart, at least in the Afterlife, I hope for her to see the Real me, for at least me to be in her Circle of Friends.
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Man, she must really be one fine mamma jamma.  :P

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I saw "Pam" the other day, Man she looked hot
I want her so badly, it's like a Dagger in my Heart, at least in the Afterlife, I hope for her to see the Real me, for at least me to be in her Circle of Friends.
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I don't think it's fair to your current girlfriend if you still have strong emotions for "Pam"

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She has a type of Jennifer Lopez look to her.
Of course my current Girlfriend doesn't know about "Pam"
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Which one looks like J-Lo?  Pam, or the girlfriend?  :P

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I just hope to be with her in the Afterlife, for her to see the real me,
Why did God allow me to screw up ??
with "Pam"
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Maybe God wanted you toi have your current girlfriend instead.  :P

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Maybe God wanted you toi have your current girlfriend instead.  :P
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Lol. You've turned that one on it's head.  :D

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I don't think I'm insatiable, oh how I yearn for "Pam"
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Is that Palmofthe Handerson? ;D