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Subject: Girl Trouble
There's this girl I happen to like. And I want to ask her out, but I don't know what to say to her ??? Anybody have any advice?
I dont want to go up to her and make a fool of myself!
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There's this girl I happen to like. And I want to ask her out, but I don't know what to say to her ??? Anybody have any advice?
I dont want to go up to her and make a fool of myself!
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Well lets see....if you know her (like you two have talked and what not) ask her if she would like to go get a bite to eat sometime & maybe suggest a movie to her.
If you don't know her (never talked to her before), go up to her & introduce yourself & and try to start a conversation with her. Just make sure you act totally interested in what she has to say. Ask her questions about HER & the things SHE likes to do!
I don't know how old you are, but if you are of drinking age, you could always ask her to go to a nice place for cocktails---that always loosens me up! ;D
Good luck & let us know what happens, okay?
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Well lets see....if you know her (like you two have talked and what not) ask her if she would like to go get a bite to eat sometime & maybe suggest a movie to her.
If you don't know her (never talked to her before), go up to her & introduce yourself & and try to start a conversation with her. Just make sure you act totally interested in what she has to say. Ask her questions about HER & the things SHE likes to do!
I don't know how old you are, but if you are of drinking age, you could always ask her to go to a nice place for cocktails---that always loosens me up! ;D
Good luck & let us know what happens, okay?
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princess of pop. this may not be good advise. To have someone "act" like their listening is something I wouldn't advise. If Fred is truly interested in this girl he wouldn't have to act. I believe never act just be yourself. If you have to act then they are not the person for you. The rest of your advise is spot-on. Hopefully fred does return and advise us of his experience.
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princess of pop. this may not be good advise. To have someone "act" like their listening is something I wouldn't advise. If Fred is truly interested in this girl he wouldn't have to act. I believe never act just be yourself. If you have to act then they are not the person for you. The rest of your advise is spot-on. Hopefully fred does return and advise us of his experience.
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Hey, trust me...sometimes a man's gotta do, what a man's gotta do to get a date ;) I mean were not talking marriage here!
Modified to add: I noticed Hairspray edited my post up there. Did I slip in a cuss word without knowing? If I did, I am sorry, I didn't mean to. :-/
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To Fred:
Sometimes saying something unexpected and silly works well as an ice-breaker.
The first thought that came to mind was from the movie "Blast from The Past" where the dude says something along the lines of "I lost my congressional medal of honor. Have you seen it?". He also pretends to look for it for like 3 seconds. The women regarded it as funny and charming. He was set. ;)
To POP:
No worries. :-*
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Naw. You gotta be a soldier about it and draw first blood if you like her enough. It also wouldn't hurt to be yourself. Now, this could be construed as lame and pathetic advice because it can and does have the great potential to lead to horrible and embarrassing moments (although it makes for great anecdotes later on!). Reel her in with your own stratagems, not something that you had to conjure up and think about like an invasion plan. Think about it too much and some other hawk will sweep the chick away and if she doesn't respond to you, then it's her loss, you know?
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Naw. You gotta be a soldier about it and draw first blood if you like her enough. It also wouldn't hurt to be yourself. Now, this could be construed as lame and pathetic advise because it can and does have the great potential to lead to horrible and embarrassing moments (although it makes for great anecdotes later on!). Reel her in with your own stratagems, not something that you had to conjure up and think about like an invasion plan. Think about it too much and some other hawk will sweep the chick away and if she doesn't respond to you, then it's her loss, you know?
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Good philosophy. I agree wholeheartedly.
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This is the verb form ;) You should've used "advice". I'm sure even the Brits do that ;D
Just joshin' ya, I haven't been a turd to anyone lately 8)
I have been known to formulate elaborate battleplans involving flowers, skydiving midgets and stuffed bunnywunnies. I'd say I have about a 50% success rate ;D
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This is the verb form ;) You should've used "advice". I'm sure even the Brits do that ;D
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Touche! Twice corrected this week!
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Well I think she went away or something, cause I haven't seen her for awhile. In about a month or so there's a "date and dinner" thing comin up, I'll probably ask her then. ;)
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I have been known to formulate elaborate battleplans involving flowers, skydiving midgets and stuffed bunnywunnies. I'd say I have about a 50% success rate ;D
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I don't know about the skydiving midgets... :P But bring me lilacs, and I'll do almost anything for you. ;)
Fred: flowers and stuffed animals are nice...but only *after* you have actually managed to get a conversation going.
My suggestion would be to discuss something you have in common: maybe a class you have in common? or have you seen her watching a sports event?
Even something that sounds as lame as "gee, Mr. TooMuchHomework sure is a loser, huh?" is a great icebreaker. And if you can get her to laugh or smile...you're on your way.
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I don't know about the skydiving midgets... :P But bring me lilacs, and I'll do almost anything for you. ;)
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......Anything eh
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Even something simple like just bringing up the weather can start you on your way.... ;) And definitely finding something in common to talk about helps. ;D
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Make sure you express an honest interest in things that concern her! ;) And like Shaz says, common interests are VERY important!
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You give to few details. How do you know this woman? In what situations do you interact? Have you spoken to her? Beyond that, Shaz advice was good. Start casual, like a cup of coffee and conversation about likes and dislikes - music, hobbies etc. If all that goes well, you move on to more personal stuff. Be yourself and be cool. Don't try to impress, but don't sit under a bushle basket either. Be gentle, listen, and reveal youself. AND DON"T EYEBALL EVERY OTHER CHICK WHO WALKS BY.
Look at it this way, she fears rejection as much as you do, and wants to be cared for/admired/respected as a human being. Don't treat her as a potential conquest but as a person you want to know.
Can't think of a non-sexist funny ending, so I'll leave it to your imagination.
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AND DON"T EYEBALL EVERY OTHER CHICK WHO WALKS BY.
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This is very important, remember it always.
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AND DON"T EYEBALL EVERY OTHER CHICK WHO WALKS BY.
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This is very important, remember it always.
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I gotta totally agree with Dag on this one. There is nothing, and I mean NOTHING that can make a woman feel more unappreciated-and not a good idea when you are supposed to be trying to hook up with her. :-/
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The "balls out" approach works a bunch 8) I think girls love drunk guys HA ;D
Boy I need some water.
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Yeah, "Balls Out" approach works too. You could always just run up to her & lick the side of her face and just hope she doesn't slug you for it! ;)
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... and however your approach is, make sure you stand and walk upright, and dress sharp!
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Well thanks guy's, I'll remember your advice.